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AIBU?

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AIBU to be very pissed off at my friend

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Coldshoulders · 29/12/2018 22:39

Warn you now this is a rant lol.

So last night my old school pal came over for a few drinks, all is well. I started texting some guy I'm seeing and organising for him to come over once my friend had left. My friend got seemingly jealous of me texting and came over and took the phone out of my hand while I was using it and told me I'm not having my phone back until I stop texting this guy. My friend was drunk so I just left it and forgot about it thinking I will text this guy later once my friend leaves. An hour passed and my friend rang a taxi and left so I decided to text her to check she got home safe and I realised I had no phone. So after turning my full house upside down I realised my friend still had hold of my phone and must of taken it with her by mistake. Tried tracking the phone with my laptop but the phone was switched off. Next day my sister calls round and lends me her phone to contact my friend which I did and asked where my phone is. She doesn't have it! Search my house again knowing its not there and once again try tracking it with no luck. I sent a request to lock the phone also. Ring up the taxi firm no phone has been handed in. Got hold of the guy I was texting who thinks I have ghosted him and isn't speaking to me now. I don't have fb so I cant contact anyone through that. My friend apologises and says she will give me 100 on Monday. Had to order a replacement sim which wont arrive until later next week. AIBU to be really annoyed and pissed off? I didn't leave my house so neither should my phone, lost all my photos of my son aswell as the phone and the contacts. And now the guy I was seeing isn't speaking to me either. I just feel soo pissed off right now, top it off my mate is now out getting drunk with her other friends and her phone and I'm sat at home phoneless no way of contacting anyone and need to wait for her to pay for a replacement. I am really upset she even took my phone off me to start with. Arrrggghhh rant over x

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 23:14

Ano I found it all bizarre myself and she's due tomorrow with 100 she's not got the phone so there's not much else I can do. I'm livid tbh been a nightmare. I'm usually far from placid and tomorrow it will prob all come out when I see her face to face oh and I also forgot to mention she knocked my Yankee candle off my table and I have been ironing wax off my brand new carpet. I'm pretty fuming about it all won't be speaking to her again after this x

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Poodloo · 30/12/2018 23:17

Can you please give us an update after you've seen her?

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 23:22

Yes I certainly will do I'm keeping calm until I see her, then it will all come out haha x

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Thetruthwillout80 · 30/12/2018 23:27

Hi, OP.

She's a twat. And if you wanted to text someone when your friend was around, so be it. If you can't relax in your own home, where can you? And sending a text takes a minute, if that.

Funnily enough, I text when friends and family are around and it's never been a problem; likewise, for them! Why would it be..none of us are precious, thank God! As long as you aren't completely ignoring her??

I think she threw it out of the taxi window, when she was still tanked up, in a fit of rage...

What a weirdo and a cheeky cow!

Thetruthwillout80 · 30/12/2018 23:28

I'm fuming on your behalf..what a cheek!!

Strugglingtodomybest · 31/12/2018 09:54

So many people jumping on the OP and saying she's rude to be texting whilst her friend is there, and yet seem to be ignoring the fact the friend was also on her phone!

Weird isn't it? I wonder if people are getting a bit ratty over Christmas and just want an excuse to have a go at someone, because I really can't see that the OP has done anything wrong here.

Thetruthwillout80 · 01/01/2019 01:27

Hi, op. How did it go with friend?

Fluffyears · 01/01/2019 02:17

Did she give you the money?

Poodloo · 01/01/2019 16:20

Update please???

MartaHallard · 01/01/2019 16:29

In today's day and age, it's socially acceptable to look at your phone anywhere and everywhere.

Er, no, it really isn't.

Poodloo · 01/01/2019 17:03

I agree it isn't socially acceptable. I find it quite rude. It obviously depends on the situation but the context of this was awful. Op was messaging someone to come over when the friend had left which is rude to the friend who probably felt like she wasn't wanted there.

That doesn't change the fact that the friend is obviously out of order for losing the phone!

PattiStanger · 01/01/2019 17:28

I don't know why everyone's getting so pearl clutchy about sending texts when a friend is round. What's wrong with that, can't friends chat and send a few messages on a drunken night in?

I'd be pretty pissed off if a friend lost my phone but maybe it's turned up now.

Duck90 · 01/01/2019 23:38

PattiStanger - I think, for me - it is the texting arranging someone to come round, when quite clearly the current visitor is expected to have left. Basically being a less welcome person than the headkining act.

The lost phone - well that’s a separate issue! I hope it’s all a misunderstanding.

ginpink · 02/01/2019 07:11

You all sound incredibly childish.

Sounds like the loss of the phone was an accident. Yes it's annoying but if you're drunk and silly with friends (like everyone on occasion) this shit happens, get over it.

Start using Facebook, it's useful for situations like this.

Back up your phone and save the pics on your laptop.

The guy sounds like a total dick if this is enough to make him ignore you. That's not the friends fault, don't blame her for that part.

Notatallobvious · 02/01/2019 07:15

She clearly took it, otherwise she wouldn’t be offering to pay you £100! I would assume in her drunken state she took it and chucked it on the way home.

BaeBae · 02/01/2019 08:46

Awful. She’s not a friend, she has issues. The guy should get over himself too.

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Coldshoulders · 02/01/2019 13:35

So update my friend transferred 100 to my bank account so I actually didnt see her since the phone situation happened. I now have my replacement sim card and a back up phone. I should of had my photos etc backed up which was my own fault tbh. Not spoke to my friend since she transferred the money online I guess she still feels embarrassed about it. Sorted things with that guy and next time always have my photos backed up. Xx

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Thetruthwillout80 · 03/01/2019 06:30

I'm pleased it's sorted, OP. It's a shame you have lost irreplaceable photos, though.

I hope you give your friend a wide berth. She sounds v controlling.

I'm still bemused by the posters trying to somehow blame you for your friend's erratic/controlling/ behaviour 🤔

Pretty sure that, if it had been your partner that had come over, demanded you stopped texting, took your phone off you and refused to give it back, all in a drunken state; there would have been an echo chamber of "LTB".

Icantfindausername · 03/01/2019 07:54

@Thetruthwillout80 spot on there I thought the same! x

mumisalliam · 03/01/2019 08:13

Im a very judgmental person #andproud
But some of the comments on this thread are fucking ridiculous
Like laugh out loud ridiculous

And it's made me realise how much I hate the word shag 🤮

Hope you find your phone op and find a new man 😉😉

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