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AIBU to be very pissed off at my friend

120 replies

Coldshoulders · 29/12/2018 22:39

Warn you now this is a rant lol.

So last night my old school pal came over for a few drinks, all is well. I started texting some guy I'm seeing and organising for him to come over once my friend had left. My friend got seemingly jealous of me texting and came over and took the phone out of my hand while I was using it and told me I'm not having my phone back until I stop texting this guy. My friend was drunk so I just left it and forgot about it thinking I will text this guy later once my friend leaves. An hour passed and my friend rang a taxi and left so I decided to text her to check she got home safe and I realised I had no phone. So after turning my full house upside down I realised my friend still had hold of my phone and must of taken it with her by mistake. Tried tracking the phone with my laptop but the phone was switched off. Next day my sister calls round and lends me her phone to contact my friend which I did and asked where my phone is. She doesn't have it! Search my house again knowing its not there and once again try tracking it with no luck. I sent a request to lock the phone also. Ring up the taxi firm no phone has been handed in. Got hold of the guy I was texting who thinks I have ghosted him and isn't speaking to me now. I don't have fb so I cant contact anyone through that. My friend apologises and says she will give me 100 on Monday. Had to order a replacement sim which wont arrive until later next week. AIBU to be really annoyed and pissed off? I didn't leave my house so neither should my phone, lost all my photos of my son aswell as the phone and the contacts. And now the guy I was seeing isn't speaking to me either. I just feel soo pissed off right now, top it off my mate is now out getting drunk with her other friends and her phone and I'm sat at home phoneless no way of contacting anyone and need to wait for her to pay for a replacement. I am really upset she even took my phone off me to start with. Arrrggghhh rant over x

OP posts:
abbsisspartacus · 29/12/2018 23:38

Do you have internet at home? Your phone would have been connected so it would have shown up it's left the house 🤷‍♀️

purpleelk · 29/12/2018 23:51

Sounds like you were tipsy too, if you forgot your friend took your phone and can’t recall whether you had low battery or saw your friend turn it off in front of you

Poodloo · 30/12/2018 00:01

Weird situation all round. I once had a friend who'd planned to meet me for lunch at 1 in her hometown (1 hour for me to get there) to then find out she isn't eating because she has planned to have family over for a roast at 2. So basically making me drive 2 hour round trip to see her for less than one hour. We aren't friends anymore as this was one of many incidents. There's nothing worse than planning to meet someone and having them messaging someone else to meet once you leave.

HarrySnotter · 30/12/2018 00:02

Well if be pissed off if my friend was trying to arrange a shag while she was with me. It must be in your house somewhere surely, she wouldn't just steal your phone?

ID81241 · 30/12/2018 00:04

Have you done find my phone on android or iOS? That might help you locate it if there's still battery.

Crunchymum · 30/12/2018 00:07

As (only one, astute) PP picked up on, why is the guy being such as arse?

Do you think you attract horrible people OP?

Nanny0gg · 30/12/2018 00:08

But why were you on your phone all the time when your friend was visiting?

123qw · 30/12/2018 00:11

You should go on judge rinder

SuchAToDo · 30/12/2018 00:14

You shouldn't have let her take YOUR phone from you in YOUR house

You should have snatched it back off her and if she didn't like it, tell her to fuck off out of your house ,

Take the cushions (the actual seat cushions off the sofa and armchairs in your living room) and also look under them incase it's been dropped on floor and gone under/beside them..

Op let this be a lesson to you, don't let ANYONE friend or not, just take your belonging from you...if she is jealous of you using your phone then that's her issue to deal with, you are not a child and she has no right to confiscate your phone in your own home...

SuchAToDo · 30/12/2018 00:15

*and also look under the sofa and chairs

Bigonesmallone3 · 30/12/2018 00:15

Isn't it hilarious how it can be turned around.. like u deserve it coz u dared text someone in a friends presence..
If I was that friend and I was that pissed off u kept texting and ignoring me I would just leave...

U r not BU I would be fuming, because of this friend ur phone is missing along with potentially irreplaceable memories of ur DS

In regards to the guy.. 🖕🏻 if he's willing to cut contact over that he's not the one

Mum2OneTeen · 30/12/2018 00:23

Have you tried using another phone to ring your mobile? If it's hidden in your house, maybe you'll hear it. And if someone's found it (taxi company/lost property), maybe someone will answer it.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/12/2018 00:25

Either the guy is a total arse or she's messaged. Him something pretending to be you and utterly pissed him off.

Yeah you were being annoying andyou should have asked for it bacl/ made sure before she left you had it back but its not your fault she's lost it and it sucks.

Ps. If you know this guy so little he'll ghost you over a mix up, perhaps you don't know him well enough to invite him round to a house you share with your child #hoiksjudgypants

FabulouslyFab · 30/12/2018 00:26

Maybe she used your phone to contact the guy herself ?!??

Hogtini · 30/12/2018 00:29

Are you 12 years old?

PyongyangKipperbang · 30/12/2018 00:54

My sister and I would, and do, use our phones when we are together. Its fine we dont judge each other. Other people I wouldnt do it with, or if I had to (to reply to one of my children for example) then I apologise and explain before doing it. It really does depend on the friendship whether its ok or not and it sounds like normally this is ok withint the OPs friendship with this woman.

I also think that she remembers what she did with your phone and thats why she offered the cash straight away. If she knew she hadnt got it, or couldnt remember, then she would argue the point. My money is that she chucked it out of the cab window.

Is she single and searching?

Grannyannex · 30/12/2018 00:59

Habe you looked under the
Sofa?

BanditoShipman · 30/12/2018 01:07

I like the fact that the only person who really agrees with the Op, writes in the same dramz, hun, lol way 😂

Bigonesmallone3 · 30/12/2018 09:11

Only person
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🤔* ok love...

Original poster
Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 10:15

So if u read what i posted I said she took it from me while I was using it and refused to give it me back I did ask for it back but she wouldn't pass it to me and I didn't want any confrontations in my home with her while she was drunk. Yeh I may of been a twat to text that guy while my mate was there, doesn't really mean I should have my phone taken off me or taken out of my home, I didn't give permission for that. My couch is a corner reclining one that clips together I have unclipped the full couch and moved it out checked down the cushions underneath the couch behind it and underneath it plugged the recliner bits in and checked there nothing. We was only in the front room and she used the bathroom which I have also checked. Only just moved into my flat and it's only small don't have much stuff in here atm so it's strange I haven't found it I'm sure I would of if it was still here. Just looked again this morning still nothing. Used samsung find my phone and Google devices to try to locate it which it can't. Had people trying to ring it but it's off. I shouldn't of texted that guy but she was using her phone also so why's that a big deal. I'm pissed off my phone is gone, aswell as everything else on there photos etc. Really inconvient as obviously it's just been Xmas I can't afford a new phone and I shouldn't have to go without one either. I wouldn't dream of doing that to one of my friends even if I didn't agree with them texting while I was there. Searched the full flat aswell. Still pissed off with it. Yeah the guy is obviously not worth it but that was up to me to find out myself no one else and if I want to text in my own home then why not. Gunna check again today but I know it isn't here. Samsung s8 aswell 100 won't replace that or my photos gutted x

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 30/12/2018 10:18

and if I want to text in my own home then why not.

Absolutely.

Just don't invite friends over to watch.

Lougle · 30/12/2018 10:26

If it's a Samsung S8 then you've obviously got device insurance, though, haven't you? Because nobody would be foolish enough to have a very expensive phone like that and not have device insurance.

ReanimatedSGB · 30/12/2018 10:31

FFS. OP's friend is a spiteful cunt. She had no right to snatch the phone out of OP's hand and refuse to give it back. If she was annoyed, she should just have gone home. Horrible behaviour on her part.
I'm really sorry, OP. I hope it turns up.

purpleelk · 30/12/2018 10:36

I’ve never taken out “device insurance” on any of the many iPads and iPhones I’ve owned and I think those insurance policies are a complete rip off. I think the people who waste their money on those are “obviously” foolish.

Highginx · 30/12/2018 10:38

She was a dick. She’s put it in the bin.

But it’s not her fault about the bloke. That should’ve been a case of you explaining and him saying, Oh. k. LOL.