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AIBU to be very pissed off at my friend

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Coldshoulders · 29/12/2018 22:39

Warn you now this is a rant lol.

So last night my old school pal came over for a few drinks, all is well. I started texting some guy I'm seeing and organising for him to come over once my friend had left. My friend got seemingly jealous of me texting and came over and took the phone out of my hand while I was using it and told me I'm not having my phone back until I stop texting this guy. My friend was drunk so I just left it and forgot about it thinking I will text this guy later once my friend leaves. An hour passed and my friend rang a taxi and left so I decided to text her to check she got home safe and I realised I had no phone. So after turning my full house upside down I realised my friend still had hold of my phone and must of taken it with her by mistake. Tried tracking the phone with my laptop but the phone was switched off. Next day my sister calls round and lends me her phone to contact my friend which I did and asked where my phone is. She doesn't have it! Search my house again knowing its not there and once again try tracking it with no luck. I sent a request to lock the phone also. Ring up the taxi firm no phone has been handed in. Got hold of the guy I was texting who thinks I have ghosted him and isn't speaking to me now. I don't have fb so I cant contact anyone through that. My friend apologises and says she will give me 100 on Monday. Had to order a replacement sim which wont arrive until later next week. AIBU to be really annoyed and pissed off? I didn't leave my house so neither should my phone, lost all my photos of my son aswell as the phone and the contacts. And now the guy I was seeing isn't speaking to me either. I just feel soo pissed off right now, top it off my mate is now out getting drunk with her other friends and her phone and I'm sat at home phoneless no way of contacting anyone and need to wait for her to pay for a replacement. I am really upset she even took my phone off me to start with. Arrrggghhh rant over x

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Aaaahfuck · 30/12/2018 10:44

I think she's taken it or put it in the bin.

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 10:45

I didn't invite my friend over to watch me text whatsoever she was also using her phone it was getting late the convo had died down n i knew she would be leaving soon so I'm guessing that I deserved this to happen because I went to send a text? So this is my fault? Even though my friend was texting people and taking selfies herself? I wasn't just sat in the corner not speaking glued to my phone. I don't have insurance for the phone. The taxi company haven't found it my friend said she hasn't got it or her change from the taxi home, still switched off and still unable to locate until it's connected to a network. Can't contact any of my family or my friends lost all the photos of my son from Xmas day. I keep looking but it's day 3 now so I'm sure it would of turned up by now if it was here x

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Strugglingtodomybest · 30/12/2018 10:45

Yanbu, I would be hugely pissed off if one of my friends lost my phone!

pinkyredrose · 30/12/2018 10:47

How do you know the guy's ghosted you if you don't have your phone?

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 10:51

Because my sister came over and let me send him a message through her fb seen as though I don't have a fb account myself explained what happned he read the message and dodt respond. It's not even about the guy it's about the phone tbh the guy was just another added thing in the mix lol x

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Serialweightwatcher · 30/12/2018 10:51

I think the part that's your fault is that you should have taken it off her immediately, it's your phone and she has no right to take it from you, whatever you were doing ... confrontation is better than having to replace a phone. If you've searched everywhere possible then I'm sure she's taken it with her because there is no way I'd offer someone £100 to replace something if it was definitely left in your flat - she knows she took it! I'd be fuming

rainbowstardrops · 30/12/2018 10:53

She'd be my ex friend now

Windgate · 30/12/2018 10:54

Be assertive and tell her to return your phone immediately or you will report the theft to the police

DirtyDishes · 30/12/2018 11:21

How much was your phone worth?

The cynic in me thinks she has stolen it, and thinks £100 is a price worth paying if the phone is worth £500+

dontneedthedrama · 30/12/2018 11:32

Contact your network tell them lost phone and they will send you a replacement sim . I did that when my phone was stolen so no photos or numbers lost . Obviously you still Won't have a phone so understand your annoyed may just have to get the £100 off you friend to buy a phone.

Birdsgottafly · 30/12/2018 11:34

Tbh, its dangerous behaviour, if she was that drunk, after two days, she doesn't remember the end of the night. To get in a taxi, that isn't a local trusted firm, is risky.

I, like a pp, can't help feeling that she's got it, or gasnt bothered working out what happened.

If there's any hedges/shrubs outside, I'd look in them to.

The Toddlers I know have the amazing ability to completely lose things that turn up days later, though, even after a move-furniture, search. I think we lose that ability as Adults, until we are drunk.

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 11:48

Thanks all I have contacted my network but I'm with giffgaff so had to order a replacement sim am I right in thinking all my texts will come back through? I'm not sure how much the phone is worth coz my sister gave it to me when she bought a new one. Got hold of a replacement phone today just a standard samsung with 2mp camera hahaha. Will see tomorrow if my mate sorts me this money out n just have to wait for the new sim to arrive. Been a real pain in the arse it has. I should of taken my phone back off her looking back now i know I should. It was my local taxi firm that we used and they said nothing has been handed in. My sister also put a post on fb offering a cash reward for anyone who may of found the phone but no responses. So just the waiting game now. Fuck that guy aswell obv not worth it. My friend didn't seem that bothered really just offered me some money she has a iPhone x so don't think she took mine on purpose but still it's happened. The pissed off mood is lifting now after a good rant on mumsnet ha x

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Coldshoulders · 30/12/2018 11:49

Local taxi that she used* I didn't leave the house

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Seniorcitizen1 · 30/12/2018 11:53

You invite a guest over and then spend time texting someone else? Call me old fashioned but you were incredibly rude and a terrible host - if I was her I would never come back until you learned some manners. As for your phone going missing - karma

dustarr73 · 30/12/2018 11:56

@Seniorcitizen1 did you not read the guest was also on her phone.

I would google the price of a 2nd hand phone and ask for that price.Not the price she is offering.

saffkey1 · 30/12/2018 11:58

Hahahahaha!

Stormy76 · 30/12/2018 12:04

Your friend is a dick, I can't believe that people think it's ok for her to get pissy arsed drunk in your place, sit on her phone ignoring you and then when you get your phone out to send a message she takes it off you, gets nasty enough for you to back off in your own home and not take your phone back!!! She then loses/steals it but yknow it's your own fault for sending a text in your own home whilst dealing a rude and mean drunk.

She is an arse, you did nothing wrong and I would go NC with her because of this.

UnicornSlaughters · 30/12/2018 12:06

Did you check your bin? Inside bin and outside rubbish bin? Recycling bins? Any shrubs and bushes?

SaucyJack · 30/12/2018 12:07

“My friend didn't seem that bothered really“

You mean your ex friend, obviously.

Nice, normal people don’t steal their friends’ phones out of spite.

If she’d just wanted you to put the phone down briefly to listen to her conversation, then she’d have taken it off of you and put it on the bookcase/coffee table/whatevs next to her, and would have been there safe and sound the next morning.

PotatoesDieInHotCars · 30/12/2018 12:14

Check Google Photos online using the google account linked to your phone. Hopefully your photos were backed up there.

Sorry about your phone. If your friend took it I doubt she'll ever admit it now.

otterturk · 30/12/2018 12:15

You were rude. It's just a phone. Maybe you won't be so rude on future,

DirtyDishes · 30/12/2018 12:18

All these people saying the OP effectively deserved it as she was using her phone - good lord! In today's day and age, it's socially acceptable to look at your phone anywhere and everywhere.

It's no excuse for the friend to take someone else's possession and then lose it!

BookMeOnTheSudExpress · 30/12/2018 12:20

Don't understand how "last night" tallies with "next day". Surely you mean "this morning"
And yes, very rude to be texting your bloke when you have a friend round

WhatsUpHun · 30/12/2018 12:24

so you are managing to contact people on mumsnet, so you do have a mode of communication, so why dont you set up another form of contact? email, facebook, twitter, others are available?

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/12/2018 12:28

I imagine she owes you minimum £250 for the phone. She needs to try a little harder to remember what happened or give you more money.

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