To be jealous of BF's cousin?

[PrincessPlummy]

My BF of about year is halfway across the world for Xmas with his family. We had a bit of a rough patch before he left, although we left things on a positive note. The thing is he's got really close to a (female) 2nd cousin who he didn't know well before. He keeps mentioning how great she is, and I've seen social media pics - she is absolutely stunning (a lot more beautiful than me tbh).

They've been spending one on one time together, including when drunk, and he's also been acting as a shoulder to cry on her during relationship troubles. I know it's ridiculous but I feel a bit threatened, and I keep getting insecure that maybe he has feelings for her or prefers her to me. I think I feel worse because his only friends back home are other men. AIBU in feeling this way?

I think that's more likely the scenario has been heightened in your head than it is to have happened

It wouldn’t officially be incest and it isn’t illegal for them to have sex. But I think that it is pretty taboo to shag your cousin, what would his/her family think??

Some of you just love to flaunt your ignorance. Incest? That’s illegal in the UK and second cousin marriage is not illegal here and does happen (if not often) among the white majority population. Even first cousin marriage isn’t illegal, and anyone who doesn’t know that it is common in some communities is probably quite insular.

Oh good grief.... incest my arse!

OP, I think you were mistaken to mention the relationship between them as clearly some are unable to understand of move past that. The fact is that yes he does seem very attracted to another woman and has a bad case of mentionitis.

It would probably burn out once he came home but the fact that he is all over her like a rash suggests that he could maybe do it again and that would bother me a lot.

It does sound as if he is attracted to her possibly in a sexual way. It doesn’t mean something will go on. The attractiveness could have a taboo side to it or it may be a quasi sisterly affection. However there is nothing illegal or immoral about them having a relationship so I’d be looking into this carefully.

I am very insecure and it does affect my relationship more than I would like. DH does have friends from work he mentions and talks to about things I am uninterested it (cars and motorbikes mostly) and they are female.
He's even put on their YouTube blog, which isn't really up to much and just accentuates how common our accent is 😂
But it does make me insecure, even though I know he wouldn't do anything. This is because of how I feel about me, not how I feel about I us.
I have put on a lot of weight, then had one baby, now I'm pregnant with number 2. I feel fat, bloated, gassy, just overall not good about myself. But our relationship is solid (even though we argue) and I know the insecurities are all on me.
I've been learning to seperate how I feel about me with my feelings about us. As you say, you are insecure and you think she's stunning. If it was a man you wouldn't care (trust me, I know that's not how it works) but he hasn't really given you a reason not to trust him.

I wouldn’t worry about it (unless bf and cousin are from Somerset)

PyongyangKipperbang Do you think the mentionitis likely means he is attracted to her? (and the fact she's gorgeous!)

Mummyoflittledragon Yeah I will def be observing closely but equally if he meets up with her I'm not sure what I can do her - they are cousins so it's technically legitimate?