To be sick and tired of my niece calling me fat?

[SydneyFrexkle]

She’s almost 8 and always makes comments about how big I am, how big my stomach is etc ... I’m a size 10/12.

I always pull her up on it and say how rude it is. But she still does it.

Aibu to think at 8 she should know not to say mean things?

My sister is extremely weight conscious (had an ED when she was at uni) and is always asking for opinions on her own body, looking me up and down in comparison etc. So it came as no surprise that when my niece was about the same age as yours she also started making body related comments to me. I'm also about a 10/12 and occasionally I felt a bit hurt and judged, but also knew it was coming as a result directly from then result of my sister's own insecurities, so chose not to engage with it too much.

I never really considered he could be autistic. He's very ironic, loves imaginative play and very loving. I looked up the website link and the only thing is the not knowing when he's inappropriate- could I get a gp to take me seriously given the absence of other indicators?

I’m a 12 and am certainly carrying a fair bit of heft, to be polite. So no, it may well not be teeny tiny.

However, you’re niece clearly hasn’t been taught that you don’t comment on other people’s appearance, or that if you can’t think of anything nice to say you don’t say anything at all.

Why haven’t you pulled her up on this?

I don't think name calling back (either directly or passive aggressively) is the answer at all. How is that going to teach her she shouldn't say these things if an adult says them to her? It's a confusing message.

I would be much firmer on how rude it is to comment on someone's personal appearance in a critical way and that you won't allow it. Stick to the point you want to make.

She is rude, she is cruel and she is nasty. She is obviously parroting somebody.... I would act all concerned for her and say "Darling, I know how much it hurts to be called fat all the time, but I am not fat. Who is calling you fat all the time, so we can deal with this together? You're obviously hearing this somewhere...."
(Still, bet it's her parents saying it about you - sorry.)

She's probably jealous

shes 8 so if she really is jealous of her aunt's appearance that's extremely concerning and her parents need to be spoken to and warned about her unhealthy obsession with appearance/weight.
However I very much doubt a she is jealous.

I used to say things like this to my mum who really was quite overweight. They weren't my own thoughts though they came from my gran who often said to me. I wish your mum would loose some weight. And your mum won't be healthy at that size.
She used to actively encourage me to say these things to my mum. I very much regret this now but as a child was not aware of how hurtful it was.

Why haven’t you pulled her up on this?

The OP says that she always does, and her niece still does it.