to wish my mother would talk normally?

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Every sentence has some twee, often made-up word in it.

“Pass me the dooda” instead of “pass me that plate”.

“Would you like a sploosh of tea?” instead of “would you like a tea?”

“be careful in case the fridge makes an avalanche” instead of “the fridge is full so be careful”.

It just makes me cringe. It’s impossible to talk to her normally. I know we all have our own little mannerisms but it’s just constant and grating. The thing is that she’s so grumpy and angry most of the time that it just doesn’t go with her personality at all which makes it more annoying.

I'll come back later and tell you funny things my later mother in law said, bless her.

Are you sure it's not the start of dementia? Dementia creeps in very very slowly so for a decade or so you might not notice much. It doesn't suddenly just happen overnight.
Just the words thing. Suddenly cooking things differently every so often. Denying she ever liked a food she used to always eat. etc.
The fridge 'making an avalanche' definitely sounds like someone who is seeing imagery in their head but not finding the usual words like 'everything will fall out'.

blue where did I say I roll my eyes? If she is uncomfortable, she has been since I was a child.

seaweed rtft

My former work colleague was a bit like like this. One particular nonsense word got substituted for practically anything and everything and you were supposed to know what it meant in that particular context. "Pass the doobery", "I'll be in the doobery" , "where's the doobery?" There were a few other similar words she used as alternatives. She hardly ever used a noun! Very annoying.

I'm 36 and I come out with odd words and phrases or use words/ phrases in a different context to when I'm meant to. But I often forget words and do the describing of imagery because I can't find the correct word. I have anxiety, adhd, asd and cfs/m.e and fibromyalgia; my poor brain is in a constant state of overwhelm and overworkedness.

Sometimes me and my family use weird words or descriptions etc because we ARE weird and a bit different. It runs down through several generations.

But there's also childish things about my mum, particularly, which have caused her to be picked on over the years and which even I have been embarrassed of, myself. Only a few times have I ever mentioned anything to my mum. The rest of the time I try and ignore it.

If she spoke to me constantly like yours does then I do think I'd be cross - specially if she seemed to use it as a means of not having meaningful conversation.

A good friend of mine who I've recently lost touch with, doesn't discuss his emotions properly and avoids meaningful conversations - with a mixture of going silent or using funny words and phrases. He also uses a funny voice. I've always found it endearing, but I've always been sad that he can't express his real feelings. There have been times he's really wanted to but has clammed up and returned to the strange phrases and voice.

I don't know what's going on with your mother. It would certainly piss me off at the level she's doing it at. But it sounds like there's something else going on with her. Like she's hiding something or avoiding deep communication.

I had to look up neologism. But it makes sense now. Neologism can be a bit of fun but at the level your mum does it, I don't see it being fun, but making people wince after a while.

YANBU, but at the same time she's every right to be that way. No advice I'm afraid. Perhaps just do it back but with rude words - "mother, do you fancy a defecation of coffee", or something 😂 don't let her read A Clockwork Orange whatever you do.

I say thing a lot. It's great because absolutely everything is a thing. I get such bad brain fog

Op you're sniping and sneaking about her every time she pops out of the room to random internet people.

Just leave.

And you aren't plain speaking. You're combatative and aggressive. You're treating this thread like a gladitorial arena.

Well, don't chill. Take everyone on. Stay at your mum's and let her wind you up. Don't make your excuses and leave. Keep sniping about this woman that so annoys you that you'd happily share with people who don't really give a shit. This woman you say is socially challenged.

Happy Christmas!

Snarking not sneaking.

YNBU this sounds annoying.

And your mum can't really feel like you're engaging with her in the moment as you're constantly checking your phone to defend you're righteous indignation to those of us less enraged by the foibles and idiosyncrasies of people we have relationships with. You're not making things any easier for your mum trying to have a breezy conversation with a daughter who is distracted by her phone so frequently.

rock it’s an internet thread. Of course I’ll reply to people. Speaking of gladitorial, give your own message a read.

Spending two hours in a two week visit on my phone? Somehow unacceptable these days? She’s not even here!

Is she Miranda's mum?

OP, are you a new poster?

I do this a bit myself OP.

I’ve a habit of saying “indubitably” to things at the moment, for instance.

I only realise when DP mentions it and says it’s really annoying, then I can pull myself together and stop myself for a few days. It does creep back again though and I’ll be saying something else twatty in a week or two.

OP, your post has reminded me of the silly expressions DM and I used to use to each other. Used to drive DSis mad.

And probably make her try even harder to be acceptable. I can almost feel her discomfort

This is getting borderline farcical now.

go home then who forced u to go somwhere u dont want to be

rocks right youre not plain talking youre just argumentative

What if one of the funny and endearing things she did was call vulvas vaginas. Would that make a difference?

I quite like it when people use language in interesting fanciful ways.

You sound like a plain speaking, no nonsense, say it like it is kind of person OP. I think you need to chill a bit. You are not the language police.

To the people on this thread slating the OP seriously never get irritated with people? Even people you love? And need a bit of a rant every now and then?

My mum does it too! And when using perfectly normal phrases she for some reason says "as I call it", as if the widely used thing she just said is unique to her, unlike the weird things she says all the time but never acknowledges are unusual...

Mine does this too, I feel your pain.

Her latest thing is to start a sentence and then get to the punchline and mouth it so it's impossible to hear or understand what she is saying. I would understand if it was sensitive information and really needs to be in hushed tones, however she will do it even if she's talking about making a cup of tea - fucking infuriating.

I also have to put up with: doodah, wotship, diddly doo, thingy, thingymajiggy, flobbery bobbery, loopyloosie - and a host of other hideous ditties.

Your mother sounds a bit of a twit tbh, and if she were anyone else I assume you wouldn't spend any time at all with her.

I love my mum, but don't necessarily like her all that much. Haven't seen her for a number of years (life on the other side of the world) and only occasionally miss her. TBH I probably miss the idea of her more than her. She was never a particularly brilliant mum.

Why is it so difficult for some people to comprehend that not all mothers and daughters have a loving, close relationship?

To the people on this thread slating the OP seriously never get irritated with people?

I am wondering if they are people who also talk in this ridiculous way and think it's somehow attractive or funny? It really isn't.