to wish my mother would talk normally?

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Every sentence has some twee, often made-up word in it.

“Pass me the dooda” instead of “pass me that plate”.

“Would you like a sploosh of tea?” instead of “would you like a tea?”

“be careful in case the fridge makes an avalanche” instead of “the fridge is full so be careful”.

It just makes me cringe. It’s impossible to talk to her normally. I know we all have our own little mannerisms but it’s just constant and grating. The thing is that she’s so grumpy and angry most of the time that it just doesn’t go with her personality at all which makes it more annoying.

That's a bit like how I talk. Now I'm worried that I annoy everyone! I don't mean to be twee, I just enjoy language and being playful with words.

lol at some of these.

No she doesn’t have dementia, she’s always done this.

No, I won’t miss it when she’s gone. Other things, yes, this, no.

Pretty sure you can complain about someone’s irritating behaviours and not be ‘a dick’ but maybe the rest of you are more saintly than me.

She just came in and said ‘can I get a quick squish of the hoover’.

I mean, it doesn’t even make sense.

Fine if it wouldn’t annoy you, but it’s literally every sentence so it does start to get annoying because I can’t work out what she even means at times. I think she does it to try to be funny and it’s just not and it actually just makes it really hard to talk to her cos she always seems ‘on’ rather than just speaking to me normally.

You sound intolerant. Unless you actually don't like her at all, trust me, you'll miss it when she's gone.

maggie if it’s actually playful and funny, it’s
one thing but it’s not. It’s just inserting random words into setneces.

One second ago: “this plant is just racing away.” She meant it’s growing quickly. So why not just say that?

ken is there some reason you think you know me better than I know myself?

I see her once a year and between those times I don’t miss her. So no, I doubt I’ll miss it when she’s gone.

Fuck's sake it didn't take long for the 'you'll miss her when she's dead' gang to arrive.

YANBU op. My dm mispronounces celebrities' names to be contrary. So irritating but I try to ignore it because I figure I'll be annoying my dc's one day (if I'm not already).

racing away sounds apt for a plant.
if you only see each other once a year could it be nerves?

christine I’d never bring it up.

The reason I hate it is that I think she uses it as a defence to avoid anyone ever actually having a meaningful conversation with her. She’d rather just say random sentences about ‘the flippy flappy birdies’ or ‘the hooglyshoogly carpet’ than ever have an actual conversation.

Fair enough if you would find that endearing or adorable. When your mother has no actual interest in adult conversations I wonder if you’d say the same.

YANBU at all!

My grandmother had the annoying habit of referring to things as simply "thing". She didn't have dementia. Somewhat ironically, she was in fact a crossword champion, silly woman. It made her near unintelligible when whatever message she was trying to convey included several subjects and/or objects. And it was utterly infuriating.

I very much still miss her - I most certainly don't miss her "thing" thing.

I do it sometimes. But then again I'm old enough to remember Nellie Pickersgill

DD1 went off to university and came back very educated/posh and is now ashamed of me and would hide me away if she could - especially when she invites her equally posh/educated friends round for one of her gatherings. I have no airs or frills and I am mostly a nice person and won't be changing into the mum my DD thinks I should be anytime soon. And until she gets her own home she will just have to grin and bear it.

gary as I said above, she’s done this my whole life. Part of it is anxiety I think (she has poor social skills generally).

I’m not trying to be horrible about her but it starts to get trying after days of no adult conversation.

not I’m not ashamed of her at all, will happily introduce her to anyone, I don’t care if she says weird stuff in front of people, whatever. I’m not friends with judegmental people.

My mother pronounces croissants as "cross aunties" it drives me insane.

She thinks its's funny.

A person's idiosyncrasies can often become emblematic of the person, so if a person irritates us the focus of this irritation will often be those idiosyncrasies

By the same token if we find a person very likeable then their idiosyncrasies (which have come to represent the person in our minds) will often be the things that we particularly focus on when we think about how much we like them.

forty what is wrong with calling people aunty and uncle this is what i was taught to do as a child

ffs some people are so nitpicky

op dont talk to her -what do u want from this

Can I complain and say I don't find you saying " would you like a tea" acceptableat all, people saying that makes myjaw tense. It's would you like a cup of tea.

Your mother's mannerisms wouldn't bother me at all.

Forty I was born in the 60's andall my parents friends were Aunty and Uncle to me, it was seen as the respectable thing to call them.

gabs just having a moan. You never do, I suppose?

I’m in her house so not talking to her isn’t really an option.

My teenage kids say I say daft things. I’m thinking is this me?

theory so ‘a tea’ is irritating but ‘the flobbity blob is on the thingameedooda’ is chill with you? K.

I know. I was brought up in the 70s too. Always thought it daft. Why explain to kids what an aunt or uncle is and then confuse them?

My Mum says wotsit to substitute a word she can't think of also has a habit of telling others exactly what she thinks of them but she's my Mum she's always been the same and wouldn't want her any different, well maybe when she's singing and dancing in public I cringe a bit but then that's her character I spose and she's enjoying herself so could be worse

😂 Did you just K me like my teenage kids do? That's hilarious.

theory is it?

Yes, yes it is. I don't use teen text speak so my me it's very funny (I'm assuming you're not 20 or younger).

9 posts before we got the you'll miss her when she's dead post. It's a Christmas miracle! Some people won't miss their mothers when they die, ye know.