to wish my mother would talk normally?

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Every sentence has some twee, often made-up word in it.

“Pass me the dooda” instead of “pass me that plate”.

“Would you like a sploosh of tea?” instead of “would you like a tea?”

“be careful in case the fridge makes an avalanche” instead of “the fridge is full so be careful”.

It just makes me cringe. It’s impossible to talk to her normally. I know we all have our own little mannerisms but it’s just constant and grating. The thing is that she’s so grumpy and angry most of the time that it just doesn’t go with her personality at all which makes it more annoying.

My 20yr old says some weird things and calls me sweetie it's so annoying but she'll call me Mum if she wants something the cheeky madam and where did "woke" come from fgs

About the criticising not the mannerisms

Sorry, I find is chill with you? K. much more irritating than anything your mother says!

You dont like your mother and I would imagine that anything she said would irritate you. You seem very angry with her.

Is there a conversation you want to have with her that she is avoiding? My guess is she is trying to be "bright and breezy" (and entertain herself in the process" in order to avoid your rage at her.

is chill with you? K

Now that sounds like an irritating new language to me and I would find it immensely annoying.

My grandmothers both used to use alternative or made-up words if they couldn't quite remember the word they needed at the time. eg, thingummy-bob, whatsit, whatchacallit, etc. One grandmother could never remember anyone's names, and would go through the entire family (including the dog) before hitting on the right one. In the end she just called everyone Oz, as it was easier. We all knew who she meant, and found it quite endearing and amusing.

meangirls I do but she is pretty much unable to, I think. And sometimes it’s not worth the massive shouting session that follows.

pink so why is it ok for you to find my speech irritating but not for me to find my mother’s speech irritating?

Iam so you don't like me criticising your use of incorrect or teen language but you think it's ok to criticise your mother's? KK 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cut her some slack. Why is she grumpy and angry? - do you know why? Is there anything to be done about that?

My Dad used to use words like "doodah" and eventually we realised it was because he was struggling to find the right words.

We are all different. Maybe there are some things that you do/say that get on her wick too!

Erm where did I say you can't find your mother's speech irritating? You sound as annoying as each other to be honest!

theory I don’t mind if you criticise it, I just found it odd.

mis read the thread, already answered all of your questions.

shes got anxiety u dont get on just dont visit

one minute she knows shes doing it then i dont think shes aware of it

so which is it

YANBU to get irritated by twee language. Just start a thread about “hubs” “holibobs” “sleeps till Xmas” etc etc and plenty of MNers will fall over themselves to agree.

My exh had loads of phrases that he used and tried convincing us that they were generally used phrases - but I'd never heard any of them!

Of his favourites was, "what time is it?" "Knocking on the door of 11 o'clock" meaning anything between 10.45 and 11. That used to irk me!

But, other than that, I can't get worked up by someone's idiolect.

You'd hate it in our house...

gabs are you generally this aggressive?

I think she does it deliberately but isn’t aware that it’s not normal.

HTH

This thread is hilarious.

OP: I find my DM's twee language irritating.
MN: How dare you! You don't know how good you have it, some people's mothers are MUTE!

Elsewhere on MN: Twee language is irritating, AIBU:
Everyone else: YANBU!!!!

It's weird how threads go, sometimes.

mad I don’t mind the odd idiosyncrasy, it’s when it’s every single word/sentence having to be replaced with something literally no one else says.

kite I must be a mashochist because I’m sort of enjoying it.

Did you read my last sentence!?

‘Racing away’ isn’t a nonsense term your mum invented. It’s a widely used phrase to describe a plant that’s growing well.

Actually, this sounds more like neologism than word-finding difficulty. So for those wanting to hand out serious and enduring psychiatric diagnosis via a short post on the internet, you might as well go with schizophrenia. Or, you know, just accept that people have quirks which are human in nature and don't need medicalised

OP, you're allowed to find this irritating!

KiteMarked

Indeed!

mis uh, yes?

wis maybe it is but combined with every other sentence she has said all day being utter nonsense, is it any wonder I barely understand which words are real and which aren’t.

ravi I actually needed to hear that, thank you.

we generally don’t get on.
I think that's the root of the problem. It sounds like you resent her in general and would like to have a proper conversation with her, maybe about some unpleasant stuff, but can't, and this makes you very angry. Twee language can be annoying to some people, but if you really like someone you either find it cute or at least accept it.
It sounds like you need to focus on your own feelings instead of raging at your mother.