Should DD (14) give up her room for MIL over Christmas?

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DP and I have a two year old and I have 3 DC from previous marriage.

When DP’s DM comes to stay DD sleeps on with her two younger brothers. They have a very large room so it’s not cramped - but not ideal, she doesn’t really like sharing with them.

Our 2 year old has his own room with a trundle bed, but dd probably wouldn’t want to sleep in there either.

Should DP’s mum sleep in with 2 year old or should DD give up her room for DP’s mum?

2yo in with you in blow up bed or travel cot, MIL in 2yo’s room.

Why not put the 2 year old with the brothers?

Can the 2 year old not bunk in with you on a little bed and MIL or DD sleeps in 2 year old’s room?

Yes or 2yo in with brothers.

Move the 2 year old in to you and give MIL that room. Otherwise yes, dd should move.

It would be unreasonable to expect the 12 year old to move and not the 2 year old.

2 year old in with you, mil has own room

If that won't work for whatever reason then yes, 14 yr old gives up her room with free access to yours for changing etc if she can't get privacy elsewhere

2 year old goes in your room or with brothers

Mil goes in 2 year olds room.

I agree that 2 year old should sleep with you.

Move 2 year old in with brothers or with you. Then add a guest bed into 2 year olds room for MIL then everyone should be happy. 2 year old won’t care.

Yes DD gets toddler's room and toddler goes in with you or the bigger boys.

MiL shouldn't have to share with a child.

No, move the 2 year old. I would never make older children give up their room for guests.

I think 14 is too old to be sharing with younger brothers. I'm not surprised she doesn't like it!
How long will MIL be staying? Ideally I think the youngest should move, either in with his brothers or in with you. Or could MIL sleep downstairs on a sofa bed etc?

2 year old should be moved over a 14 year old!

I don't understand why you'd move 14 year old DD when you could move the 2 year old in with his brothers or with you?

One of those rare unanimous threads on AIBU...

Yes. Move the 2 year old.

Thanks all, I’m not sure two year old will settle in a new room full of new toys, I can imagine he’ll be up and out of bed in minutes. He also goes to sleep an hour earlier than his older brothers, they’ll wake him up when they go to sleep.

He may settle in our room but he’s a massive fidget and will likely get up and wander about!

I agree two year old is easiest to move but if that would disrupt him too much then yes, dd should move.

We have a houseful over Xmas and ds has to give up his room. All the rooms will have people in them and in his quest to have his own space he said he'd sleep in the kitchen until I reminded him that the guest dog would be in there

He should be in with you.

Yep, evict the two year old. They never sleep at Christmas no matter what the room/set up!

Ok then. So you go in with the boys, your DP shares with the 2yo, and you give MIL your room. I don’t think it’s fair to ask your 14yo to give up her room and share with 2 younger brothers when it’s not even her GM.

2 year old needs moving

Your 14 year old shouldn’t have to pander to a 2 year old because “he doesn’t sleep well if he moves”

Remove the toys if need be

No I wouldn’t ask her to give up her room. Either your MIL is in with the 2 yo or the 2 yo is in with you.