Is this rude guest behaviour?

[quepoe]

Warning - this is trivial.

Husband's family are coming to us for Christmas for the first time. SIL text me a few weeks ago and asked should she bring dessert, which was appreciated, but they are travelling a fair distance so I declined the offer and asked what sort of thing would they like.

SIL said family favourites were sticky toffee pudding and pavlova. So it was agreed I'd make those and today I got all the necessary ingredients to make them.

Husband gets a text tonight from SIL saying she has a shop bought sticky toffee pudding and pavlova to bring!

My take on that is that it's rather rude, and basically saying she doesn't trust my cooking!! My husbands point of view is that she just wants to help out. I don't see it as helpful as it's not what we agreed.

You aren’t being over sensitive, that’s a favourite thing dh’s say to avoid having to stick up for their wives!! (I may be projecting here )

You know your sil, so you know if she is clumsily trying to be helpful or just being a knob.

My own in laws are the true masters of passive aggressive manipulation. Honestly, they have all yours beat. I will be slaving like Cinderella to meet with their expectations of being made to feel special and will be manoeuvred into thanking them for the privilege!! I can see it happening yet don’t have the same level of skill to get myself out!

Make that pavlova if it’s what you wanted to do.

She isn't psychic and didn't know that you were planning to make those puddings

For Fuck's Sake. How many times? The OP says 'it was agreed I'd make those'.

I popped in to see my stepmum at the family business and found her chatting to some regular customers. She introduced them as such and such bloke and his mother. “I’m not his mother, I’m his partner” said the woman, hugely offended. My poor stepmum’s face... I just excused myself and left her to deal with it

Wrong thread - now that’s embarrassing

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