To think DH is really controlling with money

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Me and DH like having a movie night in on a Sunday. Dd goes to bed at 7pm so we're usually able to watch about 2 movies with some popcorn as some nice alone time. We have sky but their prices for dvds are more expensive then actually buying the dvd from a shop. Over some time I built up quite a collection (all my dvds because I'm the only one that paid for them) and I said to DH I was considering selling them all because we hardly ever watch the same dvd again, unless it's on tv or we really liked it.

The next day DH went to CeX to sell the dvds. We got quite a bit for it and I said we could split the money in half. He then moaned about having to split the money because my uncle gave me £50 in a Christmas card and he thought it was unfair I was going to have more money than him

AIBU to think this is really jealous and controlling behaviour? He's actually refusing to give me the money. Its not like we're poor either. I don't even know what he has in his bank and I'm sure he doesn't know what's in mine, so how does he know I even have more than him??

I'm probably overreacting but I'm so annoyed at this!! I'm not even bothered about the money, if he really wanted the money he could of kept it but it's all this jealousy I'm sick of. I want to have a joint bank account, I don't even like this whole having to split the money etc, but he's so hell bent on having more money than me!

I can't believe you offered to half the money for the dvds. He will probably say he did all the hard work selling them so should keep all proceeds.

OP are you OK?

It upsets me when people post things like "I am going to... tell him to stop this behaviour or I will leave him" then we don't hear from them any more. I really hope that you are safe and well.

update ?

Sorry for the lack of update

I spoke to him about it and he said he would change and he's sorry. He had a sulk the following day but I ignored it. So far so good. He hasn't said or done anything remotely controlling so far. I hope that this is it now!

Thank you everyone for your help

He said he was sorry then the next day went into a sulk? Great that you ignored it, but you’re wrong to say he hasn’t done anything remotely controlling so far, because that’s exactly what sulking is - controlling you by teaching you what reaction you’ll get for stepping out of line.

Keep your wits about you.

Has he given you the money though? If his apology allows him to get away with stealing from you, then it's not worth much.

Wow that’s out of order! The money from the dvds is all yours. The money from your uncle is a gift to you and therefore all yours. His thinking is completely warped!

This is financial abuse!

Your eyes have been opened to the finacially abusive nature of your relationship. How did your talk go?

If you had the 'discussion' but don't feel you made any headway, then that would not be unusual. Nor would it be unusual to have wondered whether to leave it until you'd got Christmas out of the way.

If you need any RL moral support could you ask your uncle for advice?

Wishing you all the best for 2019.

Sorry didn't see the update if that was your post OP, under a different name.

A sulk??? Been called out on shitty behaviour and didn't like it, more like.