‘Equality’ in relationship AIBU

[BaeBae]

My boyfriend says we are equal financially. He takes home 48k after tax and pays £8k maintenance a year to ex. He lives in a 4 bed detached house and drives a new BMW 5 series. I earn £23k (9k salary, the rest maintenance from my ex and benefits). I have 2 kids to support and a mortgage. He wants us to pay equal share for holidays and weekends away and moans about his credit card bill (which he pays off in full every month) when I can’t. We don’t live together and I ask for no financial help from him ever. He’s just started to moan about how I’m ‘ ungrateful’ as I don’t give him enough thanks for the things he does for me... like feeding me when I go to his house every other weekend. He comes to me once a week and I feed him etc. Is this just a high maintenance moaner of a man or AIBU? I’m not sure I can afford to be in a relationship if the man wants 50/50 equality and I have so little spare cash! Is this the way of the world now?

The best Xmas present you can give to yourself is to end this relationship and give yourself some freedom.

Jesus any more Christmases with him will be shit! You have your kids, your family, why isn't that enough? You don't need this fuckwit in your life! What a total cunt he is.

He's not about equality, he's about what's in it for him, that's why he's divorced, that's why none of his relationships last, because he's a tight cockwomble.

Set yourself free for Xmas! Fuck him off. Every second you waste on this twat you could have spent on your kids.

Please tell me you haven't ironed any more of his clothes!

Get rid of him. You don't even owe him face-to-face, you owe him nothing. 'This relationship no longer works for me. We're not compatible and I want to focus on other things. So I'm ending it with this. It's not negotiable or up for discussion. I no longer want you in my life or contact with you. Goodbye.'

And that's it. Block him.

And don't date again until you've done some serious exploration on yourself because you deserve so much more.

Get rid of him. I wonder why he split with his ex. Mean that’s why I’m guessing.
He’s not kind-you should still be I’m the honeymoon phase after this amount of time.

As a general rule, the higher earner either has to subsidise the lower earner or accept a standard of living at the level the lower earner can afford. Those are the choices. It can't work otherwise. But tbh if a partner is so tight they're complaining about the cost of feeding you, I wouldn't see much point in carrying on. That was clear even before the updates.

I can understand how you got sucked into this.

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