But it’s not that I want to do these things, he suggests holidays but wants a certain standard... for example, I just had a significant birthday, he said he’d take me away on hols... he wanted a nice apartment- I suggested cheaper ones but no. I paid £450 towards the trip as he claimed after he never said he’d ‘take me’ and I felt it was fair enough I contribute. But when we return he keeps mentioning exactly how much it has cost him, so much so I have to tell him it’s ruining the memory of it for me. The trip to see my Mum I did say I would pay for but that we’d have a nice weekend together too ... I paid £500 for flights, accommodation, airport parking etc and he offered to buy a meal for us and lunch for my mum (which I ended up paying half for as it was so expensive) ... very grateful he came but now we are back he’s bringing up how much it’s cost him... which was £189 and the car issue cost him £250... so he’s a bit mad about that. I agreed if the car repair was horrendously expensive £500 plus, say, I would contribute (by selling some jewellery or paying him back monthly) but didn’t think he’d make such a massive fuss over £125.., he has extra insurance he can claim on too but still gave me shit over it. I’d never drive abroad without insurance but that’s his choice every time!
To be honest I just wanted to know what other people thought about what he might have meant by ‘we’re (financially) equal’ as I don’t think we are.
He wants to go away next year for his significant birthday and take friends & close family for a blow out long weekend. I’ve told him I won’t be able to afford to contribute so won’t come .. but even if he decides to pay for me I’ll dread it as the constant resentment I’ll get when we return won’t be worth it.
I’ve told him he should have got himself a wealthier gf, he knew my situation when we met!
When I mentioned the disparity in our incomes he just said ‘yes but you could have been a CEO, women can have any job they like these days.. it was your choice not to do so’ 