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AIBU?

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To think this women is a cf

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sophisticatedsarcasm · 17/12/2018 18:11

I get the bus every morning at the same time, I’m usually Round the 4th /5th person to arrive. It’s usually the same people every day. I’ve been taking the bus at this time for the past 9 years. The last couple of months a lady who has her young daughter, maybe 4/5 years old has been using the same bus stop. Every morning she crosses the literally as the bus is coming across the road and always manages to squeeze on first even though the rest of us have been freezing our asses off for several minutes before her. I’m not even sure how she does it as the 3 older ladies that are there before me usually sally gunnell it to the bus.
This morning one of the guys blocked her so she couldn’t get on before everyone for the first time in months. The point is I usually let those with kids and pushchairs in front of me, but there’s just something about how she is a cf that rubs me the wrong way.

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Rosalise · 17/12/2018 18:16

If one of the guys blocked her then you're not the only one who thinks she's a cf. The only way YABU is to let this cf get to you so badly.

CrazyOldBagLady · 17/12/2018 18:17

Can you work out if she is British or not? British people do love to queue, but for instance if you are in some European places people tend to just form an orderly mob, and embark the bus in an order that has nothing to do with the order in which they arrived at the stop. Maybe this is going on here.

Chloe84 · 17/12/2018 18:18

YANBU. People with pushchairs or children do not have priority boarding on buses.

Leeds2 · 17/12/2018 18:20

What, if anything, did she say when he blocked her?

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 17/12/2018 18:21

Law of the jungle! I’m the same - will happily tell someone to go ahead but her really hacked off of someone pushes in!

I was in the supermarket today queuing to at the only staffed till that was open.

I realised that there were loads of self service tills empty, so wandered over and scanned a couple of items before realising that it didn’t have scales so I picked my items up and rejoined the queue for staff service.

Another mum and (adult) son has obviously done the same as me and mum decided to stand right next to me, shuffling sideways to get ahead of me in the queue. I didn’t quite understand the conversation between the two but assume it was along the likes of:

What are you doing mum?
I’m going in here - I’ve already waited so I’m jumping the queue
You can’t just cut in
Why not? I’ve already queued up once
So has the —scary looking— lovely woman with the bunch of bananas
Tough. I was here first.
No she was here before us. We were behind her. I remember her —greasy unkempt— gorgeous hair.
I can’t be bothered to wait- I’m going in front of her.
Leave it mum. She looks like she bites
Hmmmmm. Ok, I see what you mean. I’ll just leave the eggs and go to Tesco.

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 17/12/2018 18:21

Life is too short!

Birdsgottafly · 17/12/2018 18:21

Yep, thays what we need,. Men throwing their weight around to prevent a child getting on the bus.

I wouldn't board a bus whilst a child is waiting to get out of the cold. I'm 51, neither would anyone I know, even in their 70's.

masterandmargarita · 17/12/2018 18:22

She's a c.f - priority for pushchairs or not. I couldn't do that.

holidayhope · 17/12/2018 18:24

She's probably just wondering what you're all waiting around for in the cold

Or she might be a CF hard to tell without being there to see how it is done

EwItsAHooman · 17/12/2018 18:24

I think he was a dick to block her access, who died and made him king of the bus queue?

There's no such thing as a bus queue, there's courtesy and there's politeness but no official queuing system where you can call a foul if someone breaks the rules.

I presume there were enough seats for everyone and you were all going to get to your destination regardless of who got on first?

Helplessfeeling · 17/12/2018 18:26

Yep, thays what we need,. Men throwing their weight around to prevent a child getting on the bus.

Not preventing, just expecting the child's mother to respect the other people who had been queuing up in front of her. Having a child does not give a right to get on the bus first.

HestiaParthenos · 17/12/2018 18:26

British people do love to queue, but for instance if you are in some European places people tend to just form an orderly mob, and embark the bus in an order that has nothing to do with the order in which they arrived at the stop.

I'm from one of those European places.
The idea that people should queue in order of arrival at the bus stop sounds rather strange to me.

MakeAHouseAHome · 17/12/2018 18:26

YANBU. Hate people like this. I call them put on it and they usually back off pretty embarassed.

LikeYouSaid · 17/12/2018 18:29

Ooh I know the feeling. I stood waiting for a bus once for 40 minutes and a woman arrived at the stop literally as the bus was pulling up, pushed her way in front of all of us who had been waiting 30+ minutes and got on first. She then had the cheek to put her handbag on the inside seat so no one else could take it.

Anotheronebitesthefluff · 17/12/2018 18:30

You need to point and tell her that's the back of the queue, she'd have to be very cheeky indeed to not go there in future. Speak up and the other people queuing will soon back you up.

sophisticatedsarcasm · 17/12/2018 18:30

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EwItsAHooman · 17/12/2018 18:32

And in answer to someone’s question she is foreign, not sure where from so maybe in her country it’s the norm to be ignorant

EwItsAHooman · 17/12/2018 18:33

I'm sure you didn't mean be to a raging fucking racist there, did you...?

Pinkyyy · 17/12/2018 18:35

People will continue to do what others let them get away with. If it bothered any of you that much you should have said something by now, but it has clearly not affected you in any (drastic) way so it's really not that big of an issue

Chloe84 · 17/12/2018 18:36

That is pretty racist, OP.

This is why minorities don't call themselves English (and sometimes not even British), because a lot of people think you can't be English and brown.

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sophisticatedsarcasm · 17/12/2018 18:39

Not sure how it’s racist.... I’m just stating about ignorance.....which is how she comes across with her attitude towards her fellow bus passengers...
I’m Indian, Irish and English so no chance for me to be racist 😊 our ideas of racism are obviously extrememly different.... it’s not like I said I don’t like her because she’s from another country....
I don’t judge people on where they from, or the colour of thier skin just by thier personality...... 😮

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aconcertpianist · 17/12/2018 18:40

Just tell her-loudly and clearly-that there is a queue and to get to the back of it.

Not understanding the culture of queuing does not make her ignorant.

franklyshankly2 · 17/12/2018 18:40

Oh racist drip feed lovely

NotTerfNorCis · 17/12/2018 18:40

Doesn't matter where she's from. It's rude and she needs to be told.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 17/12/2018 18:41

Not keen on the man bashing upthread, just because said man objects to being pusjed out of the way by some rude woman who thinks the cultural norms of this country don't apply to her.
Her child won't get cold waiting for the bus of the mother dresses him/her appropriately for the weather!

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