Is neighbour being cheeky?

[fortyforty]

I'm constantly constantly taking deliveries for next door. Don't really mind, I'm usually home but have a little baby and does get annoying.

Anyway this morning I've had 3 separate deliveries. Last one really annoyed me as I'm trying to settle baby, wouldn't of answer the door but they say me in the window. It's a big massive desk this time.

Anyway said to the driver I'll take it but mentioned I'm fed up of it and this is the last one I'm taking. Driver pointed over to neighbours door and said there's a note on it saying 'leave any parcels with number 17'

And she's been home since and not bothered to come and collect them, she will wait for my husband to bring them round to her.

I know it's not first world issues but I'm no longer answering the door. I've never minded taking her parcels but to write a note on the door I think is a bit cheeky. Do you agree?

My bet is she will leave it until Saturday.

Personally I would catch her in the street and tell her to take her desk now or it's going outside, and no, you won't be helping her move it.

The cheeky fucker is walking all over you.

I am in Canada and there is no leaving packages with neighbours at all. It has to be with the address on the package. If you are unlucky, like a previous poster stated, they will leave it at your door and a package pirate will get to it before you do. It’s a huge issue this time of year!

I would also hate taking in packages for my neighbours as I am one of the ones always home as I am retired. It would be a constant barrage of door ringing and knocking. No thank you!

If you aren’t home they either take it to the local place for pick up or leave a note stating a time for redelivery. Sometimes it seems they don’t even attempt to deliver but just leave the card to pick up. It can be very frustrating.

Hold firm

Yes she is cheeky, but some of the comments calling her names are really unnecessary.

It's really not a big issue. Just say you're not taking any more packages as it disturbs your routine too much. No need for a big fall out or any need to ruin packages with baby sick.

Some people love to escalate a situation.

Whilst it's annoying she has suggested your address, I've found that even when the dc's are home, the courier doesn't wait for them to drag themselves downstairs to the door. I have 8 parcels coming today! I've made dd1 get downstairs already!

A DESK?!!

I assume there was a card through her door for each parcel saying ‘Recipient not in, left with No. 7’. Therefore, the LEAST she could have done is come round for the desk & parcels as soon as she saw the cards - but she’s not even done that. She is evidently very comfortable inconveniencing you.

Cross on your behalf!

Let us know what happens!

Any update OP? Has neighbour come looking for their Christmas parcels yet?

🍿👀 watching for an update

I work from home but I'm not always here so I used to put on the additional instructions bit, 'leave with lovely neighbours at 33, 35, 39 or 41' as they were all around like I was. I didn't ever ask anyone. But I took in parcels for the street too, sometimes HUGE things for the builder next door. I once had to edge down my hall as there was so little room left!

However, that all being said, you have a new baby. It's therefore totally different and you should take in the next one, ask driver to leave her a note and then not take it over to her and just wait. Then when she comes to get it, tell her that it's becoming tricky as the last few have disturbed the baby and would she consider using click & collect of she knows she won't be around.

I didn't ever ask anyone.

That is so rude though. I seem to be the local delivery point for my neighbours but I would never nominate one to be mine without asking.

Even if you open the door, you can just say --No, won't take a parcel. Thanks bye.

My neighbour has a note on the door that says "leave parcels at any house except Alletrix's"

You need to go round and put your own note under her note. Something along the lines of
Please don’t leave parcels at number 17, number 17 is extremely pissed off at the assumption she’ll happily pick up the slack for number x
Merry fecking Christmas. Ps your ‘rustic desk’ is in our drive way shift it pronto.

Def need an update!

What a bloody cheek! I don't mind taking the odd parcel it. I work from home two days a week. Last Saturday a courier knocked on my door at 7 am with a parcel. Dog went mad so had to get up to shush him up. Took it in bleary eyed. Once he had gone I realised it wasn't for me! Bloody neighbours were in, now that pissed me off!

Any update OP? @fortyforty

You don't have to take parcels in. I do it for neighbour's I'm friendly with and vice versa, but I won't do it for people 10 doors down the street who I don't even know. Just say a polite, 'no, sorry mate' to the driver. No explanation needed. I don't know why people don't collect their own parcels when they are delivered to a neighbour though. My DP hand delivers them to the recipient. I don't, my policy is "your parcel, you pick it up."

Did she collect?

We had this where we used to live. We had a living room full of Range Rover parts and hadn’t been asked. Some were so heavy I couldn’t even lift them. Told delivery drivers after that we weren’t a bloody storage hub and refused to do it any more. Especially as the CF came round a couple of days after & accused us of stealing some parcels.... turned out they were delivered to one of the other cottages in the court yard but they’d just assumed we’d taken it in like usual. Tell the CF to piss right off!

Speak to her: (a) you are not obliged to take in any parcels for neighbours unless you agree to (either with neighbour or postie); (b) its neighbourly to take in stuff when you can, within reason, as it is for your neighbour to do the same; (c) I have an unspoken arrangement with the neighbours that I will take in their stuff, but it's always small and manageable. If extra large, they always specifically ask first. Taking in a whole desk is a bit left field, without explicit agreement; (d) if things turn a bit sour, consider (I) if you do take in anything, and its damaged somehow, you may be blamed; (ii) they may never take in anything for you (which may not matter); (iii) snippy relations may lead to problems elsewhere - fence boundary, kiddies' balls over fence, cars parked partly in front of wrong house... etc. Depending on character, falling out with a neighbour can mean low grade permanent warfare which is VERY wearing (I'm a lawyer and seen too much...).

@cuppycakey
Major LOLs 😂

So need to know what happened to that desk! Wonder if CF had to move it all by herself. Poor little love!

Just tell the delivery people, "Sorry, this is not for me, not my address".

Sorted.

Even better, as you have a baby is just to put a note on the front door saying "Please Do Not Disturb" which you can put up and remove as you go along.

Cheeky bitch designating you as her delivery point.