BIL new GF staying on Boxing Day

[Olivetree615]

Hi all, I don't know if IABU..
BIL has a relatively new GF who neither me, OH or FIL have met. BIL has decided to invite said GF along to our traditional Boxing day gathering; this also includes staying the night.

Now, I'm not over the moon that he has invited a stranger to our home to spend the night, at this time of year, but I have made my peace with it. However, I do not want them sleeping in the DSCs bedroom.
We have one sofa bed which FIL would be using and BIL uses the single blow up bed.. WIBU to ask them to bring something for her to sleep on?

I don't want to seem unaccommodating but I'm not sure what else to suggest or how to word it without coming off cold..?

I really thank god my family and my DH’s have none of these hang ups.

I can sort of get where you're coming from OP just about but it wouldn't stop me offering the bed. Just strip all the bedding and hot wash it once they've gone then have some hypnotherapy to erase them having sex I'm joking before anyone starts.

I think your OH should just have a quiet word with his DB.
Do your children have a double bed in their room then?

When my toddler outgrows his cotbed he’ll be moving to the bed in what is currently our spare room, which is also the bed he was conceived in. Sometimes people just have to be where sex has previously happened. Circle of life and all that.

OK, OP, Aunty Anthenais believes that you don't fancy BiL

I'm a bit ewww about other people sleeping in my bed. PIL have offered to stay at our house to look after the dog whilst we go away. We've got two single beds in two separate rooms but I just know they would insist on sharing our double bed. So the dog is going into kennels!

This is it Athenais! I don't have a problem with them being all loved up and doing whatever they want to eachother, just not sure I want it in my DSCs bed - although as it's been pointed out, it's likely they won't do anything anyway!

DSC have bunk beds, bottom one is a double - not a dripfeed, just not worth mentioning as of course that'd rather stay in the double together if it was offered I'm sure!

Ah, I've got a solution! They have bottom double and you get on top. That should put them off any shenanigans!

ahahaha Athenais let's see how much gin I drink before we go down that road!

Could you and your OH sleep in the DSC's beds and offer BIL and his GD your bed? FIL sleeps on sofa bed? I don't like giving up my bed (I don't really like having people to stay/staying at other people's) but this would solve the issue of the GF sleeping in kid's bed.

You would seriously let adult guests in your home sleep on blow up beds or on the floor while there is an unoccupied bedroom with empty beds in the house? That’s the most inhospitable thing I have heard of since Mary and Joseph wee turned away from the inn.

This!

I would seriously let adult guests sleep on blow-up beds or the floor as long as they didn't have medical problems that made it particularly unpleasant/ uncomfortable for them.

I would not want other people in my bed, so I wouldn't expect my children to have to give up theirs.

The children are not giving up their beds. They are not there. The beds will be unoccupied. The sheets will be washed.

Put fil in kids’ room. Gf can sleep on the sofa bed and bil can sleep on the floor.

Put all three in the kids room-you won't have to worry about "shenanigans" then!

Seriously OP, you sound like the innkeeper from the nativity- in fact do you have a shed / stable?

I think you are overthinking this. You will wash sheets before anyone else uses the bed and other than that it's not big deal surely?

If you ever go away to a hotel, friends house or B&B you and the DC will sleep in beds that other people have inhabited. It's not a major issue.

The kindest thing to do is to make this person feel welcome. You may actually like her, and enjoy each other's company regardless of whether she is 'the one'.

My sis in law is bringing boyfriend we've never met for three days over Christmas, and his dog!! It never even crossed my mind to be anything other than welcoming!! They're getting a double bed in what will be our new baby's room.

Presumably your SIL didn't just assume you were fine to take on her boyfriend's dog for 3 days?

I’ve come down from my crazy horse PPs!
I think it will either be FIL in bed (if he accepts) or BIL & GF in bed if the OH is happy.
I will be nothing but warm and welcoming, it is Christmas after all and I appreciate she’s probably lovely and nervous herself!

No she did ask about the dog

Good on you OP. Hope you have a lovely time!

Could they have your bed and you sleep in the children's room?

You could make each of them sleep in one of these?
You sound fun op, I'm coming to stay too I promise not to shag DH anywhere!
This week before Christmas is a right headfuck eh?

Oh my goodness fibonaccisequins it’s perfect
I promise I’m more fun than I’m coming off! We have drinking games and everything! It’s just my first time in this situation

I doubt very much they'd have sex in a child's bed, unless they are teenagers. Make sure to tell an anecdote about how thin your walls are and how you hear DC talking to themselves/singing in bed etc

If FIL prefers the sofa bed and there’s a double bed not being used, it would be weird to not let them use the bed. That said, I agree with you about being revolted by the possibility of someone having sex in the children ‘s bed, irrespective of what happens in hotel rooms.

How about putting a Peppa Pig duvet on the bed , to make the point in a PA way ?