to shout through the wall at my neighbour?

[Wheresmyshittingmeat]

I'm bloody sick of listening to them loudly and constantly shagging. Of course they can do what they like in their own home but I don't want to hear the graphic details. Yesterday morning they woke me up at 6 am and it went on for ages so I couldn't get back to sleep. Got back to sleep and they were at it again by 9 and she's shouting! For context, I've heard them through my earphones and actually downstairs in my lounge! Also I have a teenage dd who has heard it before I moved her into a different room.

So, yesterday morning I went up the adjoining wall while they were in flagrante delicto abd screamed "will you just shut up". I thought it best not to swear. They did shut up but dp thought I was being unreasonable?! Thoughts?

Did they go quiet when you shouted?

Yes they did!

Drop a note through their door
They will hopefully be so embarrassed they’ll quieten down

I’ve done the same and followed up by putting a note through our neighbours door in the past

If they keep doing it and you don’t want to have a word with them, record the noise on a usb stick and post it through their door.

Thanks everyone I don't feel so bad now. I may do the same and put a note through the door. I'm hoping they are feeling mortified!

"BW" that's a great idea! I'd die if I got that through the door.

they might not have realised that you could hear them, not unreasonable to bring it to their attention by making noise they can hear. Recording of applauds or cheering could work too.

Had friends round once when we had the same issue. We gave them a resounding cheer and round of applause at the end. I think it suitably embarrassed them as they were generally quieter after that.

Definitely put a note through. They may not realise you can hear. A friend had the same situation and the note worked.

Put a note through the door outlining exactly how bad it is in your house. No way would I put up with my children basically listening to pornography.

"Lunar1" that's what concerns me the most. I'm not putting up with my dd listening to that. DP says he is embarrassed about me shouting through the wall and I haven't thought about how it affects him! Really?

Ask him if he'd sit watching porn with your teenager? I can't see any difference.

Yanbu! I wanted to scream through my adjoining bedroom wall to a neighbour who screamed during sex.

It would be any time of day or night and heard in every room of our house. My then 5 year old constantly asking what the noise is and people stopped visiting us as they didn't want to explain to their children!

I flipped out one day and just had enough and ran downstairs to go out and knock on their door and my DH swiftly went out and locked the front door in front of me he did explain things a lot better than I would have and things got a bit better.

I was still delighted when they moved out!

We did try the thing of making obvious noise when we heard them at it. I'd stand next to the wall with the hairdryer on and put loud music on. I guess they were too oblivious to care.

OP you could start by putting a polite note through their letter box, highlighting that their are children in the house and they need to be more considerate.

If that doesn't work the next thing to do is contact your local council and report the disturbance as an environment nuisance and they will contact your NDN.

www.gov.uk/report-noise-pollution-to-council

Enter your postcode and it gives you details of your council and website.

Doing it via your council is not classed as a neighbour dispute as it hasn't gone legal, so it won't compromise your ability to sell your property in the future.

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Never retaliate by banging on walls, making loud noise on your side. That'll get you nowhere and increases the animosity. It's a bit like road rage.

Ask him if he'd sit watching porn with your teenager? I can't see any difference

Seriously?

We once stayed in a hotel with a couple next door who were at it from about 9.30pm. Quite awkward as it was myself, best friend and my two daughters (then aged about 10 and 14) in our room. Headboard thumping the wall, screaming etc. By about 11.30pm we had had enough as turning up the TV a bit only works for so long until you want to go to sleep, so played a round of applause on full volume from youtube at the very pinnacle of their shrieks (luckily we had a laptop with us which came in handy for that). It went immediately very quiet, and we eventually got some sleep. Maybe try something like that? They either don't realise that the walls are not completely soundproof or else they are very self absorbed.

After they finish shout "keep going, I'm not there yet"

Some really good ideas here so thanks everyone. Frogsbreath that's horrendous. So pleased for you that they moved out. Thanks for the link Daisychain. It's 9.30 and still no noise. This is normally their prime time! Fingers crossed they got the message.

Or you could shout "SHE'S FAKING!" If the screaming gets loud.

Daisychain I know it probably wasn't my best plan but I saw red and it's been going on for ages.