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to shout through the wall at my neighbour?

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Wheresmyshittingmeat · 16/12/2018 08:36

I'm bloody sick of listening to them loudly and constantly shagging. Of course they can do what they like in their own home but I don't want to hear the graphic details. Yesterday morning they woke me up at 6 am and it went on for ages so I couldn't get back to sleep. Got back to sleep and they were at it again by 9 and she's shouting! For context, I've heard them through my earphones and actually downstairs in my lounge! Also I have a teenage dd who has heard it before I moved her into a different room.

So, yesterday morning I went up the adjoining wall while they were in flagrante delicto abd screamed "will you just shut up". I thought it best not to swear. They did shut up but dp thought I was being unreasonable?! Thoughts?

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Jellylegss · 16/12/2018 18:19

To be fair I’ve shouted back before “he’s not that good”/“she’s faking it” after several notes hadn’t gotten the message through, block of flats they were upstairs n just put their rubbish in the halls Envy. Eventually I caved n phoned the police about “strange loud noises” I didn’t know what to say n didn’t really want to say they’re filming a bad porno by the sounds of things, the dispatcher heard her through the phone n suspected violence.. that worked Grin

YankOnTheShelf · 16/12/2018 18:26

It's in the UK Sun too, if that's any different:

www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7991511/mum-fuming-neighbour-loud-shagging-daughter-move-bedroom/

ShinyMe · 16/12/2018 18:28

I used to have loud shagging neighbours. I started playing Chas & Dave through the wall at them, and they soon stopped.

Tistheseason17 · 16/12/2018 18:33

We lived next door to a moaner/squealer and would listen to the gap timing in between squeals/moans til it would be over IYSWIM..

It was so loud and long one night we shouted through the walls, "Will you just make her orgasm, already?!!" Quietened right down after that!

She also did not realise the bathroom window was not as fuzzy as she thought and my Dad got a proper eyeful when he popped over for a bbq!

TenForward82 · 16/12/2018 18:34

To be Frank I'd be asking your DH if he was getting off on the noise and playing pocket pool or something. Weirdo.

  1. it was more than once
  2. His DD could hear it
  3. Now they've got the message.

"how it affects him" my ass.

busybarbara · 16/12/2018 19:57

It's very annoying but on the other hand it could ultimately affect their relationship and MH if they no longer feel comfortable having sex in their own home

mbosnz · 16/12/2018 20:03

I had (very bad, aggressive, druggie) loud neighbours, that one night I honestly tossed a coin whether I rang noise control or the police about the clearly sex oriented noises coming from next door in the well detached house.

I ended up ringing noise control. Commented that they must get this all the time. Little silence, then a cough 'erm, not so much'. Anyways, noise control went around and had a quieter word than they'd been having, and at least the sex sounds went down. It had woken up my 4 and 2 year old, to be fair, and quite honestly frightened them. . . even the old deaf cat had been startled. . .

GloomyMonday · 16/12/2018 20:03

Busy who cares? If their relationship is so frail that they can't cope with bringing the sex noises down a few decibels then they're not going to last long anyway. Their right to loud sex doesn't trump OP's right to not hear them shagging 24/7.

busybarbara · 16/12/2018 20:08

I agree with that but if they now have to worry every time they shag it could be a real mood killer. There are people round here who freak out about even putting a condom on being a passion killer so getting yelled at by the neighbours is another level Confused

mumsastudent · 16/12/2018 20:14

I think playing Bolero might get the message across … or humming it (offkey :) ) very loud in unison with dh … deder de deder de deder etc

SpeckledDot · 16/12/2018 20:29

If you live near people, you have to be considerate of others with regards to the noise you make. End of.

If you want to make as much noise as you want, buy a fucking cottage in the middle of nowhere

GloomyMonday · 16/12/2018 20:46

I like the idea of playing appropriate music, would suggest Ride of the Valkyries.

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Wheresmyshittingmeat · 16/12/2018 21:52

Update. They were at it again this afternoon when I went into the bedroom for something. However, it was quieter and quite muffled so hoping they've got the message. I do hope I haven't compromised their relationship!

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busybarbara · 16/12/2018 23:31

If they're already back at it, it seems they're not too put off! Good result so far then

TenForward82 · 17/12/2018 08:30

Ignore @busybarbara. They're either a troll or a few sandwiches short of a picnic, based on past posts.

busybarbara · 17/12/2018 10:03

Ignore @TenForward82 they're trying to stir up trouble as can be seen in this thread.

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