To think this is rude? Facebook related

[ZoeZebra1]

I am not on Facebook and do not really like it for various reasons. I have previously told friend that I don't like it many times and that I would not want pictures of my children on there as I personally feel it's not right to put their pictures online and give them an online presence without their permission, it just seems disrespectful and I may inadvertently post something that embarrasses them in years to come. Also there are people (including mutual friends of this friend) who I avoid and would not want them to have access to pictures of my children purely because I don't want them to know anything about me or my life.

Everyone can do what they want with their own kids pictures, this is just my preference. I don't go on about it, but my feelings are known.

Last week friend came over with her kids for a pre Xmas get together, kids swapped presents, music, food etc. My friend had forgotten her camera so after I emailed her some of the pictures for her own record.

This morning while having coffee with another friend she commented that it looked like we had fun last week, and you've guessed it, she had put all the photos I sent her on Facebook including ones of my children, some just of my children and lots showing inside my house etc.

I'm more annoyed than anything as she knows my feelings and we have discussed it plenty of times. But I don't want to come across as controlling and silly... However having pictures showing my kids and house online makes me feel exposed I suppose and like my privacy has been invaded.

I know in a world where people post everything from their lunch to their toilet habits makes me the oddball here, but surely I have a right to my own choices? Somehow it adds insult to injury that they were pictures I took and sent her...

So AIBU to be annoyed?
Would you say anything? If so what?

I'd be sorely tempteted to join FB purely and simply to post a definitions of "friendship" and "respect" on her timeline and at the same time reporting the photos to FB.

You need to cut off all contact with this woman, she is a self centred two faced bitch.

It's not "because of Facebook" though, FB is not inherently toxic or evil it's about how people use it.

These friends if FB didn't exist FB friend would had stomped on your boundaries in some other way and then claimed she was right & you were overreacting - and the other would still be a stirring cow! I'm 46 shit stirring arseholes were around long before SM.

"You gave her intellectual property rights by giving her the photos" no she didn't as op had always been clear they weren't to be used on FB, she still owns the copyright even if she shares them with her friend.

I can’t believe this outcome.
You seriously have to ditch her as a friend, how can either of you look each other in the eye and try to be friendly again after you know about the horrible comments she posted about you?
She is the one in the wrong, you’re lucky to have realized and get rid of her. Life’s too short to put up with dickheads. Just don’t reply to her or the other friend from now on. Move past it.

She just messaged me a really long message basically saying sorry if she upset me but she won't be dictated to by anyone and she's really upset that we won't be friends just because mutual friend decided to interfere, and my lack of response has shown how little I think of her and ruined her weekend, and shown how immature I am. She won't take pictures down because despite everything I was part of her life and she will not delete me from it. She said mutual friend was always slagging me off to her and not to trust her. She ended by wishing me a nice life, so that's that then. I think it's all a bit dramatic, but then that's how she is. I've always known she can be a bit ott with the dramatics but I normally hear it from her side and it's easier to accept when your not on the end of it. I believe her about mutual friend, but ultimately mutual friend didn't cause this, she just took advantage of it. Well it's shit, but there you go, thanks for your support.

Join Facebook and report all the pictures of your children and keep the account until they’ve gone, then delete it.

I'm wondering if it's possible to report the whole profile? (Disclaimer not a techy person at all)

For the reason that she's breached your trust in posting pictures of kids that aren't hers!

It's a shame the friendship has ended but by the sound of things if it weren't this it would've been something else and she's just plain not a nice person!

From what I can tell she's in breach of FB terms and conditions with regard to stepping on your right not to share images of your children and also copyright regulations.

YAsoNBU. It’s astonishing that she just doesn’t get it. I use fb but don’t put my children on there. On the odd occasion a friend posts a photo of them, I ask them to remove it and they do (with an apology). No drama.

Do you have any relatives who are on Facebook. Get them to report the photos of your kids and don’t contact her again.

Ok, how is this even real? I commented before but FFS.
If on the off chance you are real, listen to what people are saying. Report to FB and get them taken down. If you're not on there yourself, get a family member who is to take them down for you.

She's a first class knob!

You've dodged a bullet, if it wasn't this it would have been something else. Not only does she have no respect for your privacy (yeah I bet it's the other friend talking behind your back and she has never done that )
Moreover, she does understand that FB isn't her actual memories, doesn't she? She can just - quietly, in her own brain - remember things!