To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

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From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

My brithday was yesterday, we don't do Christmas decs in my house till my birthday has passed, the kids whinge but tough.. I used to get joint presents all the time. Now I prefer separate ones, although husband got me a really good camera last year and I agreed with him it was definitely joint present worthy.

Oh I’ve just put a few quid in a card, you know how expensive summer days out are” is your response next year!

Christmas baby here, fully supportive!

DS’ birthday is 16th Dec and no one in my family does this. He gets lovely presents in normal wrapping for Birthday and lovely presents again at Christmas. I don’t know if it’s because he paternal gran and uncle both have January birthdays and 2 aunties on my side do too so they all know how it feels and make sure he gets stuff for both?

His friends always buy him lovely gifts when they come to his party too. He’s very lucky.

I do usually buy DS something outdoorsy in summer so that it’s not such a long time to wait between presents.

Mines 18th and i always felt like i missed out as a kid. Last year my db and sil txt me day before my birthday saying can they give me present late cos theyre skint its christmas. They have a point theyve got two kids but my birthday was coming for 12 months. Pisses me off. On the bright side we knocked bday presents on the head which is good and saved me few quid.

My friend has her birthday on Christmas Day, and she absolutely hates it. Always ends up with people giving one gift for Christmas Day and Boxing Day.

I make an effort to do completely separate gifts, and make a fuss of it being her birthday rather than Christmas.

Another January birthday here. Early Jan. No one has any money left January. No one wants a party, January. Combined presents for Christmas/birthday January. All your festivities are done in a week and a half of the year, January. It sucks, bigtime.
All you can really do is make up for it by making her birthday a really special day.
PS. My mum is Dec 25th birthday. She's the same as me x 2.....

I'm a Christmas day baby, but my parents made sure that people got me two decent presents, after all they've had all year to plan for an extra gift!
I do love my birthday, always off work, house is decorated, everyone is in party mode! I wouldn't change it.

My birthday is early January and I often get joint presents, or regifted ( I suspect) presents. So I have an unbirthday in April when DH and DS make a fuss of me and I feel special.

I also used to know a pair of twins who's official birthday was Christmas day, but who always had their "birthday" in June.

I don't think they knew the date of their actual birthday until they were around 7 or 8, by which time they were quite happy to carry on the june tradition.

I think it's actually not a bad idea!

My dad did fill put a card with happy birthday for June to my auntie once when they got me a joint card ha! It never happened again

Mum, SIL, DN and DH (and a close friend) all have December birthdays, and the baby I'm currently expecting will be December or early Jan. I am fully planning on having a family half-birthday celebration in the summer every year for the baby, just a barbecue or picnic and a cake or something. I always give separate presents, wrapped in appropriate paper and with a separate card. It just wouldn't occur to me not to - their birthdays are special too.

If anyone mentions to my face though about bad conception timing when this one is born I will not be happy. 3 years ttc, followed by a mc of a June baby means I don't give a stuff if this one is born on Christmas Day - he will be loved and celebrated just as much as if he had a different birthday. These things can't be planned.

I have a mid December birthday & must be really lucky as I love it!

When I see Christmas decorations up I feel all excited for my birthday!

Have only ever been given a joint birthday/christmas present once (at my request) & that was as a teenager when I really wanted a cd player - they had not long come out!

Never had stuff wrapped in Christmas paper either - that's so mean!

Can you tell family members that dc was disappointed/confused to get birthday presents wrapped like that?

Or blatently ask on which ocassion they should open the gift (if it's a joint one)?

Husband is New Years Day and youngest is Jan 5th.

Luckily family don’t scrimp on either or say “Thats for Christmas and birthday”. But it’s a rubbish time of year for a birthday.

It’s my birthday next week and my parents only ever got me a joint present if it was something particularly expensive and was double the cost. My family have never been cheap with presents. We have a set budget for birthdays so it is very easy to plan that into December spending.
My husband once made the mistake of wrapping my presents in Christmas paper and he never did that again.
You need to point out that it’s not acceptable to do that to someone in December if you wouldn’t do it to someone with a June birthday.

Yanbu! My DH birthday is today and last year it was his 30th, we had a nice night out planned with his friends who all pulled out on the day because of Christmas being soon :(.

He's also a twin so when he was younger he and his brother got shared presents and combined birthday and Christmas presents 🤬 that's just harsh!

yanbu
friends dc have birthdays before christmas.
they solved it by having parties and presents in june. and giving a small present & nice meal out on the actual birthday.

Daughter's friend has hers on 25th which is pretty much the worst. But yes, a Jan birthday where you get given unwanted Xmas gifts is a bit crap too.

Yanbu. Having a birthday around Christmas is no excuse for spending a tiny amount on a relatives birthday, especially a child. I don't know how anyone can do that and think it's ok.

Mine's the middle of January, before most peoples' pay day. I never try to go out or have a party. In some ways it's good, because I could ask for pricier presents from my parents as a "joint gift" - so one year I got a PS2 (which my parents would never have bought me for just one occasion)

I have to say though, when DH and I decided to start trying for DC2, I intentionally held off for a few months so it wouldn't be due anywhere around Nov/Dec/Jan. Some people said it was a silly reason to wait, but this thread vindicates my decision.

Yanbu. My dcs have mid or late December birthdays and financially it's a bit difficult to say the least! One side of the family make an effort to separate presents, the other side not so much... Can't really do anything about it though.

The worst thing for me is trying to arrange birthday parties with all the end of term and Christmas activities going on... Half the kids I invite don't come But DC are adamant they don't want half birthdays for the moment.

My sister loves her 27th Dec birthdayo

I think it depends if you’re a party person too. I am, so it’s disappointing no-one bothers with mine.
When I’ve left jobs I hardly organise anything because I feel like no-one wants to party for me. 🎻🎻🎻

My brother is 2nd Jan and has always complained about this. It's also the most miserable day of the entire year to have a birthday as no one wants to do anything! Dec is marginally better I think as at least people are happy!

Yanbu it was my sons birthday yesterday and I was thinking the same thing.
Even trying to get wrapping paper and cards is hard this time of year and I wasn't going to wrap his presents in Christmas paper.