To find it a bit upsetting that my Dec born dc gets shit presents...

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From relatives. I know it's an expensive time of year but it's the same date every year, hardly shocking.

I put a lot of effort into all my nieces and nephews birthday presents throughout the year and wouldn't dream of wrapping their present up in Christmas paper or spending £3 on a present "because it's Christmas soon". Every birthday so far this has happened!

I'm probably being unreasonable, but I just feel sorry for my dc!

Our wedding anniversary is just before Christmas and that has proved more of a pain. No possibility of a tete a tete dinner when carols are blaring out and everywhere is full of office parties!

My sister has a December birthday and it's a mix of things.... sometimes good, sometimes a bit dodgy and sometimes combined.... but at least people remember....
On the other hand, February..... the month people try to forget.... often no present at all, even as a small child and later even my parents forget.... although they always remember my siblingsxabd would be seriously hurt and offended if I forgot theirs 🤔

I’ve also had lots of comments about how selfish I am to conceive a baby who is due around Christmas because they’ll always have rubbish birthdays (from strangers rather than friends and family). These things can’t always be planned to that degree.

I’m a December birthday and it can be quite useful as an adult to have larger joint presents.

Yanbu.

My birthday is the 20th. Never had a birthday cake in my life, never had proper presents, never had a party...

And even though I'm an adult (lol) now, I find I'm just used to not really having a birthday now so I'm not bothered about it. Just another day!

My youngest has a Dec 23rd birthday. When she was a child it was great, as there was always a pantomime available to take her to as a treat, and the shops were crammed with a fab choice of toys and presents.
I always wrapped her things in birthday paper, and we had two trees - a Xmas tree in the sitting room for the Xmas presents, and a smaller “DDmas” tree in the kids playroom, with her birthday presents under it!
Now she’s an adult it’s a bit of a hassle for her trying to get friends available for a birthday night out so close to Xmas - they’re all sick of office parties and pre Xmas celebrations.

Not many people remember my early January birthday including friends and family well who else is there??!), plus everyone is still not going out because of the time of year so I am usually on my own.

Mind you it was my brother's birthday in APril that mum always forgot a cake for and used to run out for a Battenberg. It later became a tradition and his wife I think kept it up!!!

My mum used to rewrap any that came in Christmas paper.
As an adult, yeah - I get a bit miffed at everyone having big birthday nights out or weekends away, when I struggle to squeeze in a mid-week lunch off the Xmas menu between nativity plays and works dos.

TTCers - take March off.

Oh that's shit. It is a difficult time of year financially but FGS, a sheet of birthday wrapping paper and a card can be bought for pence. Presents can be pound shop or value or Fb selling/ EBay or made. It's not ok to just not make an effort. My DM is December born, it sucks. We wouldn't dare don't make less effort.

It’ll get better when they are older. My birthday is between Christmas and New Year and everyone always wants to go out for it as it’s the only time all my old school friends are back in our home town visiting family.

Since teens onward DM has always taking me shopping in the sales as my birthday present.

My birthday is early January, when I was younger I either got crap that people picked up in the sale or a regifted present. I hated it.
Now I’m older I’m not so bothered and my friends and I don’t really celebrate birthdays unless it’s a milestone one.

I have a December birthday and love it (27th) but my parents worked really hard to make sure I didn't lose out. They never wrapped things up in Christmas paper and would send instructions to relatives also (probably would be judged as cheeky fuckery here). Sometimes I would ask for a joint present myself if I really wanted something big like a new bike. The only slight botheration is that things are often closed - even this year I wanted to go to a particular restaurant - but they are closed for a holiday. Ah well, can't really blame them for wanting a holiday too. In general I look on it as an extra day of holiday fun, since I can always take the day off work.

A know a few people with Xmas birthdays who celebrate them at the beginning of December to ensure sufficient separation between the birthday and Xmas. Seems to work well. Irrespective of when it’s celebrated, a joint gift (unless genuinely the value of the separate gifts) or Xmas wrapping paper on a birthday gift is just sloppy and rude.

My Dad's birthday was on Christmas Day and while we always gave two presents each to him and made some separation, he always said we didn't need to - because of his upbringing and the expectation of having a birthday too had been taken away from him. I always felt for him even as a child that he only had one day of presents.

His parents never gave him birthday presents - they were always no more than hi9s siblings and expected to be for birthday and Christmas together.

My brother has his birthday 23rd December, he always had rubbish birthday presents, no party etc.
My friend has a December 25th ds, when he was little she celebrated his half birthday on June 25th every year. He had a party, received nice presents and was made to feel special, just as a child should be on their birthday (or half birthday). Would you consider celebrating your dc birthday on the same number but in June? It’s a solution.

My friend celebrates her late December birthday in June instead!

My family are pretty good on the whole. It’s friends that are not very kind. I have a supposedly good friend who splashes the cash on all and sundry for their birthday and Christmas yet to me she says ‘I’m not getting you a Christmas present as well’.I’m slowly distancing myself....

I’m a 17th December birthday and it sometimes worked out well for me. I remember I coveted a Sony Walkman (early 80s) and they were quite pricey but, I had the option of having it as a Birthday/Xmas present which I was more than happy with, if I had say a July birthday I wouldn’t have got it at all. The same applied when I wanted Roller Boots (which to this day was one of the best presents I ever got and I lived in them😁). I do get it though, generally it’s not the best time of year for Birthdays.

It's my birthday tomorrow and DD's on Monday. DS was end of November. I remember thinking how crap it was as a child and then I did it to both my children!

Although exH was in the forces and they were both born 9 months after he got back from a tour 😂.

I don't mind it now and nor do they. They are in their 20s now and so it's more about doing stuff together than presents.

Mine's late January and I quite like it. Everyone's emerging from Xmas/NY and school return. I can get all the stuff I wanted for Xmas and didn't get. Going out for a posh meal and/or a show or something is a real treat that everyone is ready for. The only problem is it's a long way until the next Xmas

My dh is Dec 29th and his mum always used to take him and his brothers to the pantomime consequently he hates birthdays (his own, he always makes sure dds and mine are special) and pantomimes! We always try and make his special for him but he isn't interested any more. Dd is January and luckily we have only ever had one joint Christmas/birthday gift but the giver checked with me that it was ok and spent double on the one gift which was a big lego set dd wanted which would have been over budget if she'd had separate. It is very hard to choose gifts for her birthday though as she has everything at Christmas! Then by June there is a list of things she would like.

My birthday is on Christmas Eve. A lot of people forget as they are so busy. It was upsetting sometimes as a child as people have so much on that birthday parties aren't important.
My parents always gave me a little something on my sister's birthday too though,

Not RTFT

It's my birthday today!

YANBU I always got "joint xmas and bisthday" presents which of course were never the equivalent of my brother who got a set in Summer and Xmas.

Also get cards a lot which are xmas cards with "and birthday" added.

Fortunately I dont' care about cards and am well used to my younger brother getting preferential treatment :D

Shepherdspieisminging

OMG snap snap snap how weird! Our posts are almost identical!

Happy birthday!!!!

My bro is in June as well I should mention.

Freaky.