Teacher/child related how to broach this?

[ControversyisSubjective]

I want to start by saying, I am currently a nurse but changing my career to teaching. Presently in the middle of my access course.
I know teachers are under a lot of stress and pressure. I completely understand mistakes are made, I don't want to go in all guns blazing, because I also accept children fabricate the truth. Although there is also some truthfulness mostly in what young children say.

Today my 9 year came home from school completely deflated and looked depressed. I proceeded to ask what was bothering him and this is what he said.

Today in P.E he was playing hockey and stopped the ball from going in the net. His teacher told him unfortunately it had crossed the line so it was a goal. He said he stopped it just on the line. She then stated in a joking matter, "Well I think you are in need of glasses!" His fellow classmate proceeded to prod jokes and make glasses with their hands at his expense. He got very upset and told them to stop. Two of them did but the others didn't so he lost it a through his hockey stick on the floor. The teacher then told him to go sit out and think about his actions.

He cried in the toilet and was very down when I picked him up.

He told me he doesn't think he fits in and doesn't want to go back to school.

Now I know his reaction was not acceptable and I have told him, he needs to refrain from acting out in the heat of the moment because that doesn't reflect well on him. He accepts this and we will work on this.

But the rest has got me stumped. He is a sensitive kid, but is very competitive. However, he is very good at sport and is in all the school athletics teams.

The ball may very well have gone over the line. I don't know, I wasn't there. But I think it's inappropriate to be mocked over it.

How would I broach this. I know we are human and people like to joke. But I don't think it should be done like this.

Opinions?

So you’ve had the teacher apologise for a comment that there was absolutely nothing wrong with? Ok.
Also not sure how they ‘let’ the other children tease your son. They likely were either unaware or thought making glasses with their hands was such a minor thing that there was no way a 9yo would be remotely bothered. Is needing glasses even an insult? I imagine that losing the point in the game provoked the reaction more than anything after.
However, you clearly didnt actually want opinions that differed from your own so not a lot of point in posting really. Maybe next time just advise yourself then you won’t gwt bullied (disagreed with).

@FuckingYuleLog
The teacher apologised with no prompting. You can clearly see it was resolved in an adult manor. Yet you continue to come here and pick fault. I think you just like the entertainment of arguing with strangers on the internet. That's really not me, nor is it my problem.
Actually there were quite a few derogatory comments on here that I would classify as borderline bullying. If you have a difference of opinion on this. That's your prerogative, as is mine.
You seem a little frustrated that I'm not jumping down your throat back. I think you may have anger issues. I would get them addressed.
I have clearly agreed with all the mature PP. You are not one of them.

Thank You, good day.

FuckingYuleLog, in the spirit of the way some of this thread was hijacked and taken off road: the majority of even the best teachers in the world are not qualified opticians. They are also, by default, expected (and paid) to responsibly refrain from making speculative comments about culturally sensitive handicaps to children in the presence of other children. It's an abuse of their role (and begs a safeguarding intervention, FYI) .

How to broach it would be to tell your DS that he needs to firstly respect the ref. decision in any game, but secondly and most importantly to build a bit or resilience!

He's show his classmates how easy it is to wind him up and they'll probably carry on now. Just tell him to take it, move on and forget it.

costacoffeecup

Typos are one thing and I've definitely typed quickly and it's autocorrected to the wrong 'your' and I've noticed it afterwards. But it try to correct myself when I do that.

Easy enough to do though, isn't it.

Wearing glasses is a ‘culturally sensitive handicap’ 😂 I think you’ll find that the term ‘handicap’ is much more offensive than suggesting in a lighthearted way that someone who hasn’t seen a ball cross the line forgot their glasses! Short sightedness isn’t a disability ffs!
And op you’ve been snarky with everyone who has disagreed with you on here and only pleasant to those who have agreed with you regardless of how they’ve gone about it. I have mentioned nothing about your disabilities and your ability to teach as it’s not relevant to the thread.

Please educate yourself on what it entails to read the full thread.
I've only been snarky at those who are snarky with me. Because let's face it, there is no need.
I have also agreed with the majority of posters who have stated my son needs to grow more resilience. I have also discussed how I am dealing with this quite clearly.
I have been very mature and polite throughout to those posters who have given sound advice without being forceful.

@reenchantmentofeverydaylife
The particular teacher In question agreed with this and we both agreed sometimes things are said in humour without thinking. It was resolved maturely and my son agreed he would normally take this as joke and it was taken completely out if context. He is learning resilience. So we've got no worries
Thank you for your input.

@FuckingYuleLog just drop it. It's been resolved now and everyone is happy. And if the teacher isn't she'll be moaning in the staff room and get over it. I think it's time you do the same.

Thanks OP, so glad things were discussed calmly and amicably. The teacher sounds lovely, and she obviously has a lot of respect for your DS. I also really appreciate all the reminder comments on the thread about building resilience, so vital for children. At the same time, however, there are some examples on here of just why kids need to be more resilient. After all, when they leave school and go out into the world, so do all the bullies they were at school with.

Thanks Rebel but I wasn’t aware you were the thread police. The op was bitchy to the first post I made that wasn’t at all bitchy. I just wasn’t agreeing with her. And I’ll point that out all I like. I find it really frustrating when people come on aibu clearly only looking for people to agree with them and are arsed with people who don’t. If you don’t want different opinions to your own why even post? Why not just think ‘I’m right about this’ and be done with it?

I merely pointed out that we had addressed it. Again and again and again. But you continued to bring it up. Be abrupt and snarky about it. So go figure.
You still can't let it drop.
Jeez!🤦‍♀️

The ball may very well have gone over the line. I don't know, I wasn't there. But I think it's inappropriate to be mocked over it

I don’t think he was mocked. I think he was being cheeky and talking back, and his teacher made a throwaway comment about it. She wasn’t mocking him for wearing glasses, which would have been inappropriate.

You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. By all means talk to your son about not being cheeky or throwing a strop, but I don’t think you have anything to complain about here.

You know, a lot depends on the tone of the voice. The teacher may have said it jokingly, not to mock your son. It's the reaction of other boys she should have picked up on and told them not to mock him- and this is something you can email her about. Say your son found it upsetting and that he generally enjoys sport, and that he may do with some encouragement in future lessons.
Teachers do use humour, and not to mock students, but being serious 100% of the time is not in everyone's personality.