To ask what you do that annoys your other half?

[TinaTurnipp]

We see a lot of threads about what the partners do that grind our gears so I thought maybe some of us could own up to the things we know we do! No one is perfect after all

I'll start... Mine is baths. I can sit in the bath for well over an hour which often leaves OH bursting for the loo or waiting for a wash himself. I'll admit, it's pretty selfish when he's come in from a day at the workshop very grubby and needing a clean. I don't even notice the time go, I just love relaxing in there!

I note the title of this post refers to "Partners" and not just "Husbands". Here is a man's perspective.
Yesterday my wife, whom I love very much, was looking at a website to buy presents for her relatives. She asked my advice.
I said to her "So you are looking for an alternative present to the one you can't find any more?"
The answer to that should have been "Yes".
The actual answer she gave was so long I lost the will to live before she finished talking.
She does this all the time.
She thinks I do not talk enough.

I spend hours on mumsnet instead of coming to bed when he feels entitled to sex

Never answers questions properly example DP"what day do the kids break up"
Me " well he isnt going in on friday "
Where it should have been " thursday " lol

Breathing!

I constantly forget to take my mug through to put next to the sink. I take ages to drink my coffee (drawback of having it black, takes a while to cool), so he grumps about having to delay washing it up til half an hour after he's finished his own.

Tbf given my dad used to tell me off for exactly the same things when I was a teenager, ain't no way dh is breaking me of that habit now!

OnlyaMan sounds like me!

Go on... What do you do that's annoying? We're all friends here

"Breathing", according to my ex husband ;D

Ooh a thread I can sink my teeth into. Easy. I remind the husband of our vow when we married. Not the death us do part ones, the secret ones. I promised not to turn into my mother (psychotic, quite literally) and he promised not to turn into his dad (paranoid but lovely). When he becomes paranoid I'll say 'oh hello there DFIL, I didn't see you come in' and he insists he isn't being paranoid. (No dear, the gasman is not fronting for Roswell. He did not place a listening device in the cupboard).

He gets really fed up with me saying, 'I did tell you that before.' He always tells me I can't expect him to remember everything I've told him. (I'm often annoyed that he hasn't remembered of course. 😂

He loves sneezing. Loves it. So every time he’s going to sneeze I try and ruin it.

It’s pointless and mean but I laugh my ass off every time!

I am rubbish with tool names.

I am a bit ocd, and get tetchy with certain things like where the car keys are kept, etc.

Sometimes I can't hear him properly (hearing issue after meningitis) and instead of asking him to repeat himself assume what he has said, which can frustrate him, or can amuse him!

I have a poor body image and so am constantly on calorie control and won't deviate. This frustrates him because he thinks I don't need it!

I don't feel able to relax without a clean and tidy house.

Worst is I lose things constantly. This frustrates him if its keys, etc.

Poor guy.

CeeCeeEnnEss you mean wife!!!!

Most of the above here as well. What is it about dish washer loading and men? I was on my own for a long time before we met and nobody died due to the way I loaded the dishwasher!
I'll randomly ask a question apropos of nothing, drives him mad as we'll be having a conversation about something completely different. It's like I've got my own conversation going on in my head (according to him) but according to me it's multi tasking.

Thankyou TinaTurnipp for your understanding. I showed my post to my lovely wife, and after a short CBF, she reminded me of this-
I frequently say "I didn't know that! When did you tell me?"
Obviously she did tell me, but I was not paying attention. When I say this, she makes a sort of "throttling" gesture with her hands.

I don't close things properly. Drawers, cupboards etc. Thankfully we have soft closing ones for the most part now but when we didn't it was like that scene in 6th sense when I'd been in the kitchen. I also don't put lids on things properly

Oh and like others apparently I don't load the dishwasher properly. He's forever rearranging it to his liking

My husband has told me not to ask him for things when he plays the Xbox as he says yes to anything because he is to focused on the game. Like a tumble dryer I had been going on about for months he kept saying no until I got fed up and asked him he said yes went and ordered it he came through and said what I asked for so told him came next day he was to happy lol..

I struggle to see the serious-ness in situations and cannot get stressed over silly little things like calling BT/changing suppliers/workmen/kids homework!

He finds my this incredibly irritating

Starfish in bed when I am sleeping, I hate to either touch myself, ie leg to leg or touch another person while I am going to sleep, it drives my hubby nuts when he has to constantly try to fit himself around me in bed.

I also like to get in to bed and put my feet on him if they are cold..... but wont let him do the same to me haha.

I have a really good knack of waiting until he is almost sitting down - like knees bent, bum almost on the seat before I ask him to help with something or to do something, I don't do it on purpose but I sure do find it funny hah.

Leaving my cars keys downstairs overnight( if someone breaks in during the night they could get keys and steal car).
Turning the shower temp to cold to rinse the shower cubicle after I’ve cleaned it and forgetting to turn it back up so when he goes in the shower next he gets drenched in freezing water.

When taking cats to the vet, I imitate their miaows.

I'm insufferably miserable every January, and this year, I did overtime well into February. He does his best to show patience and understanding, and he looks after me when I'm down, but I know that my "moping" really drives him mad; he was born for happiness, and feels guilty about having a good time himself while I'm crying my eyes out because I don't want to do anything else.

When we go on a long journey, I keep saying anxiously "did we pack this, did we pack that" ten seconds after we have joined the motorway. For this reason, he insists on five minutes of sitting quietly before we set off, to get the "did we pack..." anxiety out of the way.

When talking about things I've done during the day, I always list the negative stuff. He tries to pre-empt this with "did anything funny happen today"?

I have the audacity to moan about the house being untidy, when I'm the worst offender for making mess; I tend to "plonk" everything down and kick my shoes off whenever I come in through the front door, and run to the toilet; putting stuff away is soon forgotten. The supermarket shopping would remain untouched in its bags (including stuff for the freezer) if it wasn't for him briskly marshalling putting it away at once. I also add to the mess (and deplete our money) by constantly buying stuff, and then lacking the willpower to use it. That treadmill has been gathering dust for some time...

I keep interrupting him when we are arguing

Nothing, I'm perfect and a dream to be around 😉

I am just a general pain in the arse. But he loved me.

I don't put my shoes on the shoe rack. I put them in the general vicinity of the shoe rack. And I disagree with his belief that the dishwasher can only be opened after 6.30pm