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To ask what you do that annoys your other half?

146 replies

TinaTurnipp · 12/12/2018 19:47

We see a lot of threads about what the partners do that grind our gears so I thought maybe some of us could own up to the things we know we do! No one is perfect after all Grin

I'll start... Mine is baths. I can sit in the bath for well over an hour which often leaves OH bursting for the loo or waiting for a wash himself. I'll admit, it's pretty selfish when he's come in from a day at the workshop very grubby and needing a clean. I don't even notice the time go, I just love relaxing in there!

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StinkyHedgehog · 12/12/2018 20:32

Apparently, I don't load the dishwasher properly Hmm

… so I let him do it by himself. And let him unload it too. Result Grin

FascinatingCarrot · 12/12/2018 20:34

I don't fill the dishwasher like Jesus on ADHD medication
Grin Grin Grin Grin

EvaReady · 12/12/2018 20:36

I overfill the sink and I don't pay any attention to his spreadsheets - this amuses and annoys him equally!

Youngandfree · 12/12/2018 20:39

@gamerchick 🤣🤣 I do the exact same!! And I put things away when he’s cooking. Like the salt...and then he’ll turn around and where has the salt gone 🙈🙈

Also he hates when I put things on the side of a step on the stairs (means it needs to go upstairs when someone is passing) but he passes the stuff and says ‘will you stop putting things on the stairs it’s dangerous I could have slipped” I just shrug and say pick it up and bring it upstairs then problem solved. Pair of us in it there I suppose 😂😂

Screaminginsidemeagain · 12/12/2018 20:44

I put clothes in the wash inside out, socks still in bottom of trousers etc.
Don’t stack the dishwasher ‘properly’

Lymphy · 12/12/2018 20:44

I furiously click the mouse and enter key on the computer about 4679322 times when it work - drives him insane, I should just wait and let it load or whatever

I eat all the Malteser celebrations then re wrap grapes in their wrappers. I think it’s funny. He gets the fury.

Lymphy · 12/12/2018 20:45

*wont work!

NotyourMummynotyourmilk · 12/12/2018 20:47

I call him “babe”. Have done for 30 years he only told me last month he hates it😂😂. I am trying to stop but it is ingrained in me now. I told him he may have to just suck it up!!

gamerchick · 12/12/2018 20:48

Also he hates when I put things on the side of a step on the stairs (means it needs to go upstairs when someone is passing) but he passes the stuff and says ‘will you stop putting things on the stairs it’s dangerous I could have slipped” I just shrug and say pick it up and bring it upstairs then problem solved. Pair of us in it there I suppose 😂😂

Heh I do the same Grin

RivanQueen · 12/12/2018 20:49

I leave my dirty clothes strewn around my side of the bed, they'll make it into the washing basket when I'm about to put a load on.
I talk to him while walking away from him so he then doesn't hear me properly and I have to repeat myself which makes me shitty cos he's (obviously) not listening to me.
I cook using every pot, pan and dish in the kitchen, he's a very clean cook so it drives him absolutely crazy.

PuntasticUsername · 12/12/2018 20:50

I rearrange the kitchen because I've thought of better storage arrangements, and don't tell him where things now are. He thinks I do it on purpose to reinforce the fact that I'm in charge in the kitchen. He might have a point.

I use talc in the bedroom when he's just hoovered.

I get annoyed when he doesn't follow my new ways of doing things when I've never actually explained the new ways of doing things.

I forget things constantly. I can't help it, and he's very patient about it.

I get stressed out about work, come home and rant to him. He listens patiently but he doesn't really understand why I don't leave work at work, like he does.

Reading this back: I have major issues and he's a Saint. He has annoying habits too, honest, and I also have many fine qualities.

Justabadwife · 12/12/2018 20:55

The way I drink.
I hokd my breath when I drink, but if I'm really thirsty I can drink a pint of juice, cordial, water vodka and coke really really quickly, I sort of gulp it down far to fast then I gasp for air when I'm done.
It infuriates him. Tbf it is probably really annoying 🤔 🤣

FallenAngel89 · 12/12/2018 20:56

When he asks me what I want to eat and I say "It's up to you" then say no to nearly everything he suggests 😂😂

Huntawaymama · 12/12/2018 20:58

My other annoying thing...
I don't lock the house door when I go out (country cottage in the middle of nowhere and I'm never gone long) but I usually lock the door once the kids and I are inside. IMO the kids are the only thing worth stealing haha

iamyourequal · 12/12/2018 20:59

I do lots of things that pee him off, but I reckon the things I do which annoy him most are:
Shrinking his fancy clothes in washing machine.
Leaving items to go upstairs on the bottom step.(I argue it’s not a tripping hazard if he takes them up!)
Saying ‘I don’t mind’ what we watch on telly (as I know my actually choosing is futile).
Serving him dinners containing rice or sweetcorn or that have come out my Indian cookery books. (He has a point!).
Hanging dish towels on the wrong handles.
Paying for things with the wrong card/voucher/discount site.

Failing to return my library books.
Buying anything from people who call at the door.

Losing things (I put my hand up fully for that one!).

MeOldChina · 12/12/2018 21:00

I leave wardrobe doors open.

I always leave the last mouthful of cold tea in my cup.

I can't always keep a lid on it, so if something is on my mind I can end up haranguing him about it the minute he gets home from work. This was especially when I was on mat leave.

I moan about my weight but struggle to stick to a plan.

I listen to radio 4 to get to sleep. In fairness, he has grown to enjoy some of the programmes Smile

Bluesheep8 · 12/12/2018 21:03

I'm really really messy. Appallingly so. And I start a conversation whilst walking up or downstairs, then continue to shout to him from whichever room I've ended up in. He then refuses to shout up/down the stairs so goes silent. I then call his name repeatedly until he appears wherever I am and informs me in an angry whisper that I started the conversation and HE refuses to shout. Actually, that's really annoying now I put it in writing! Blush

Threeminis · 12/12/2018 21:06

I'm the same @formerbabe I never close cupboard doors.
I'm also terrible for not putting lids on properly. He gets proper ragey - it makes me do it on purpose sometimes.

His biggest gripe was the three years that I "stole his sneezes", every time I noticed he was about to sneeze I caught his attention or yelled Aaaattttccchhooo. It was so much fun I might do it again

Escolar · 12/12/2018 21:14

I have a tendency to interrupt him, even though I try not to.

He would probably like me to be tidier.

I spend too much time on my phone.

Bluesheep8 · 12/12/2018 21:15

And tends to happen at around 6am, which makes it even more annoying

Veronicat · 12/12/2018 21:15

I squeeze the toothpaste from the top on purpose
He's now foiled me by buying pump toothpaste Grin

AntMoon · 12/12/2018 21:18

How much time I spend on Mumsnet....

minisoksmakehardwork · 12/12/2018 21:21

Procrastinating (dh hates mine).

I loathe him putting the baking trays in the oven, because we have a cupboard for them and I invariably turn the oven on without checking (because they should be in the cupboard).

Him leaving the milk bottle foil on the worktop.

Putting things back in the food cupboards in the wrong place.

Actually generally him putting most things away as he goes 'there's a space' rather than 'that goes there'.

stegosauruslady · 12/12/2018 21:23

I also do not put lids on properly.

I lack confidence in dealing with tradespeople...I'm convinced every time that I will tell them something that will mean we end up with the wrong thing.

He just claimed that I am not that annoying, although given that I am 36 weeks pregnant and fucking enormous he may just know what is best for him!

WitWicky · 12/12/2018 21:25

I try and talk to him whilst he's watching tv

Make dinners that require him to try new things (and intentionally serve them to DS4 at the same time so DH has to try his hardest to eat it!)

Have no sense of spatial awareness and refuse to defer to his better judgement until room/furniture dimensions have been proven by measuring tape

Vent at him about work stresses

Am massively unhelpful choosing films/shows to watch unless they are awful sounding horror flicks Blush

Starfish in the bed GrinStar