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To ask what you do that annoys your other half?

146 replies

TinaTurnipp · 12/12/2018 19:47

We see a lot of threads about what the partners do that grind our gears so I thought maybe some of us could own up to the things we know we do! No one is perfect after all Grin

I'll start... Mine is baths. I can sit in the bath for well over an hour which often leaves OH bursting for the loo or waiting for a wash himself. I'll admit, it's pretty selfish when he's come in from a day at the workshop very grubby and needing a clean. I don't even notice the time go, I just love relaxing in there!

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pinkunicorn20 · 12/12/2018 21:33

I eat all the Malteser celebrations then re wrap grapes in their wrappers. I think it’s funny. He gets the fury.

This is my next prank!!

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TinaTurnipp · 12/12/2018 21:47

I'm reading so many of these and think 'oh shit, I do that too!' Grin

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jcyclops · 12/12/2018 21:49

Breathe

Tigger001 · 12/12/2018 21:58

I keep clicking/pressing the keyboard/ button on keyboard or remote if it doesn't respond quickly enough ...... Apparently that prolongs the action as I'm asking it to do it a million times, I should wait for it to load...I'm the least patient person.

Also the way I squeeze my toothpaste, I should squeeze from the bottom and replace lid, not squeeze from the middle and lose the lid dribbles everywhere 😳😳😳

MalcolmsBrokenWalrusMoneybox · 12/12/2018 22:11

I crack my knuckles with wild abandon.
Crack
Crack crack

BriocheBriocheBrioche · 12/12/2018 22:29

I always leave a bit of tea or coffee in the bottom of my cup! He hates it!

Pachyderm1 · 12/12/2018 22:32

I drop towels on the floor instead of hanging them up.

bringincrazyback · 12/12/2018 22:35

I don't like 'just' watching TV, I always have to be doing something else at the time. We've had many an argument over this, but I get bored shitless if I have to just sit and look at the screen.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 12/12/2018 22:40

I have tidying routines and hate breaking them. Also I don’t put salt in food as I don’t like salty stuff, he likes everything to taste of sea water.

PostmanBos · 12/12/2018 22:42

I have slight hearing issue and sometimes mishear things or talk too loudly which annoys dh as he has quite sensitive hearing himself. Also tend to zone out if he starts rambling on so I sometimes don't hear what he said for that reason. I did tell him to keep his stories short, concise and to the point but he found that annoying too!

brimfullofasha · 12/12/2018 22:58

I don't stack the dishwasher properly. When he asks me how to do simple domestic tasks I say 'I'm not your mother' or something sarcastic instead of just telling him. I don't replace lids properly. I won't get rid of my books even though I'll probably never read them again.

BillyAndTheSillies · 12/12/2018 22:59

If it's my last trip to the toilet before bed, I don't pull my trousers up and just waddle to the bedroom. It drives him crazy. I actually feel the rage coming from him as I burst in to the bedroom with my trousers round my knees.
No idea why I do it, I could just take them off and walk back in my knickers.

I don't turn lights off or shut doors.

I push the car door open with my foot.

I go to bed just to sit in the bed comfortably and read. He doesn't understand why I don't go to bed just to sleep.

Maybe if I was married to me I'd be pissed off at those things too?

KeepTheBloodyNoiseDown · 13/12/2018 00:44

I start conversations, then wander out of the room. In my defence, I think a lot of this is down to the fact that my dm never stays still, so I grew up having to wander from room to room to talk to her.

I can’t just sit and watch tv, I have to do something else at the same time, and I’m rubbish at relaxing.

contblin · 13/12/2018 07:38

Don't load the dishwasher 'properly'

Drive too fast, apparently

He hates it when I don't pay complete attention to what we're watching on tv. I might not be too fussed and on mumsnet instead and he loathes it.

Initiate sex downstairs but end up falling asleep before he's come to bed Blush

ChocolateTearDrops · 13/12/2018 07:46

I think my partner is on here @RivanQueen that's him to a T! Xmas Grin Do you also answer a straight yes/no question with "Well... "

If so... where did you leave my craft scissors? The very sharp ones?

Xmas Grin
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TinaTurnipp · 13/12/2018 07:48

I hide things when I tidy to the point where even I can't find them again and then we spend all morning looking for the important thing he needs for work that he'd purposefully left on the coffee table Blush

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thenewaveragebear1983 · 13/12/2018 15:55

I ask leading questions about feminism stuff to our sons which appears to annoy Dh. Yesterday it was 'why do princesses have to be pretty?'^^ As a response to some throwaway comment from Ds. For some reason challenging patriarchal bullshit means that I'm some kind of lentil weaving hippie.

It's all lighthearted, but I think deep down it forces him to challenge his views which he'd rather not do because he's a white middle class male so why the hell would he need to???

I also think it annoys him that when I say I'm going to go something , I actually do. Like in January we were going to 'get fit' - I started running and have run every day, lost 3 stone etc- Dh has not. Again, it's not that he cares whether I do per se, it's that my doing so highlights his not doing so.

ShartGoblin · 13/12/2018 16:04

I refuse to make the bed. It drives him nuts but, in my opinion, the next time I'm going to see my bed is when I'm messing it up to get in it! Sometimes when he's just made it, I'll flop onto it or pull up a corner then get the giggles at his grumpiness for ages.

Deeedeeee · 13/12/2018 16:16

I can tell when he's lying to me. It drives him mad. Mostly just little white lies to simplify things or make his life easier, no malicious intent. But I can read him like a book and I find it difficult not to pull him up on it. I should let him get away with the little things but I can't!
I interrupt him because he talks ridiculously slowly (I have been known to shout "Entish!" and walk away. This is rude I know).
I nag him about all the stuff he's said he'll do but hasn't done.
I don't know why he puts up with me. He can't help talking slowly, and he only lies about the stuff he hasn't done to avoid the nagging I guess.

Aprilsinparis · 13/12/2018 17:15

I spend money,.....he hates spending money.

madeoficecream · 13/12/2018 17:38

Using the car as a bin.... demanding immediate attention for no good reason... expecting him to know the answers to any maths/DIY question I have despite him being no more interested in those things than I am.... throwing cups of cold water over the shower curtain... insisting he answer the phone to my dad... eating everything sweet before he gets a look in....

But to be fair I've never been different and he married me anyway... so it cant annoy him that much!!

Bunnymumma · 13/12/2018 17:45

I twiddle a piece of hair a lot and let empty toilet rolls collect on top of the cistern. I drive DH absolutely nuts but I'm trying to do both less!

cleanhousewastedlife · 13/12/2018 17:53

I do not put the cheese in the cheese box in the fridge (because I don't understand why we have to have a cheese box). Still he's put up with it for a decade ....

greencatbluecat · 13/12/2018 18:01

Hmmm....

1 not putting tv onto HD channel (neither kids nor I can tell the difference between HD and normal tv)

  1. Asking him to do anything about house , eg pick his shoes, papers etc off floor so I can vacuum
3 not sieving eggs when making scrambled egg Hmm 4 breathing .... ok joking ....
McPie · 13/12/2018 18:03

I get really chatty the second my head hits the pillow, all these thoughts just seem to pop into my head that I need to share that second Grin

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