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To ask what you do that annoys your other half?

146 replies

TinaTurnipp · 12/12/2018 19:47

We see a lot of threads about what the partners do that grind our gears so I thought maybe some of us could own up to the things we know we do! No one is perfect after all Grin

I'll start... Mine is baths. I can sit in the bath for well over an hour which often leaves OH bursting for the loo or waiting for a wash himself. I'll admit, it's pretty selfish when he's come in from a day at the workshop very grubby and needing a clean. I don't even notice the time go, I just love relaxing in there!

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TinaTurnipp · 13/12/2018 18:07

Using the car as a bin.... demanding immediate attention for no good reason

Yes and yes!

I get really chatty the second my head hits the pillow

YES.

or the second he walks through the door from work I just have to share every single minute of my day with him. He says I blow his head off Grin Grin

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chaoscategorised · 13/12/2018 18:08

I'm shit at washing up and when I walk I walk fast and weave through spots he can't fit through, leaving him hovering in gaps hahaha.

Ragwort · 13/12/2018 18:09

Loads ........ also can't tell the difference between HD and and non HD TV.

Apparently don't load the dishwasher properly.

Don't clean/tidy the car.

Don't want to engage in bedroom activity Grin

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TinaTurnipp · 13/12/2018 18:12

There seem to be some themes around dishwashers and dirty cars going on!

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TinaTurnipp · 13/12/2018 18:14

when I walk I walk fast

You've reminded me of another. I cannot shop at a leisurely pace like OH can. I like to whizz around the supermarket and be in and out. He refused to come with me now to do the food shop which is fine because we spend less!

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courgettetrees · 13/12/2018 18:14

I want to chat at 4am

Lapsingpro · 13/12/2018 18:33

Grate cheese at an angle which upsets his sandwich slices..
Leave half drank drinks everywhere..
Clean glass/mirrors but leave it streaky..
use him to warm up cold feet..

Parttimewasteoftime · 13/12/2018 18:42

I am a crier 😢 If my DH shouts or even has a different opinion which upsets me I cry. I try not too he hates it says you can't shout at a crying person.
I worry about small things at school I seem to think the teachers will care if my DS is dressed as the best person or if he brings his homework in at the time.
I hate me actually am such a try hard 😂

aLilNonnyMouse · 13/12/2018 18:51

I say "pika" every time he's about to sneeze.

Serialweightwatcher · 13/12/2018 18:55

Continually pausing the tv to say something about the programme (but I don't want to miss any)

Looking up who the actors are and announcing who is married to whom and what they used to be in (usually not pausing throughout this though or I'd be in a lot more trouble)

Shouting a question from another room

Ilovehamabeads · 13/12/2018 19:10

We have 2 boxes in he kitchen for card and plastic recycling. I put everything in the one box. Makes no difference really as it still gets sorted before going outside but it drives him batty.
I also use a clean cup every time I make a cuppa whereas he thinks I should use the same one more than once.
I don’t think there’s anything else, we bumble along quite nicely together.

WhyDontYouComeOnOver · 13/12/2018 19:44

I do most of these if I'm honest.

I also wear my socks to bed as I get freezing feet, then take them off with my toes as soon as they're warm and push them out of the bed onto the floor.

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TinaTurnipp · 13/12/2018 20:35

Looking up who the actors are and announcing who is married to whom

Yep. I'm like a wealth of useless celeb knowledge that he gives not one toss about.

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MiraculousMarinette · 13/12/2018 21:03

It used to annoy my ex that I never spoke about my day or didn't verbally vomit my thoughts and emotions over him.
It used to annoy him that I left coffee droppings in sugar jar.
Oh and the fact that I would never pick a fight. He lurved a good argument but it was usually just him yelling at me without any response from me.

Parttimewasteoftime · 13/12/2018 21:06

I am worse than I thought also do sock thing and know lots of celeb rubbish....

Saracen · 14/12/2018 00:27

I tidy his tools away into completely miscellaneous places. He has a LOT of tools.

He'll then ask me where I put his smaller weasel-toothed snoopling spanner, the one which he deliberately left on the bedroom floor a week ago SO HE COULD FIND IT WHEN HE NEEDS IT, and he needs it URGENTLY, so why is it not where he left it?

Sometimes I deny having removed anything from the bedroom floor and accuse him of having lost it himself. Usually I do believe myself when I say this, but sometimes later a vague memory bubbles to the surface and I realise maybe I did move it after all. But obviously I'm not going to back down at that point, having spent 20 minutes vehemently maintaining that I never moved it. I know that if I change my story at a late stage, I will invariably be held responsible every single time he loses any tool in future. So I stick to my story. (If I do manage to figure out where I put the spanner, I quietly smuggle it back into the bedroom and "find" it there "just where you left it".)

Usually though, I truly have no idea whether I moved it and if so where. First we have to play Twenty Questions so I can learn exactly what a smaller weasel-toothed snoopling spanner looks like, in case that may help me remember whether I've seen it. Since DH is singularly bad at describing things which to him are obvious, this takes a while. "You must know the one I mean. It's just like my bigger weasel-toothed snoopling spanner, but smaller." I am not trying to be dense, but I'm sure it seems that way.

I know full well that even when I know exactly what a smaller weasel-toothed snoopling spanner looks like, I will still have no idea where I put it, so this is a pointless exercise. But I go through the motions so as to give the appearance of wanting to help him find it.

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TinaTurnipp · 14/12/2018 07:58

Saracen you have just described a Saturday morning in our household. I love it!!

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MonkeysMummy17 · 14/12/2018 08:33

saracen that made me giggle Grin

Mine is I leave my shoes in the living room instead of putting them on the shoe rack, gives him the absolute rage and he comes in and studiously picks them up and puts them away. In my defence I am likely to be going back outside with nappies so I don't want to traipse six feet to the hall to get my shoes every time I need to go outside.

Occasionally I remember to put them away and he looks a bit bewildered when no shoes are to be found Grin

He asks which snacks are OK to eat, and I'll tell him he's a grown up and to work it out for himself, but then get a bit incredulous that he has once again chosen the children's snacks to eat and he thinks I should have put a limit on what he's allowed or how much of it like not eating an entire box of breadsticks

moonlight1705 · 14/12/2018 08:42

I leave food out of the fridge once I've used it like the cheese block, milk etc and I'm also very slapdash when it comes to use by dates as in my opinion its fine unless actually growing mold or smelling awful.

I also don't use his complicated system of discount vouchers, bank rewards and cashback sites every time thus losing 2p of credit which 'all adds up' apparently. In the same vein, I would rather get all the shopping done in one place so I know I have it in for the week rather than get it from the other local supermarkets where there is a better offer which annoys him greatly as it would save us money.

showmethegin · 14/12/2018 09:40

@Saracen that just made me actually cry with laughter! That is spot on in our household.

Conversely when I need to use a tool for something, I never know the proper names for them; I once asked him for the stick with a handle on one end and a star on the other. Apparently I meant Phillips screw driver.

Sassy306 · 14/12/2018 09:47

Im bad for not listening when he's talking then trying to pretend I know what he said which usually backfires lol. I also don't pay attention when we watch a film as I can't sit still for that long and focus purely on the TV. Plus if we argue I throw big words at him which he doesn't understand and talk too proper like a headmistress apparently haha, probably why I always win and I'm always right ;)

OkMaybeNot · 14/12/2018 12:30

Asking him to grab me something from the place he's just come from, after he's sat down. It's not my fault I only remember I want it once he's come back! Grin

OkMaybeNot · 14/12/2018 12:34

I say "pika" every time he's about to sneeze.

I'm stealing this.

Pretamum · 14/12/2018 12:56

I leave little piles of paperwork / pens / random stuff all over the house, and it drives him crazy. Also leave receipts, empty water bottles / wrappers in the cup holders in our car, which again irritates the hell out of him.
On the rare occasions that he cooks (I love cooking so rarely relinquish this task to him) I hover around the kitchen, saying things like 'that's an interesting way to cut an onion' or 'I wouldn't do it like that'. I get banished from the kitchen pretty quickly!

TeeBee · 14/12/2018 13:15

Jesus, I think I'd have to kill most of you. Your poor DH's!
Mine has never told me that I annoy him about anything. He, very gently, implies that a general pattern of behaviour really annoys him of other people...never me. But I think its a hint.
For example, if I have said something to him and he can't hear me, I'll say it three times then say 'oh, forget it! It wasn't important'. He'll tell me (on a different occasion) that it drives him crazy when people do that. But wouldn't ever say I drive him crazy. Bless him.

On the other hand, he has bloody loads of irritating habits :-D