Boyfriend put videos of me on his social media ...aibu to be annoyed?

[harriet333]

Friday night I went out to my works Christmas party.
I got very drunk.
Got back and I was struggling to make it upstairs /being sick as I went into a bucket.
Woke up Saturday morning and he had snap chatted it all to his Snapchat.
Me lying on the stairs,a video of me being sick a video of me passed out in bed.
Aibu to be annoyed here?

I actually think it’s funny. Don’t act like a fool, problem solved

Op, I think the only foolish thing you’ve done is trust your boyfriend. What kind of an indiot does that? We’ve all done daft things and got drunk now and again, but the whole world does not need to see you vomiting and ill and I think he has treated you appallingly and been hugely disrespectful towards you.

Does he have many friends OP?

I can't imagine many adults being happy to be recorded and posted to SnapChat every time they see him. I wouldn't be friends with him and I wouldn't be around him if I was your friend.

This isn't the behaviour of a lovely man. It is the behaviour of an immature, selfish, self-obsessed manchild with no social awareness.

This would be a deal breaker for me. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who had such utter disrespect for my privacy.

I'm not sure who he sent it too but he posted it to his story which is visible for 24 hours
Yeah he has lots of friends

Ffs @Ated, u ok hun? The boyfriend was a twat and getting drunk does not mean someone deserves humiliating on social media, but advocating criminal damage and poisoning as punishment for twattish behaviour is at least as bad, get a grip on yourself

I would 100% break up with him over this.

Ergh. It's like going out with a 14yr year old. Grow up.
And yes I would break up with him. And be furious. How do you know what else he's snap chatting

Total disregard for you. I wouldn't be with anyone who thought it was acceptable to film me constantly and share it. What else is he filming OP....

We haven't really spoken today.
Hopefully he has learnt his lesson

If it's the first time he's done this, I'd be clear that her won't be doing it again. If he has form, LTB.

You should be able to be at your worst in private with your partner, without them broadcasting it to the world for a lol.

He sounds tiresome.

He has a really odd sense of humour.
Last week we went out for a meal with 3 other couples....he started snap chatting us all chatting away.
One woman got really annoyed at being filmed
I don't understand why he does it.
I hadn't read this before my last post. Fuck it, LTB. At best, he sounds like a persistent nuisance with significant boundary issues.

I doubt he's learnt any lessons whatsoever. There are never any consequences resulting from his twattery.

Don't kid yourself that the lack of speaking is considered to be a problem- it's an added bonus for him, he doesn't have to explain himself.

If he does this when you're drunk, what's he posting when you're asleep? What's set up in your house that you're not aware of? I couldn't live like this - it's not just the lack of trust, it's the knowing that the person who is meant to love you most in all the world gets some kind of kick out of publicly humiliating you.

I came here fully prepared to tell you that he surely meant well by putting a nice video of your latest vacation online. After all, my female friends all like to post photos of themselves at the beach with their boyfriends.

But:

A video of you being sick, and of you being passed out in bed?

What's next, a video of you under the shower?

You aren't a teenager who thinks it is cool to get drunk, and he clearly knows you didn't want to be seen like this.

I second the idea of putting a video of you breaking up with him online.
Or just break up with him in private if you prefer that.

I don't think an adult man who does that sort of thing is redeemable. A teen who also posts photos of himself being drunk and thinks it is cool, maybe.
But not a proper adult over 30.

OP don't you want a boyfriend who respects you?

Sorry if this was me he'd be dumped! At 36 to be constantly snap chatting too? Couldn't put up with that.

I could understand just joking about it with a couple mates after, maybe even if he'd had one photo of you looking a bit worse for wear, showed the odd mutual friend as a bit of a laugh, still within the realms of normal, depending on your sense of humour of course. But to take humiliating videos and post them for basically everyone he knows to see is a horrendous invasion of privacy and just plain nasty and weird to be honest. I would be very wary of him, the trust is gone.

I'm sorry @harriet333 but he is NOT a lovely boyfriend to have done this to you.
He's is a creep.

And a fucking dick

My dd feels that she is a little too grown up for snap chat now. She’s 14 btw.

What he has done makes me feel nauseous, frankly, and I agree with other posters - what else is he posting? I would feel very uneasy around him. And your friends clearly think he’s a knob too given that one woman had to get angry with him to stop snap-chatting your evening out.

I could not love and respect someone who is such a childish twat. Ltb.

36?! Sounds like a total knob... I couldn’t be with a fool like that... I don’t even know any 36 year olds who Snapchat

He does not sound like a nice man, he sounds like someone with no respect for you and no boundaries. Ugh.

Lighten up darling . Best of luck, Kathyjean

Kathy that’s the second patronising post I’ve seen from you tonight, you taking the piss?

He sounds really immature and silly, snapchatting everything, and disrespecting people's boundaries, I bet he is really popular. That alone would be a dealbreaker, not to mention what he did to you. He sounds like he would take a video of you in labour, and post that onto snapchat.

He needs his phone stuffing up his arse

LTB