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Boyfriend put videos of me on his social media ...aibu to be annoyed?

128 replies

harriet333 · 09/12/2018 16:51

Friday night I went out to my works Christmas party.
I got very drunk.
Got back and I was struggling to make it upstairs /being sick as I went into a bucket.
Woke up Saturday morning and he had snap chatted it all to his Snapchat.
Me lying on the stairs,a video of me being sick a video of me passed out in bed.
Aibu to be annoyed here?

OP posts:
Maelstrop · 09/12/2018 17:10

He's 36? I thought you were going to say 18 or something!

Pretty shit that he preferred to Snapchat humiliating videos rather than help his gf when she was puking and asking for help. Why are you with this shit head?

Nishky · 09/12/2018 17:11

I would LTB for that.

CottonSock · 09/12/2018 17:11

I would end a relationship over this, sorry. Hope you feel better at least

MadameButterface · 09/12/2018 17:13

Oh my good god all these perfect people who never get messy drunk, no it’s not ideal to get in that state but it doesn’t mean that you forfeit all rights to basic respect and privacy fgs.

AmayaBuzzbee · 09/12/2018 17:14

Complete dealbreaker. This is a violation of your privacy and trust. Also done without your consent.

Without a shadow of a doubt I would leave him. Would you really want to share the rest of your life with this w**r? How could you ever trust him?

luckylavender · 09/12/2018 17:14

I'd be livid

TidyDancer · 09/12/2018 17:15

I wouldn't tolerate this for a moment. He stops immediately, deletes all footage and swears to never do it again. Either that or it's LTB time. This is a privacy violation imo.

Whisky2014 · 09/12/2018 17:16

I would be questioning why he did that. To embarrass you? Id be really fucking pissed off.
I would say "we've all been there" but some straight laced mumsnetter will say "no actusaly, we havent" blah blah but you know...a fair few folk have gotten so drunk they are sick. Why anyone would record that and make it available for people to see is beyond me.

I'd leave him!

BumbleBeee69 · 09/12/2018 17:21

I'd never forgive this DICK, like EVER. it's not funny and it's a violation of your private space. You are entitled to Privacy OP, I couldn't be with someone who thinks this is remotely funny.

HE IS A C**T Flowers

ourkidmolly · 09/12/2018 17:24

Weird that a 36 year old man would do that. Very strange indeed. He might hate you.

peachypetite · 09/12/2018 17:25

I would be questioning my relationship.

Lovemusic33 · 09/12/2018 17:26

I would be seriously pissed off. Sounds like he wasn’t happy about you going out without him so he felt the need to embarrass you on social media. I would be very angry if someone posted a video of me throwing up for all to see, very childish of him.

He should have been looking after you, not videoing you on his phone.

MulticolourMophead · 09/12/2018 17:34

Is he trying to embarrass you into never going out? It's a real invasion of privacy, and to film without helping you is mean.

PepsiLola · 09/12/2018 17:35

I honestly thought you were going to say your bf is 19!

36 I would think he is a complete tool for excessive snapchat, and would be utterly humiliated he shared films of me like that.

JustABetterPlayer · 09/12/2018 17:35

LTB? I imagine you’d give the same advice to a woman who posted her husband came home, couldn’t make it up the stairs and threw up everywhere. There would prob be chuckles at taking pictures of it as well....

masterandmargarita · 09/12/2018 17:37

That's just abusive. He's trying to humiliate you under the guise of humour.

diddl · 09/12/2018 17:38

"He snapchats everything
Drives me mad"

Probably not a surprise that he has done this then.

Would you leave him?

BumbleBeee69 · 09/12/2018 17:38

LTB? I imagine you’d give the same advice to a woman who posted her husband came home, couldn’t make it up the stairs and threw up everywhere. There would prob be chuckles at taking pictures of it as well....

Certainly NOT

BumbleeBeeMe · 09/12/2018 17:40

Absolutely gross. Why is he taking such pride in your pain he wants to share it with other people?!
Fucking awful.

missperegrinespeculiar · 09/12/2018 17:41

Jesus, that's really grim! I could not put up with the constant snap chatting anyway, but if a DP put ANY pictures of me on there, let alone humiliating ones like this I'd be very angry.

I think you need a serious talk about respect, privacy and boundaries (not to mention empathy for his sick partner!!)

But also, don't get so drunk, it's not a good look! Clearly though YADNBU!

CaptainBrickbeard · 09/12/2018 17:42

I would be upset by a video of one of my friends puking and crying. I wouldn’t want to see it and I’d really worry about her relationship of her boyfriend was standing there filming it in order to humiliate her.

ciderhouserules · 09/12/2018 17:43

My Ex once taped me (it was the 80s!) snoring on the sofa.

He was an ex pretty soon - and he hadn't even sent the tape to his mates. Just to the (shared) house-mates. I was so embarrassed, but that was easily solved. I LTB.

Badbadbunny · 09/12/2018 17:44

Surely a grown adult doesn't use snap chat constantly?

My thoughts exactly. It doesn't matter so much what he puts on there, but that he snapchats at all. Sounds very immature.

masterandmargarita · 09/12/2018 17:44

Ah maybe you provoked him by getting drunk in the first place so you probably deserved it Hmm

Loopytiles · 09/12/2018 17:45

Nasty, disrespectful and huge violation of your privacy and trust in him.

The recipients of his video probably think he is a wanker. I do.

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