Boyfriend put videos of me on his social media ...aibu to be annoyed?

[harriet333]

Friday night I went out to my works Christmas party.
I got very drunk.
Got back and I was struggling to make it upstairs /being sick as I went into a bucket.
Woke up Saturday morning and he had snap chatted it all to his Snapchat.
Me lying on the stairs,a video of me being sick a video of me passed out in bed.
Aibu to be annoyed here?

Puzzled why the actual fuck did he do that?

Very possibly because he was a hideously cruel bas*d ...

He’d have broken my trust. How the fuck can he think it’s ok? Does he like humiliating you normally?
If you don’t want to leave him , tell him he needs your consent to post anything. Then leave him if he breaks it.

That’s a really awful thing to do.

I wouldn’t do this to a stranger never mind the person I’m suppose to love and care for. Get rid!

I’d be really angry but I also think there’s probably no malice in it, he probably just thinks he’s having a laugh. Unless he’s a nasty control freak of course. Hope your night out was worth it 😜

Oh hell to the fuck no.
Story time. Mr sequins got mashed about a year ago. He's in his 40s, its a very rare occurrence, I haven't seen him drunk since he was about 20, he'd just gone beyond his limits this particular night. He came home, absolutely wrecked, vomited on the bathroom floor, and required my assistance to get to bed. At no point during the night, or the next morning, would it have occurred to me to film that shit. I ribbed him mercilessly (after giving him a bit of a bollocking for having to clean up the bathroom) the next day, but no. That's not OK. Absolute dick move. I'm only a few years older than your P and I don't use Snapchat or any other form of social media incessantly, he should have grown out of this stupid behaviour by now.

Yes he would be dumped op, instead of helping you, and caring for you, he was more interested in taking photos of your situation and putting them on media for all to see, and laugh at. He wanted his mates to laugh at you, and to humiliate you, that is a dealbreaker. Your better off without that immature arse, he is 36 you say, more like 16!

Better find out how he really is now, than to marry and have kids with him.

What a revolting violation of your privacy OP, I’m so sorry he behaved so appallingly.

I’m not sure my relationship could recover from a deliberate attempt to humiliate under the guise of humour.

I’d dump him. What a lack of respect he has for you. Make sure he deletes them.

He has a really odd sense of humour.
Last week we went out for a meal with 3 other couples....he started snap chatting us all chatting away.
One woman got really annoyed at being filmed
I don't understand why he does it.

He is a total cretin. There's nothing to understand. My kids aren't even allowed to post on social media anyone without their express permission. And I wouldn't post anything about them either without their permission. It's not a difficult concept really is it?

He sounds like a man child

Ex-boyfriend surely? He sounds like a total plonker.

I don't understand why he does it.

Because he's a dick clearly getting off on it. He obviously doesn't give a shit about other people's boundaries, privacy or their personal space, even yours. If he actually cared about your privacy, he'd never have filmed in the first place.

God OP aren't you always on edge about what he might be filming? I couldn't live like that.

It does drive me mad.
He will snapchat our drinks in a pub or just sitting there doing nothing
Very annoying
He is a lovely boyfriend but he is social media crazy.

"He is a lovely boyfriend"

No he isn't.

Why do you put up with it?

(and if I was in one of the other couples I would have either smashed his phone or left)

I would snap chat breaking up with him.

So now you're making excuses for him?
Try him out if you have the energy, tell him if he snap chats pics of you etc ever again the relationship is over and see his reaction.
He sounds pathetic

A “lovely boyfriend” who fails to understand concepts of privacy, respect and consent.

No he is not a lovely boyfriend, lovely boyfriend's would be helping you, not filming you worse for wear and putting it on Snapchat for all to see. He sounds as mature as a 13 year old, think carefully before you breed with him. Oh and your labour could end up on Snapchat for all to see.

There are a lot of people here that never make a mistake or do anything embarrassing!!! If you did it all the time and he was trying to make you see how bad you are then maybe he was trying to make a (misguided) point.

However

You've not been out for ages. You were in a state - a LOT of us have been there at some point. Instead of helping you, getting some water, making sure you were OK, he was filming you. Without your consent, as you were too drunk to give it. That's bad enough

But he then went and sent it to that many people? Ask yourself what possible reason he would do this. What does he get out of it? He likes embarrassing and humiliating you in front of all his mates? That's not being a lovely boyfriend!!!

Sounds like a twat -about as mature as a secondary school aged one.

He should have asked for your permission.