As Mum how would you feel about request from step mum?

[OhComeOnRon]

Currently due with my 2nd, my husbands 3rd. Wanted to get him a photo gift for Xmas with scan pics of the 3 of them on and was going to text stepsons wife to see if she had his to send me and didn't really think much of it until a friend said

'Isn't that a bit weird? Won't she be annoyed by it?'

And now I'm not sure. No issues in relationship we all get on, we have stepson every weekend and I just thought it'd be weirder to get him something with only 2 of his kids on?

Sounds lovely.

If the relationship is good then definitely ask. She can always say no!

not sure i'd want scan photos on display to be honest in any shape or form tbh. but ask her anyway what have you got to lose ? it will ever be yes or no.

It's a lovely idea... but I would find it a bit weird in truth being asked for scan pics by his new partner

I wouldn't find it weird if he asked

Maybesay:
"...ask.... sorry if this seems odd, as someone said to me, but I think it would be more odd to not have DSS included. Hope your shopping is going well, see you at the weekend "

Nice idea imo

I think it's far better to include him than leave him off. If his mum is annoyed then it's tough really. It's not really about her.

I think scan pictures are a bit different to pictures of born children, a bit more intimate and personal as it's her pregnancy and insides being scanned. But if you have a good relationship then no harm in asking.

I'd probably wait until you have the baby and put a newborn pic of each child on.
That's less weird

I wouldn’t think it odd at all. In fact I’d be really touched that my child was being included. But that depends on how good the general relationship between you is.

If I'm honest I think the request is a bit strange because I think the gift is strange. Wouldn't you want photos of DSD as a newborn? Then when your baby is born you can add a newborn photo? Do you plan on displaying 3 baby scans in your house?

I wouldn't have a problem with this. It just shows your including her son, I can't see how it could be a bad thing at all.

Lovely idea. If the relations are good then it's definitely better to include his DS

Scan pictures? I think that's a it strange, tbh.

Hmmm I think it's a bit much. Not the asking but having scan pics up. Why not wait and do a pic of all 3 of them as newborns?

Who wants scan pictures up on their wall? The whole thing is weird.

I'd be fuming, no matter how good your relationship is, you're still not and never will be friends. And those are her scan pictures of a baby that she created with your OH so there will still be some level of emotion and connection there.
I understand you don't want to leave DSS out but his scan photo isn't yours to utilise in this instance.
I'm also a SM and would never dream of crossing this line. Newborn photos or similar then yeah.
I don't know maybe she'll be open to the idea 🤷🏻‍♀️

The newborn pictures are definitely a better idea. As for the pp saying it's 'tough' if the Mum isn't happy- not so actually. It's her scan picture, her body and her property.

New born pictures would be much nicer

I'd tell you to f off.

I would say no, it's the inside of my body in that picture and not just the baby. Nice idea but no, maybe wait until the baby is born and have 3 pictures of them as a newborn?

I wouldn't ask for scan pics that's too personal, can you not use pictures of all 3 children instead?

Giving scan pictures as presents under any circumstances is weird.

Giving scan pictures to a man of when another woman was pregnant with his child is bloody weird.

If these were pictures of actual children then I would see no harm in asking but scan pictures? No way. It would be like framing pictures of xrays given scans aren’t that detailed.....

Don’t ask for scan pics (why have you chosen scan pics btw? Why not just a picture of the 3 DC together?)

Oh I’m an idiot! you’re pregnant, that’s why it has to be a scan pic! Of baby 3!