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No invite to the wedding?

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:15

I have two close friends and through them introduced to 3 other girls.
We go out socially on nights out and holidays etc.
One of these girls was getting married today.
Me and the other 4 girls planned her hen weekend and all went away for two nights.
The girls were talking about how good her wedding would be but I got no invite.
Now I assumed I wouldn't be invited to the wedding but I assumed I would get a invite to the reception.
Nothing ...I'm the only one who went on the hen weekend without a invite.
I feel like such a idiot,now clearly I wouldn't of been missed if I hadn't of went on the weekend away as I didn't make the reception cut.
Bare in mind the reception is just a disco with a bar (you have to pay for own drinks) so she wouldn't have to pay etc
I feel like a idiot.

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bimbobaggins · 08/12/2018 20:26

That’s a shame ali, I know how hurtful that can feel. Did you query it at all, maybe it was lost in the post?
If not then I’d just accept I wasn’t as close a friend as I thought and phase her out

M4J4 · 08/12/2018 20:27

That is shit OP Flowers

Is it one of the close 2 friends getting married or one of the 3 other girls?

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:29

It's one of the other 3 girls.
We have socialised holidays/nights out for 3 years now.
I decorated and sorted birthday cake /banners for the girl who got married today's birthday party last year.
I even paid towards her wedding gift (with the other girls)
Feel stupid.

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Didntwanttochangemyname · 08/12/2018 20:30

She invited you to her Hen do but not her wedding? That is really tacky. I'm sorry but I don't think she values your friendship as much as you do (and I say this as someone currently putting together the guest list for my own wedding).

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:30

Deffo not lost in the post ..deffo wasn't invited to reception tonight.

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Jimdandy · 08/12/2018 20:30

That’s really hurtful and shite. I don’t know how people can be so mean and look in the face at her doo.

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:31

If I had known I wouldn't have went to hen do.
Not out of spite just because now I feel like a massive looser.

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AntMoon · 08/12/2018 20:32

That's hurtful! Please don't feel stupid, you just behaved normally going to the hen etc and it seems really weird you didn't get an invite. Was it a super small wedding?

Thingybob · 08/12/2018 20:32

Ouch, yanbu and I hope the wedding is cr*p

PoshPenny · 08/12/2018 20:33

I can completely understand why you feel like that, I would too. Is there any way you can find out if and why you were not invited, there's always the possibility the invitation got lost in the post? I'd be so upset if this happened to me. I just can't believe the bride would deliberately exclude you like that.

SauvignonBlanche · 08/12/2018 20:33

That’s more than a bit off.

Caprisunorange · 08/12/2018 20:33

God what a total cow

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:33

The actual wedding I'm not sure but looking at the snapchats there's a couple of hundred at the reception tonight.

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:34

Yesterday my friend said
"You know I'm sure she wouldn't mind you popping to the reception"
Ouch
Yeah as if I would do that !

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Aeroflotgirl · 08/12/2018 20:35

How rude and hurtful of her, I could not say anything to her. I would!d definitely be ghosting her and organising things with the others🤔🤔

Snowwontbelong · 08/12/2018 20:37

Time for new friends op. ...

CoraPirbright · 08/12/2018 20:37

Oh goodness so its going on right now? I am SO sorry but this bride is a total bell end. You have socialised with her for 3 years ....enough to organise birthday stuff and go on the hen. And she couldn’t invite you to an evening reception with around 200 others?? SHE STINKS.

Aeroflotgirl · 08/12/2018 20:39

What goes through these people's minds when they do this. How do they think it will look,and you will feel.

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alicert · 08/12/2018 20:40

Yep it's happening now.
Been looking through the snapchats :-(
Not gonna look at any more.

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Berthatydfil · 08/12/2018 20:40

And the other girls let you contribute to the wedding gift even though you weren’t invited !

Rafflesway · 08/12/2018 20:42

Wow! Sod that for a game of soldiers!!😠

I would DEFINITELY be giving her a very wide berth from now on. wouldn't feel too great about the others either in this situation 😡

Aeroflotgirl · 08/12/2018 20:44

Yeh time to ditch the lot of them.sounds like they are quite enjoying your not invited and rubbing your face in it, not nice people.

bimbobaggins · 08/12/2018 20:44

Please don’t feel like a loser, this says way more about her than you.

ElfOnTheShelfAteMyJoy · 08/12/2018 20:45

Bloody hell Ali, that's just horrible for you!

iLoveFoood · 08/12/2018 20:45

Jeez maybe she doesn't see you as such a good friend as the others? Does she speak to you like a friend or would it just be that you'd just so happen to be with alll the other girls anyway?

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