To think it's not ok that our neighbours have buried their mother in the garden

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Two middle aged brothers live next door to us with their elderly mum in a house which could well appear in a documentary. The mum's funeral was this week and the grave is in their garden. I'm not sure they won't be sleeping on it. Weird?

I'd just like to say that this is the best thread title I've seen all year.

What's buried in the house should concern the authorities. These brothers need investigation: a SWAT Team called in. John Reginald Halliday Christie concealed bodies inside 10 Rillington Place as well as in the garden - more precisely the back yard.

mum are you joking, being serious or just haven't read the full read ?

John Reginald Halliday Christie concealed bodies inside 10 Rillington Place as well as in the garden - more precisely the back yard.

Not with the help of undertaker, he didn’t

It’s really, really not nice to put up such a nasty and identifiable post about people who are recently deceased and vulnerable anyway.

That sleeping on the grave comment, that’s just mocking their mental health.

What an unpleasant thread.

Princess Diana did this, her friend’s baby was buried in her garden.

It's not weird and more common than you think. What's weird is your reaction, however I think it's a really typical reaction of people who are unfamiliar with death.

Do you mean her whole corpse? Or just the ashes. Personally if it’s the ashes I think it’s ok, but her whole body! I’m not sure about that.

@mumlost1940 I hope you're joking, that's hilarious and bonkers. A swat team?????

Augusta2012 I totally agree. It's childish.

paintinmyhairAgain , ViragoKnows, Winniestones37: seriously joking and did read the full primary posting. I meant to be hilarious and bonkers. JRHC was expert in DIY burial - so didn't require the services of an undertaker. Maybe the brother's street should be named: You Neverleave Avenue.

It's unusual certainly, but not illegal. Although you do need to have various permissions, and there are various criteria you have to meet, such as the level of the water table, and proximity to pipework etc.

I'm not sure I'd want either of my parents in my back garden!

There were already a couple of tasteless and insensitive posts on this thread, but it's now gone beyond that, particularly with one pp.

Let's not forget that this family has suffered a very recent bereavement. Show some respect, people.

Augusta2012 is spot on in her post today at 07.42

It's legal, as long as you own the land (or have permission of the landowner) and observe the rules about proximity to water courses etc. The Natural Death Centre give advice on this - they're very helpful on all aspects of arranging a funeral, especially where people want to do more of it themselves.

Private land burial - this is the direct link to relevant info.

I wouldn’t be ‘spooked’ by this situation. In a way it’s rather comforting that a house and land you might live in and use meant so much to someone before you. But the practical aspects are bothersome.

Suppose you wanted to build on the land, or make a sandpit or a pond etc? It seems exhumation permission and work can be time consuming and expensive.

Though apparently there’s no obligation to grant access if you leave the grave where it is.

TheDarkPassenger Really? Never heard of this in the UK before

Didn't Earl Spencer bury Princess Dian on an Island in a lake in his grounds? Yes, I know that we are not landed gentry but I feel that there is nothing at all weird about it. Especially if you never intend to leave the family home. I should think that a great deal of gardens have pets buried in them, not the same I know but sentiment is, and reason for doing so is.

God knows where my brother would decide to plant me.

Actually he’d probably just leave me sat in a corner for a few years thinking about it before rolling me into a ditch.