To think it's not ok that our neighbours have buried their mother in the garden

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Two middle aged brothers live next door to us with their elderly mum in a house which could well appear in a documentary. The mum's funeral was this week and the grave is in their garden. I'm not sure they won't be sleeping on it. Weird?

It doesn't bother me & I'm glad it's legal.

not sure they won't be sleeping on it

So what?

I'll try again.

I'm not sure they won't be sleeping on it
So what? Why do you need to be sure? Why has this even crossed your mind/been any of your business?

Oh, hang on.....name change.

I agree with echt. Seeing the name change and salacious details, I'm left wondering if the OP is genuine?

documentary
I'm not sure they won't be sleeping on it
Weird?

It reads like a scaremongering Daily Fail article, story gathering, and goady.

If the OP is genuine and just can't be kind, I hope s/he at least leaves her poor neighbours in peace in their grief and doesn't stir up trouble for them by gossiping. We sometimes sleep out in our garden, OP. The DCs camp out with their friends. Weird?

I don't know why it autocorrected to salacious - I don't think even the OP is suggesting that!

Love when an OP loses their shit because they don't like the responses they get.

premiernaps where has OP 'lost her shit'? Am I missing something?

I think it's totally fucking weird, I'd hate this next to. If I'd wanted a grave yard close by, I'd have bought a house next to one. Horrid!

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Two middle aged brothers live next door to us with their elderly mum in a house which could well appear in a documentary. The mum's funeral was this week and"
Definitely illegal. She needs to be dead.

Yes I also don't see where op has lost her shit.

As long as it's been done properly, I see nothing wrong with it at all.

It would bother me, but the whole concept of burial bothers me regardless of location. Cremation makes more sense to me.

It reads like a scaremongering Daily Fail article, story gathering, and goady.

I suspect some with an agenda to promote might try and seize upon it as "unEnglish" somehow and use it to whip up a faux outrage at peoples cultures and values

There was a story a while back about Hindi funerals in the UK where the body is cremated in the open air .

www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/north-east-news/should-open-air-funeral-pyres-14140881

Seems that's legal within restrictions too.

Shame archaeology isn't more popular ... it's hard to deny that the most fascinating thing about digging in the ground is learning about how our ancestors attitudes to death changed over the years ... even in death: there's fashion (which I did suggest to M&S for their 2019 collection. Not heard back yet )

Why don't people go for crouch burials anymore ?
Why doesn't the UK do ossaries and catacombs ?
Whatever happened to the webcam-in-a-coffin service (looks like it's been redirected to "caskets" on Amazon.com )

Well, that's made my Sunday more interesting ....

I don’t understand the bit about the documentary and sleeping on it?

IMO, it’s very sad but lovely that they have her close by. Wouldn’t it be nice to go out to the privacy of your own garden and have a ‘catch up’ with your deceased loved one.

OP lost her shit Where?? Are you reading a different thread?

It wouldn't be for me. I couldn't handle the fact that if I had to move, or when I died the people who moved in next could do what they liked with the grave.

I wouldn't care if a neighbour had a grave in their garden though.

It wouldn't be for me but I can't see any harm in it. Presumably she'll be properly buried and not just propped up against your adjoining fence so what difference does it make?

At least she's not under the patio.

It does seem strange though. I might ask that my parents tell me their favorite spots in their garden. Aibu if I tell them why?

I have seen a house listed on Rightmove which had in the details that the previous owners were buried in the back garden.

I wonder if there's a market for human taxidermy ?

My Mum's next-door-neighbour had her Mum at the bottom of the garden. I thought it was rather nice. I think they did have to mention it to prospective buyers when she sold the house though. Can't remember what happened, I shall have to ask my mother.

Not sure about the legality but my next door neighbour spread her husbands ashes in the garden with their beloved dogs ashes. He asked for that because he wanted to be able to say "he's gone to the dogs"
Not sure about a full burial though

Quite Four. It's like saying you'd never buy a house someone died in. Unless it was in awful circumstances, or a new build how would you ever know?

Because their death certificate will be in the deeds of the house

I think that whatever brings the family peace and comfort is fine (as long as it's legal). We're in general afraid to confront, accept and be close to death I think.

Although I'm not comfortable with it, I can understand that people want to keep their loved ones close. What I don't understand is what happens if the house is sold. They won't be able to take the remains with them so surely cremation would be better if you want to hang on to your loved ones (although I do know some religions don't allow it). Surely no one would expect the new owners to tend a grave of someone they don't know or allow future generations to visit granny?

In the very unlikely event I bought a house with a grave in the garden I'd want to remove headstone and plant something or put a shed on top!

It is legal with the proper permits. My aunt had her DD buried in her backyard.

Depends if she was dead or not.