I’ve ruined Christmas.

[7yo7yo]

Not really but Aibu to ask for your help?
I ordered a Christmas jumper for my daughter, a red grinch one from primark that had sold out at my local primark .
It hasn’t arrived. The whole family have matching grinch sweaters, what do I do?
She’s 6 so it was a small ladies I was planning to shrink a bit to fit!
Please help me.
I don’t even mind changing my jumper as long as we both wear the same (her “command”) but stock is practically non existent in Christmas jumpers for both of us (I’m a 10-12)!
Please help me!

Someone might have said this already but have you tried a child’s jumper on? My Christmas jumper is a Sainsbury age 12 one. I’m a size 8.
Just an idea x

Op I’d like to be your friend, you’ve made me giggle this morning.
When my DD was little I was on a quest to buy her every Care Bear in the set, I traipsed round 5 different Woolworths in London (pre internet shopping days) I found them all, she loved them, she’s now 23 and remembers that Christmas, the Care Bears are in storage in the attic.
Seems there’s been a few Grinches posting on this thread.

Preseacombatir - I loved your phrase ‘ one upmanship of doom’. It so perfectly describes the way nothing is to be enjoyed if so much as one person in the whole world is having a bad day. It is a good reminder that life is an effort for every single person but that some people make an effort not to whinge and make others suffer by dint of self restraint and, often, humour.

That said, I do not wish to belittle the very real problems many people have posted on this thread. But then, nor would I want to pour cold water on a humorous thread either.

@missbloomsbury aaahhh those lines

Thanks kenny I have bought 2 new matching jumpers and Rosieroo we can be mumsnet BFFs .

Think this must rate as one of the bitchiest threads ever!

Glad you got your jumpers sorted! It's these pesky little things that can matter the most to children & some of us mums move heaven & earth to make them happen because making their day & seeing that smile, is worth it!

@Flowerpot2005
I’m not really bothered.
I think it’s an insight to the mumsnet psyche.
How dare you post about lighthearted issues!
There are serious problems in this world and your posting about your child’s Christmas jumper.
I’ve been on mumsnet for several years but this policing of threads shouldn’t be allowed unless it’s obviously a troll.
But as well as the nasty comments there’s such lovely helpful people.
Who would go to a shop to buy a jumper and post it to a stranger?
There are some really nice people out there.
There are also stories that make you so so incredibly sad as posted on here by several posters and I’m sure some of us will think about them on Christmas Day.
Mumsnet is a community which (for better or for worse) can support you or can really push you over the edge.

Why has the jumper not arrived? Can you not check with Primark? How about an appeal on FB ? Someone may have a small that doesn't fit. Personally I think this Christmas jumper thing has gone way beyond belief but each to their own.

@manicmij
I’m chasing it up but in the meantime I have resolved it by buying two more matching jumpers.

Hope your daughter enjoys and you all have a great time.

If my husband was (the late, great and gorgeous) Alan Rickman, and I saw he had a necklace for someone else? I would concede that I had to share him and shouldn’t be so greedy for wanting him all to myself....

@TheGirlWhoLived
That is so true! A fabulous actor and much missed.

I don’t know why this op has so much nastiest and mean things said about her post, I know that when my ds was little I would do anything to make his Xmas perfect, no it isn’t going to make the world a better place, but at least for that one day I could make sure that his world was a little better. He was a very young carer, to me and his dad was a useless thing that pretty much came home from work and started drinking as he opened the door.
No one has the Monopoly on having a worse or better life than any one else we all have shit to deal with and to us it is an issue, but the person down the street has a different issue doesn’t mean that they aren’t both equally important to those involved. If we can’t at least be nice to each other on mn then at least don’t trivialise the things people say. Have a Happy Holiday 🎄🎄

Exactly.
Just because an OP might post about something trivial, you Can’t just fucking assume that’s the only issue in their lives.
it might just be that any other issues might be too big or too emotional or whatever to deal with, and so the OP focuses their energy on a small thing that’s not too much of a big deal.
Or that something that’s happening to them might be something that they grin and bear, and put up with, but a small thing that means a lot to their child they’ll put more of an effort in, as it’s to see their kids happy.

Just because someone posts something you deem ‘trivial’, doesn’t mean you know ANYTHING about their lives. People need to stop being pricks

Merry Christmas OP. I hope your daughter loves her jumper

@Lattesforlife
Quick update. My husband has just presented me with the jewellery that he’s bought.
I’ve been a bit down and upset for various reasons and he said here’s your early Christmas present and it’s a necklace with all of our names on. Tally’s with the receipt. I burst into tears and told him my suspicions to which he looked hurt then started laughing. He is now preening in the mirror. Sucking in his stomach.
Thinks he has the potential to be a Lothario.

@PreseaCombatir that’s exactly my point but you said it so much better than me. You have a fab way with words.
@Sugarsnappy have a good one, hope it’s happy and merry .
@Hellesbelles have a lovely Christmas .

Ahh op, I am bloody thrilled for you! Merry Christmas - I am so glad it’s all worked out (and that you have your jumpers!) x

What a nasty bunch on this thread, did they all miss the OP's first sentence Not really but Aibu to ask for your help

I hope you have a lovely Christmas OP, and that you get a break from all the bad things going on in your life at the moment

Guys, this is mumsnet not G20, you can post about whatever you want, it’s the responses that dial up the exposure so if you don’t like it - Don’t Comment!!!

If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. Especially on MN where people are often posting at their most vulnerable. It's not helpful.

@Riotingbananas it’ll be ok, that’s all I tell myself. As you can see from my previous posts, one of my problems is solved but the others... ah well, such is life!
@SW6mama @iiangennith I think that some people are made that way, they like to bring people down.
But also some people have such major problems, they need An outlet so it’s fine, I hope their lives improve. I’m sure most people don’t mean any malice.
Have a great Christmas!

@7yo7yo

This is my favourite saying and I might have to pinch it.

Santa and his reindeer will shit down your chimney and the elves will piss in your prosecco 

Thank you! X

OP I'm so glad that your husband turned out not to be having an affair.

Have a great xmas.

OP, just read the full thread, dsgusted at the "we lived in't septic tank" mentality. Some people seem to deliberately misunderstand the tone of the thread, ignoring full sentences in the OP, so that they can pile on with the nasty comnents. Some don't even read the thread.

I'm so happy that you've found equally naff jumpers and hope you have great fun wearing them. I'm even happier that your DH was just planning a nice surprise.

Have a fabulous Christmas!