I’ve ruined Christmas.

[7yo7yo]

Not really but Aibu to ask for your help?
I ordered a Christmas jumper for my daughter, a red grinch one from primark that had sold out at my local primark .
It hasn’t arrived. The whole family have matching grinch sweaters, what do I do?
She’s 6 so it was a small ladies I was planning to shrink a bit to fit!
Please help me.
I don’t even mind changing my jumper as long as we both wear the same (her “command”) but stock is practically non existent in Christmas jumpers for both of us (I’m a 10-12)!
Please help me!

[Coromandel]

So, people are only allowed to post if their problems are of a global magnitude, FFS!

Well not really. But if it's worrying you what you're going to wear on xmas day then you have to admit it's miniscule low level stress. Not really the mumsnet ethos I wouldn't think - we're here to share real problems and all. But hey, what do I know?
Not being able to purchase a preferred xmas jumper is something I can easily take in my stride. I can't imagine being that bothered that I'd post about it on Mumsnet.

It's just background buzz though isn't it? People with real insoluble problems tend not to post, and they should because they might find at least some empathy - and at best some good advice which might lead to them getting some help.

Whereas, people who have some petty, trivial and inconsequential 'problems' (just normal commonplace annoyances to most) feel moved enough to seek support on Mumsnet.


I'm cracking on in years, but I do have daughters less than half my age, none of whom seem to be that inflexible and parentally useless that they cannot manage the odd disappointment to their children by making it a positive.

I think this not having matching jumpers thing could have been managed a lot better. I mean, it's really not that important. Is it?

[Iwanttoswingfromachandier]

Coromandel Thu 06-Dec-18 23:22:19
So, people are only allowed to post if their problems are of a global magnitude, FFS!

Well not really. But if it's worrying you what you're going to wear on xmas day then you have to admit it's miniscule low level stress. Not really the mumsnet ethos I wouldn't think - we're here to share real problems and all. But hey, what do I know?

But hey, what do I know?

Errr, in my opinion? not much really - ffs are we really not allowed to vent about 'trivial' things?

[PolkaDoting]

I don’t think the Mumsnet ethos is to post about real problems at all! That would be very boring. I’m here for the laughs.

[Coromandel]

I don’t think the Mumsnet ethos is to post about real problems at all! That would be very boring. I’m here for the laughs

OK, fair point. I'm mostly very appreciative of any amusement available.
There is the odd occasion though, when the depths of triviality are exceeded. Non matching jumpers on xmas day. That was one of them. Meh.

[Coromandel]

In fact, if you send me a pattern I can knit matching jumpers for all of you including kids. Only £75 per item. PM me with your order.

[Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee]

OP, surely there is one other family member who won’t be upset if they don’t have to wear a matching jumper. I can understand why your 6 year old might feel left out if she were the only one not wearing the jumper but surely there is one person who won’t care.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

My christmas is ruined because I forgot to pay a bill when STBXH beat me up and I ended up running my home and family alone on a very small income. The money I saved has had to go on said bill otherwise the baillifs would be invading my home in the next week.

They have very little coming in the way of gifts as all of my wages and tax credits are paying for utilies and food.

Enjoy your non matching jumpers and thank your lucky stars.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

I should say, and I am sure others will back me up, that I am not normally a "be grateful for what you have" kind of poster. But today this fucking hurts.

I wish I had such trivial fucking problems.

And you know the worst? I will keep an eye out for the sodding jumper in the right sodding size and post on here if there is one in my local Primark.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

And I am sorry for being an arse.

[Shriek]

Yabu..v..Christmas so totally not ruined

[Coromandel]

Yabu..v..Christmas so totally not ruined

Even mine's not totally ruined. One 35 year old epileptic non verbal SEN daughter with health problems, which means I can't even have an alcoholic drink in case I have to drive her to the hospital. Still, we manage. We could even wear the same jumper if it were to make any difference whatsoever to the day, and if it mattered in the slightest.

This forum really shows up the extremes of the Christmas experience for different people, does it not? For some it is an enjoyable break from the norm. For others it is a time when regular support is closed down and withdrawn for a week or so until the new year is under way, and support services resume.

I'm always very glad when it's over. I need at least a week to recover.

I remember dropping my daughter of at a day centre on the day before Christmas Eve, and picking her up 4 hours later. The person in charge asked me, with some surprise " Oh! Hello! Are you still on shift?"

I replied "I'm her mother, I'm always on shift"

[Shriek]

Coromandel hope you have a wonderful Christmas together without any rushes to hospital! Puts things into perspective, yes people have such different worries don't they!

It's stark reality sometimes when you look at the list of thread titles.

[Mummyoflittledragon]

Yes it does Shriek. This sort of thread title really pisses me off actually because it’s just to get clicks. If you want clicks, at least put lighthearted in the title.

Getting het up about something so trivial really isn’t worth it.

I’m disabled and chronically ill. Every year I tear myself to shreds to ensure Christmas isn’t ruined for dd. It takes me a month to prep and at least a month to recover.

[PollyFlinderz]

Hi op, you’ve taken quite an unjustifiable hammering here so as someone who has a 27 year old son who’s severely autistic and has epilepsy that causes violent and agressive seizures, he also has Tourette’s, I just wanted to say I don’t grudge you your jumpers or anything else that makes Christmas for you.

Even with all the love in the world and all the support we’ve put in place for him at home in order to have him here with us (we’re not in the UK) life is very hard for my boy but he actually loves Christmas and is already counting sleeps. He’s like a wee boy about it to be honest and I just know if he saw your jumpers he’d laugh till his sides hurt. In fact I think I’m going to go and get some for all of us, t-shirts though because you couldn’t wear jumpers where we live.

I hope you manage to get the jumper for your DD as well as anything else that makes your day.

[PreseaCombatir]

And?!?
All these ‘you think Xmas jumpers are bad, I...’ stories, are just fucking irrelevant tbh, we’re talking about Xmas jumpers.
And at the end of the day, you’re still alive ain’t ya? Some people aren’t? Can’t stand this ‘one-upmanship’ of doom, there’s ALWAYS someone worse off than you, the idea you can’t post about something in case you piss someone off whose had a worse experience? Ridiculous.
Especially when it’s SO apparent the OP was only semi serious

[olivertwistwantsmore]

Sorry, OP. I posted last night after watching an item about Yemen on the news. The discrepancy between their situation and ours got to me. I hope you get your matching jumpers if that will make you happy.

@Littlenips13, I have no idea why you singled me out, as several posters said the same, but reported. Nice second post.

[StopTheVeganMadness]

Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before! "Maybe Christmas," he thought, "doesn't come from a store." "Maybe Christmas...perhaps...means a little bit more!"

[SoupDragon]

we're here to share real problems and all

Since when??

[SoupDragon]

Are people really unable to spot lighthearted posts without a big LIGHTHEARTED warning? Even if the OP starts with "not really..."

[AmIthatbloodycold]

Littlenips your post is actually the nastiest on this thread

[Lattesforlife]

Bloody hell people, it’s not a race to the bottom!

Op is clearly not being serious, and to be honest, my Ds would be gutted if he was the only 1 without a jumper and so I too would be stressing trying to find him one..... and I say that as someone who’s have a bloody shit time at the moment!

Op, I’ll have a look in my local primark later - I hope you find one

[10PollyPockets]

Well this thread escalated quickly! Poor op, hope you find the jumper but I don't think you will be back to update us...

[7yo7yo]

I’M BAAAACCCKKK!
I’ve saved Christmas.
I’ve bought the ugliest wrapping paper jumpers ever from Asda.
Thanks to all the lovely posters your class!
Next time for those with no wit I will post “light hearted” in the title and for all those miserable negative fuckers, May Santa and his reindeer shit down your chimney.
MERRY CHRISTMAS

[MamaBear2181]

I saw Grimch
Pyjamas in Primark, the top was jumper style, and red and fluffy/fleecy. Might do in a pinch?