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To ask not to park outside our house

255 replies

aibuhun · 06/12/2018 17:12

We live on a tight street so if you get back late you will not be parking on that street or you will have to park right at the bottom and walk up (our street is long 5 min walk at least).
Sometimes OH pops to the shops in the evening and someone will take the spot right away so in the morning I have to carry two DCs bags coats right to the bottom. DD is 10 weeks old and DS has just turned two and he hates walking!

I'm getting fed up now and I never say anything as I know you can't fight over a spot but would I be unreasonable to ask them to not park there when I see them pulling up?

They are never neighbours either they are always people visiting Angry

OP posts:
OMGFFS · 06/12/2018 17:13

I mean this with great respect but... you are being unreasonable.

If your street is anything like mine it’s first come first serve and if you leave a spot then someone else might take it.

RestingBitchFaced · 06/12/2018 17:13

Yes you don't own the road outside your house unfortunately

LakieLady · 06/12/2018 17:14

Yes, YWBU.

Make your OH walk to the shops.

cariadlet · 06/12/2018 17:14

I can understand why you're fed up, but there's nothing you can do. Nobody owns the space outside their house. The road is a public highway so it's for public use.

Soiree · 06/12/2018 17:14

I don't think you can ask people not to park in a normal legal way, sorry! They'll also have kids/bags/places to be etc.

GreenHillOpposite · 06/12/2018 17:14

Our street is like this. I just manage, but that's easy for me to say as I am able-bodied, no small children etc.

I'm thinking how I would feel if you asked me. I would presume that someone less obliging than me would end up taking the place anyway.

Sallygoroundthemoon · 06/12/2018 17:15

YABU. I live on a similar street and you just have to suck it up. Don't be the dick who tries to claim the space outside their house is theirs...

JustABetterPlayer · 06/12/2018 17:15

You do not own the road, so yes I’m afraid you are.

Santababyclaus · 06/12/2018 17:15

I sympathise, we have a difficult parking situation where we live but for that reason DP doesn't drive away in the evening. He'll walk or cycle if we need anything urgent.

You can ask people not to park but what are you going to do, jump out your door with every car that tries to park?? They can, and will refuse (we certainly would)

NonaGrey · 06/12/2018 17:15

I know it’s aggravating but you really can’t.

You don’t own the space.

BlancheM · 06/12/2018 17:15
Biscuit
cherrysfortea · 06/12/2018 17:15

YABU it's the public highway.

Winlinbin · 06/12/2018 17:17

I can see how annoying it is but you would be totally unreasonable to do that. Sometimes having to park away from your home is an annoying but inevitable of modern life in built up areas.

Accountant222 · 06/12/2018 17:19

YABU, move if it bothers you so much, you don't own the street.

redfairy · 06/12/2018 17:20

I get that it's frustrating and this was a major factor in us moving house to one with off street parking. Sadly YABU as it's a public highway and you have no priority over anyone else. I don't suppose you could pay for a dropped kerb?

Efferlunt · 06/12/2018 17:20

I have almost the exact same situation as you - it drives me bonkers.

However you can’t ask people to move there legally parked car

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 06/12/2018 17:24

I know it's difficult OP, me/my husband do a strange vehicle-dance and arrange it (if possible) so that we both get to park outside our house (across the road). Ours is also a long road.

I don't do it because I don't want to walk, I do it because the road is a bit wider there and I'm happier about my car not being scratched. I like to park in front of my husband so that if anybody crashes there, it will be his van that cops it, not my beloved car. Blush

No, you can't ask people not to park there. They're just as entitled as you are and you don't want to make a tit of yourself - or them bloody-minded to do it because they can. Just be serene and keep and eye out of the window... and absolutely tell your husband to leave the car there for you as you have to manoeuvre the children.

GhostSauce · 06/12/2018 17:25

Sorry, YABU. If it's a public highway with no allocated parking spaces then the general public are just as entitled to park there as you are.

Twickerhun · 06/12/2018 17:26

Ha ha ha ha ha. Nice one OP

Original poster
aibuhun · 06/12/2018 17:27

We are moving soon THANK GOD!
I guess I will just carry on giving them evils out the window Grin

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TrippingTheVelvet · 06/12/2018 17:29

Nothing in life comes for free. If you want a parking spot, buy a house with a drive.

southnownorth · 06/12/2018 17:29

Yes YABU, I didn't even have a car when my two were tiny.

Buy a house with a drive way.

TrippingTheVelvet · 06/12/2018 17:30

X-post! It's annoying but just look forward to moving Smile

FuzzyCustard · 06/12/2018 17:31

YABU to give them evils too...it's a public road.

I needed to park on a road recently and the only available space had a cone in it. I moved the cone and parked. You can't reserve a space, however irritating it might be.

Hidingtonothing · 06/12/2018 17:31

Surely the real problem is your OH not thinking ahead? If he knows moving the car in the evenings will result in hassle for you the next morning couldn't he get what he needs on his way home from work, or walk to the shop? It's a bit crap not being able to use the car in the evenings but if keeping 'your' space is important that might be the sacrifice you (or rather your OH) need to make.