To ask not to park outside our house

[aibuhun]

We live on a tight street so if you get back late you will not be parking on that street or you will have to park right at the bottom and walk up (our street is long 5 min walk at least).
Sometimes OH pops to the shops in the evening and someone will take the spot right away so in the morning I have to carry two DCs bags coats right to the bottom. DD is 10 weeks old and DS has just turned two and he hates walking!

I'm getting fed up now and I never say anything as I know you can't fight over a spot but would I be unreasonable to ask them to not park there when I see them pulling up?

They are never neighbours either they are always people visiting

we have two but OH parks on another street in a car park because he gets back late.

Get him to use his car then!

So...why don't you do the same as me and stop outside house to unload bags/books, then park and walk back with kids?

@mykingdomforbrie

Not everyone is the same, some people wouldn't consider it annoying to have to walk five minutes with kids, and bags.

WTAF?

I have to admit, I don't know a soul in real life who WOULD consider it annoying, to have to walk FIVE MINUTES with kids, and bags!!!

Good grief. No wonder the word snowflake is bandied about so fervently. I can't believe what I'm reading here. God help the OP, and you (and people like you both) when you actually have a real crisis!

And I am having a lovely evening thanks very much. Had a lovely 2 mile walk this afternoon, on my afternoon off. Don't suppose you would like that much though - I mean actually walking........

I would blame your DH for going out late and ‘losing’ the space tbh!

Going out to get medicine for a child might be an emergency (though in my experience couch medicine doesn’t actually do anything unless it’s full strength adult Benylin or the lovely lovely Medised!!) but other than that-just be really prepared with your shopping during the days and ensure you always have stuff in so he doesn’t have to go out late at night. You will probably cope fine without x until the morning and you’ll be pleased he didn’t go out when you haven’t got to traipse up the road with small kids the next day.

"Putting the kids....In the house and having to walk back to the bottom of the street for shopping walking up and down believe me it's a nightmare."

I'm in exactly the same situation as you, have been for several years, and no, it's not a nightmare. It's annoying and inconvenient, definitely, but it's hardly a nightmare.

Yeah - I still do it - I'm 30 seconds max chucking stuff in the house - a lot quicker than when my road is blocked by a taxi waiting for passengers

Thanks for the map! I’ll come and park in front of your house now!

I don't have any sympathy I'm afraid. You knew you had no driveway or garage when you moved in. What do you want people to say?! awww, poor you OP! Have a hug On yeah aren't they all bastards, smash their cars with a hammer?!

You asked AIBU and many people have said 'yes you are' ... but then you're saying 'yeah but yeah but......' And 'I have to walk FIVE MINUTES from my car!!''

Big deal, some people have to walk WAY further. Get a grip. You're moving in March anyway, so this is a pointless gripe.

And you must be stopping outside your house to put the kids in - so why not put the bags/books instead of the kids and walk back with kids in a buggy?

@WinterfellWench I'm not looking for sympathy! Why are you so angry?

Assuming it's a public road then I'm afraid anyone can park there.

I would ask mumsnet to remove that pic OP. Unless you don’t mind people knowing where you live.

Op I wouldn't have put my address on mumsnet like that. I think you should maybe get that picture deleted and just draw a diagram (which mumsnet loves ).

Why don't you get your shopping delivered if it's such an ordeal?

For bits and bobs, buy a rucksack, put baby in a buggy, everything in the basket, and walk home, all 5 minutes of it.

I had my first kids in a flat in central London, 3rd floor, no lift. It wasn't a nightmare, and I wouldn't have left them both inside whilst getting the shopping!

Fair enough to ask the question, but the answer is yes, you are totally unreasonable. You start to sound like these parents who insist on driving to school, which is at the end of the road, because walking for 2 minutes is just too much of an ordeal. Parking around school is a nightmare because of people like that!

@StateOfTheUterus I've been parking then walking up with the kids then back down again. Plus the buggy is to big no where to put it in our house.

Not really looking for a solution anyway as I know il have to just keep doing it until we move but I was just asking.

Why on earth would you put your address on mumsnet?!

I think you are rubbing people the wrong way because it's really annoying when you park a car legally, not blocking any drive, even the one opposite and you have to deal with angry residents who believe they own the public road. It's even worst to deal with neighbours who tantrum because you park in front of their house!

Plus the buggy is to big no where to put it in our house.

honestly, why are people making their life so difficult? Why on earth did you buy a buggy you couldn't keep in the house when you needed to use it? I don't understand people sometimes!

2 year old should be made to walk. Exercise is crucial. I used to pick leaves and acorns and walk miles with my 2 yr old.

I live on a street like this. Love the street, it's old and beautiful and friendly but parking is the downside.

I've lived on this street for 20 years in 3 different houses and our most recent house has one parking space so for our second car it's a first come first served situation with everyone else on the street.

We work long hours so don't usually manage to bag the spot outside our house and we just accept it.

TBH the people on our street laugh at people like you OP, who seem to think they have a right to a public space just because it's outside their house. It's rather ridiculous and uptight.

Many of us have bought several kids up, suffered illness, and cared for unwell relatives so we've felt the pain of walking to the car but really it's a minor inconvenience in the grand scheme of things.

Unless of course, for some reason, the world actually revolves around you and your family?!

I have just googled your road, and it's hardly a motorway or even a main road. Parking must be a premium, but it's not a bad walk, even with a child!

Having young kids, or being pregnant still doesn't mean the world revolves around you to the extent of expecting people to give up a parking space outside your house.

You cannot tell be looking why someone might benefit from a particular space- maybe they have a disability- hidden or not, maybe they have anxiety, maybe they are late for something important, maybe (often like me) they are so desperate for the loo that they need to get home ASAP!

Wtf, is this for real?

Yabu to want to "reserve" parking you don't own. Yabu to "give evils" to those legally parking in a valid public space. Yabu to suggest your needs are greater than others who may like to park closer to where they're going.

Yabu to consider a five minute walk if you're at the furthest end long - five minutes us nothing if you're able bodied, and if you're struggling, children can carry bags if they're older, if not then you change the setup so DH helps out more, he drops you off with bags then goes to find parking, or walk/cycle to shop, or shop at better times.. there are a lot of reasonable solutions here but acting like you have priority to public space outside isn't one of them

Long 5 mins? So 6 mins?

Damn that’s long. I say penguin bollards, and if you can get hold of a Stinger, deploy it next time those greedy public highway users encroach on your owned by you in your head ‘spot’.

If they head in there when you’re out, just torch their car. It’s the only way they’ll learn.