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To ask not to park outside our house

255 replies

aibuhun · 06/12/2018 17:12

We live on a tight street so if you get back late you will not be parking on that street or you will have to park right at the bottom and walk up (our street is long 5 min walk at least).
Sometimes OH pops to the shops in the evening and someone will take the spot right away so in the morning I have to carry two DCs bags coats right to the bottom. DD is 10 weeks old and DS has just turned two and he hates walking!

I'm getting fed up now and I never say anything as I know you can't fight over a spot but would I be unreasonable to ask them to not park there when I see them pulling up?

They are never neighbours either they are always people visiting Angry

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aibuhun · 06/12/2018 19:09

Going to leave this one here I don't think the world revolves around me at all not sure how you have picked that up from this post. Not looking to go back and fourth as I stated from my post I know you can't argue over a spot as I understand no one owns it. It was a simple aibu to ask not to park there. Everyone has said yes so that's enough.

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VictoriaBun · 06/12/2018 19:11

Our road was being used as a n alternative to the railway car park. People would park up all day including parking across dropped kerbs. We got together and had the backing of our local council who turned it to residents parking. Yes it costs for the parking but it's now much quieter in the day.

90mammasophie · 06/12/2018 19:12

Have so much trouble parking too! We live on a tight street in London, no driveways. Unfortunately there's nothing you can do. People can park there if no drive and no disability space, can't ask them not to. I'm looking to move to a house with a driveway for this exact reason!

ShadyLady53 · 06/12/2018 19:12

All you can do is try petitioning your council to make it resident permit holders only.

YABU to give them evils though. I do sympathise but they’ve not done anything wrong and you’ve no idea of their circumstances. I can imagine community nurses and carers, visitors with disabilities or young children themselves need the space just as much as you.

startingafresh1 · 06/12/2018 19:14

OP let em explain myself: if you understand that you have no right to the spot, yet still want to demand that no one else parks there- then that implies that you think the world revolves around you!

AleFailTrail · 06/12/2018 19:15

I have anxiety. My boyfriend was parking just outside his house but the neighbour kept throwing dirty looks out as she though she ought to have the space (end of the road, easy to pull out of)...she told him as much once... all it did was make me very reluctant to go outside at all.

viques · 06/12/2018 19:15

The only time it is ever acceptable to ask is if you are moving and need the moving van to park outside. So when you do move OP you will have the whole of MN cheering you on and channelling the MN collective evil death glares as you ask the parkers to shift!

RedPandaMama · 06/12/2018 19:16

Unfortunately YABU. Though I feel your pain!!
Our last street was like this and it was a free-for-all. Didn't bother me at the start but it got really annoying when DD started walking and I had to get her round the corner with all our stuff to get in the car. Took ages!

Fortunately we moved last week and now have a drive with THREE car spaces. Plus a garage. I park in a different place every day just cos I can now. Love it and appreciate it so much!

WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:17

@aibuhun

I'm not looking for sympathy! Why are you so angry?

PMSL! yeah you ARE looking for sympathy. You are desperate for people to agree with you! And nothing I have said suggests I am 'angry.' Nice try. Wink

Why are YOU so angry?

Thread not going the way you planned?

Why post on AIBU, and then flounce when you don't get the responses you want?!

Upshot is, you don't own the road, you chose a house with no driveway or garage, you only have to walk 5 minutes with bags and kids, and you are moving in March anyway!

Get a grip FFS.

TedAndLola · 06/12/2018 19:21

If you've managed to raise a child who "hates walking" you should probably drive less anyway...

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aibuhun · 06/12/2018 19:24

@WinterfellWench you do seem very angry you should use all your negative energy your using to post on this thread into something more positive.
You strange strange lady

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TimberTot · 06/12/2018 19:25

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HexagonalBattenburg · 06/12/2018 19:25

It's not really a situation you can do much about (and I live somewhere similar and had two kids with a very small age gap). We did talk to some of the neighbours about if they could try to leave us space when possible and people are always fine about that for anyone in the street who they know is in and out in the car a lot - but you still have random visitors or whatever who'll park wherever and that's just a fact of life. Depends on where you live - ours is a fairly settled community who are all pretty close knit so people are fine with things like "oh Doris has just had that knee op - we'll make sure they can get their car right outside as much as we can do" type cooperation in general. We're always very aware though that it would only take one family to move in with a lot of cars and a different attitude to change things completely - it's a drawback of living somewhere with limited parking (not all of us have the magic MN money tree and can afford houses with driveways - plus about 95% of the MN parking sagas are about bloody driveways anyway)

I used to keep a couple of the big Ikea blue bags in the car boot and if I ended up having to wrangle two kids plus loads of stuff down the street I'd put all the individual bags into a big blue bag with a shoulder strap on it to use which made life a little bit easier.

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aibuhun · 06/12/2018 19:27

@WinterfellWench you definitely are a wench Wink

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Jeeperscreepers69 · 06/12/2018 19:28

Go doll with the evils 😂😂😂😂😂

WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:29

🤣🤣🤣😂😂

I thought you were leaving the thread .... Wink

And why are YOU angry? You have no right to be. Get a grip.

Annasgirl · 06/12/2018 19:31

I grew up on a street like this. Our neighbour's husband was a bus driver (they lived directly across the street). Every morning he left really early in his car for work and she put out traffic cones - I kid you not. We all thought she was mental (no disrespect meant but it was crazy) and even now, 30 years later, I still laugh as I remember the cones.

WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:33

It is rather embarrassing to have raised a child who hates walking.

How awkward.

WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:34

And who on earth posts their real address on a major chat forum? 🤣🤣🤣😂😂

WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:37

Insulting someone, and personally attacking them, after dishing out the details of the road you live in. Who DOES that? Wink

Fairenuff · 06/12/2018 19:38

All right, give it a rest.

theonlyKevin · 06/12/2018 19:39

to be fair, in a road full of terraced houses, it's not really revealing to give your postcode. Unless you are the next door neighbour, who will care to look out for a woman with a toddler and a baby walking up and down the road.

OP, there are several solutions to help out, I am not sure why you are refusing to consider any of them when they would make your life easier. Online shopping, swapping buggy would be a start.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 06/12/2018 19:41

I feel your pain, we have the same problem. I accept that people can park outside, but half of them don't park properly and take up enough space for two cars. I've thought about asking them to move up but I'm worried what they'll think!

Oh and I love the way posters automatically think people choose somewhere without a drive. I couldn't afford a house with a drive and garage!

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aibuhun · 06/12/2018 19:42

@theonlyKevin not refusing I'm open to all ideas but there isn't much point as we are moving soon so I will just put up with it until then.

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WinterfellWench · 06/12/2018 19:46

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

Oh and I love the way posters automatically think people choose somewhere without a drive. I couldn't afford a house with a drive and garage!

Oh please! Wink

What a supremely silly comment.

The value of a house isn't dependent on whether it has a drive or garage FGS.

We have a drive and a garage (3 car drive,) but there are properties only a mile from us worth 20% MORE that have no drive or garage.

Same in any town or city. Laughable that you think any property with a drive and a garage, is automatically worth more than any property without!