To think you can't be a "nice guy" if you use prostitutes for sex?

[NotMyOriginalName1]

Or can you?

In short, somebody I've known for a number of years openly admits to visiting sex workers and has deluded himself into believing he's one of the good guys and isn't exploitative. He spouts bullshit about having respect for the women he sees and thinks they adore his charming company.

I've lost what respect I have for him.

Unbeknownst to him I have personal experience of these situations, I was a sex worker in my late teens and what lead me there was an abusive relationship. I never felt respected by one single 'customer' in fact it was the 'good guys' who made my skin crawl the most.

Aibu to say he's an exploitative c-u-next-tuesday or am I jaded as a result my own trauma?

...so dig up a 5 year old thread to "lmao" all over it? Very cool, well done.

Research from the University of Birmingham suggested that 1 in 8 men regularly use prostitutes. To answer the question no it is not nice and your friend is deluded. There a lot of men out there (a surprising number) who do this and actually do not care much about women being trafficked and abused. What they do in effect is to lie to themselves about what they are doing and the consequences involved.