Am I being ‘grabby’ or is this a bit CF?

[Hunlife]

Yesterday I had a party for my daughter where she invited a few friends from school to an activity and lunch. All of the parents brought presents for her and she was really pleased. For the record I would never expect someone to bring a present for my child just so their’s can attend a party but I realise most parents will bring presents.

She opened them this morning and started to look at them. One of the presents was some kind of activity/craft set. I thought the box looked a bit tatty and when she opened it half the stuff was screwed up in the box and there were stickers missing (you could see where they have been peeled off the backing paper). AIBU to think it’s pretty rude to give a child something that her child has obviously opened had a good rifle thought and rejected? I have no objection to regifting but would only ever regift something untouched.

I’m moderately friendly with the mum and just quite shocked that she would think that this is acceptable.

TheLittleDogLaughed

As I related in a previous post, the child was in my house several times over the next few years as she and my DD were often involved in group projects assigned in school. I treated the child no differently from anyone else, even though DD was always a bit wary of her thanks to the experience at her hands at age 5.

DD and this child were never 'friends'. They never fought, feuded, quarreled - just co-existed in the same school year, sometimes in class with each other, sometimes assigned to the other class in the year. They were in girl scouts together and there were a couple of years when they used to bump into each other at the ice rink when they were both taking skating lessons. When DD stopped having all class parties I did not invite this child to smaller parties. I would have invited her if DD had asked me to but they just moved in different circles, in a neutral way.

DD was of course never aware that I never spoke to the mother again, because I never shared with DD my opinion of the sort of home environment the child was being brought up in.

I don't know why you suggest my DD didn't speak to this child. I did not say or imply that.

I am not sure why you think I would try to influence my child in a negative way about someone else, when I have been clear that influencing children to think badly of others was what put me off this particular mother in the first place.

Here is what I said, and it is what I abide by:
stuff is only stuff, but passing on an attitude to a child is something else entirely.

@psicat, I cant understand why you wouldn't have contacted the other parent, immediately on discovery of the wrong book! You shouldn't have felt embarrassed explaining, rather an explanation would drastically reduce the overall embarrassment of it all.

I'm hoping I can persuade you to tell her 4 years later lol, I can't bear to think she thinks you gave a used present when you didn't, haha!