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To ask if this is short for a man?

187 replies

PGtipsonly · 02/12/2018 15:56

5"9? I can understand if you're 5"2 yourself, you won't think it's short, but what does the MNers over 5"7 think? I'm 5"7 myself.

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MattMagnolia · 02/12/2018 19:57

Today’s young rich kids are very tall, girls often 5’ 10 to 6’ and boys of eighteen often 6’4 or more.
The average figure for British men includes huge numbers of little old men whose diet was poor when they were young.

Cherries101 · 02/12/2018 20:06

@MissConductUS - your study actually suggests men of Average height are most popular with women. 5 ft 9 is average in the UK. 5 ft 4 can be an average in some SE Asian countries. The number of short asses coming on this thread saying they wouldn’t date a guy shorter than 6 ft is ridiculous.

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PGtipsonly · 02/12/2018 20:12

@Cherries101 so you think I'm an "short arse" at 5"7? 😂

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amusedbush · 02/12/2018 20:18

I’m 5’5 and DH is 6’3. All of my exes bar one have been between 6’ and 6’5.

I went out with a guy the same height as me and I found it too weird. It may have been because he was sooooo thin as well, he just seemed... dainty Blush

My brother is 5’ 9 and honestly, I’d say he was quite short (even if it is the average).

Rachelle3211 · 02/12/2018 20:19

Does this matter? If someone only like short men or tall men who cares? I don't think we can dictate someone's taste because it offends us. If a man prefers tall women he is likely not going to be into me. This in no way bothers me. People have preferences, I don't get why this is offending so many people.

EdWinchester · 02/12/2018 20:37

My dh is 5'9 and just taller than me and yes, it is short.

He is aware of it and wishes he were taller. I am really pleased our eldest is already 6ft. No man wants to be short.

Dahlietta · 02/12/2018 20:42

@Dahlietta oh goodness me. There's always one . I didn't create this thread so we could "laugh" at my ex, it's just that I've always thought he was "short", not short short but on the smaller side as another PP mentioned, and just wondered if women similar height to me thought the same?

But you've started a thread to ask if people can confirm your feelings that his particular height is 'short'...

Iloveautumnleaves · 02/12/2018 21:02

I’m in touch with my inner cavewoman, I like tall men. Shoot me now ‍🤷🏻‍♀️

I definitely wouldn’t go out with a man who was shorter than me, but at not quite 5ft it’s not something that comes up very often 😂

People are attracted to who they’re attracted to, I don’t see why it bothers anyone else? Lots of men are attracted to an athletic build, that’s definitely not me. Why would I be bothered by that? There doesn’t seem to be a short supply of men equally attracted to a short arse, with curves.

Iloveautumnleaves · 02/12/2018 21:03

But you've started a thread to ask if people can confirm your feelings that his particular height is 'short'...

...and?

1ndig0 · 02/12/2018 21:04

It’s all relative. I’m 5,6 and DH is 5,11 and I always thought he was reasonably tall and I was above average - ish. Now DS (15) has shot up to 6,5 and also DD (13) has overtaken me at 5,7. I keep looking at DH and wondering if he’s shrunk and when I see him walking down the road with DS, the top of his head literally only reaches to DS’ shoulders. I also feel as if I’ve shrunk in a way I never did previously.

Minniemountain · 02/12/2018 21:06

So this is about wanting a DP who's not bothered that you're taller than them when wearing heels? I'd say that's important. DH doesn't give a shit that I'm taller than him.

It's also much more comfortable to kiss when roughly the same height.

SerenDippitty · 02/12/2018 21:06

I do think some women automatically react to tall men in the same way as some men automatically react to blondes.

Height has never been an issue for me.

Tunnocks34 · 02/12/2018 21:09

I’m 5’8” and I’d consider it short.

Not too short that it would put me off, but it would be short. My OH is 5’11” which still isn’t particularly tall either though.

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PGtipsonly · 02/12/2018 22:03

But you've started a thread to ask if people can confirm your feelings that his particular height is 'short'...

Yes that's right, but I'm not sitting here laughing at my ex for being 5"9, that's how you make it seem like. I came here to confirm my feelings that 5"9 for a man is short, and according to this thread some women feel the same as me and others don't. That's it 🤷‍♀️

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PGtipsonly · 02/12/2018 22:13

I keep looking at DH and wondering if he’s shrunk and when I see him walking down the road with DS, the top of his head literally only reaches to DS’ shoulders. I also feel as if I’ve shrunk in a way I never did previously.

This made me laugh 😂😂😂

I've got two DS and a DD. Eldest DS is 6, and very tall for his age, I'm sure he'll be over 6"0. DD5 is very tall aswell, I'm not sure about youngest DS who's 2.5 years old, i know he's really young still but I keep thinking back to when eldest DS was 2. He was much taller than him at that age, also DS2 is the spitting image of his dad and looks nothing like me. I hope he hasn't inherited his dads height Blush

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Randomusername01 · 02/12/2018 22:23

Yanbu I'm 5'9 and for me personally a 5'9 man would be too short, I prefer my men taller than me. Dh is 5'11 and I'm taller in heels which can't be helped. But my fantasy man would be 6'4ish probably 😂

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CharltonLido73 · 02/12/2018 22:35

The biggest shit of a man I ever came across was a colleague of my husband: 6ft 5, good-looking Cambridge graduate. We were friends initially with him and his first wife.
Having split with him socially following a group holiday where his true colours shone through, we were not surprised to see him turn up, a few years later, in a double-page Love Rat exposé in the Daily Fail. By this time he was onto wife no.4.
Sadly, a good few women had been taken in by his physical appearance, to their cost.

SilverDoe · 02/12/2018 22:42

I think YABU to ask because it shouldn’t matter what others think or what the general consensus is. Some guys pull off being shorter and some don’t - so going off a random number is silly. It’s like a man saying “I wouldn’t date a woman over 160lbs” - some women are going to look gorgeous at that weight and some just aren’t.

If you think he’s fit and that he’s tall enough for you to find attractive then that’s all that matters! Please bear in mind that I’m answering the purely superficial aspect of this question, and of course if he’s 5 foot nothing but the loveliest soul you’ve ever met then you should absolutely still go for it. FWIW when I worked in a coffee shop there was a regular customer who was so eye catchingly handsome and he was about 5’6” at most.

NotFeelingRight · 03/12/2018 09:12

you can't change your height past a certain age anyway so it's a pointless conversation.

Alfie190 · 03/12/2018 09:21

It isn't short, it is marginally below average height for UK men.

I don't think it is unreasonable to ask, many women prefer a taller man. I am 5ft 8 and DH is maybe 0.5 - 1 inch taller. I tend to wear flat shoes and I secretly wouldn't mind if he were an inch or two taller.

WhatToDoAboutWailmerGoneRogue · 03/12/2018 09:26

I hope he hasn't inherited his dads height

Why would you hope that OP? Confused

Notacluethisxmas · 03/12/2018 09:33

My ex husband was 5ft 7. It was an issue. Because he always felt that he had to be a dick to make up for it. There was nothing to make up for, but he didn't think so. It wasn't an issue for me.

My now DP is 6ft 4in. Which has caused further problems with exh. He feels it pro we it's didn't bother me. He doesn't seem to get that I am with Dp because I love dp. Not because I found a tall man and said 'ah you will do'.

Height can be an issue, if the man is also a dick.

TwiceMagic · 03/12/2018 11:05

Also it is handy to be a similar height. I can drive his car without faffing about with the seat (tho i will adjust for long journeys) and everything is at our common height.

This is great. The first time my BF drive my car he remarked how great it was that he didn’t need to adjust anything.

And, as I said earlier, he much more convenient to kiss than a taller man would be.

I agree that the ‘big, strong man’ thing is weird and outdated. But if I were asked about it, I’d say that my BF may not be taller than me, but he’s a lot stronger than me. Not that I’m weak and pathetic (I am not - and I am independent to point of perversity sometimes), but he is definitely stronger than me.

And it is definitely about their attitude. My BF would never ‘not allow’ me to do anything, because he’s not the boss of me wear heels. I didn’t wear heels before I met him because of back issues. But, if I wanted to wear heels, I would and he would not care. I had an ex who was the same height as me years ago and I used to wear heels. Neither of us ever gave it any thought.

In contrast my recent ex was 6’ and a controlling arsehole about everything. It was the controlling arsehole bit that was the issue.

HiMyFellowAmoebans · 03/12/2018 11:08

DH is 5ft7, I am 5ft3, but i dont care, he is a wonderful person, short or not Grin

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