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To be on the floor devastated

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TheSheepofWallSt · 01/12/2018 20:57

That my only-just two year old has started to call me “mum” not “mummy”?

Happy to be handed a grip, because I’m ridiculously (very unusually for me) sad over this!

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Hushhush89 · 02/12/2018 20:10

My older 2 are 9 and 7 and I actually ignore them if they call mum...lol. They've admitted to me when they mention me at school they do call me mum, but luckily they still most of the time call me mummy. I'm dreading the day they do actually stop calling me mummy

Rockhopper81 · 02/12/2018 20:14

TheSheepofWallSt - just to say, your rant is spot on! Grin

grumpy4squash · 02/12/2018 20:29

And as a teenager, DD2 used to say "Ja Mutti" in a voice heavy with irony

Teenage DD calls me "Madre" in a very sarcastic tone all the time (even when she wants money or a lift)

Jeanclaudejackety · 02/12/2018 20:35

Is it a class thing perhaps. Would you prefer him to still calll you mummy in his 30s still, Jack Whitehall style

Birdie6 · 02/12/2018 20:41

My adult son has started calling me "Mummah" out of the blue, after a lifetime of Mumsy, which was the pet name that both of mine used from childhood. Who knows where these names come from.

manicmij · 02/12/2018 21:06

When answering a summoning "what" is right. When not comprehending or hearing what is said then pardon is acceptable. At least that is what I was led to believe the useage of those two words meant in day to day life.

Sb74 · 02/12/2018 21:16

My 9 and 11 still call me mummy. Sometimes mum, and mother, when I’m in trouble but mainly mummy. It’s so normal to us I don’t give it a thought to be honest. I think it’s just a phase. Mine said mum for a bit when very little then went back to mummy. Don’t worry. Hope your mum is ok.

Tillytrotter123 · 02/12/2018 21:27

My friends cat was killed and she told her DD he had decided to get married and now lives in a forest with his wife and kittens, could you say something like that? 2 is still quite young to explain what really happened I think.

TigerTooth · 02/12/2018 21:30

I agree Op - If a child doesn't hear whay you say then "Pardon?" is much nicer than ""What?"

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TheSheepofWallSt · 02/12/2018 21:31

@Tilly

It is young- but I believe being honest (within reason) is the best way. It’s very sad in the short term, but in the long term I think that the more we can dymystify and remove the taboos around death, from the earliest point, the better.

I obviously won’t be giving the gory details, or presenting death as a “cold hard fact” - more a sad fact of life....

How I’m actually going to say it- without resorting to euphemisms- I have no fucking clue

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linsey2581 · 02/12/2018 22:01

I hate mummy. My kids have always said mum and dad although daughter aged 14 now calls us mother and father, I'm even mother bean in her phone contacts. My mil refers to us in front of the kids (15/14) as mummy and daddy it annoys the crap out of me!

hartha · 02/12/2018 22:04

Seriously my nearly 2 1/2 year old is currently insisting on calling me "Mister Mumster"... I'd take "Mum" any day!

Cleanermaidcook · 02/12/2018 22:17

I hear you op. If it helps mine went from mummy to mum and have gone back to mummy again. Eldest Dd has taken to calling me mummy bear which I like.
They also get what, what? pardoned here, what sounds rude but then I'm working class too - and northern, so hey ho I've no chance at posh 😂😂

Cleanermaidcook · 02/12/2018 22:18

Ps. Really sorry about the cat Flowers

Scardanelli · 02/12/2018 22:24

My oldest son is 17 and still calls me Mummy (as do the other teenagers ). I have tried to steer them towards Mum, to no avail.

As PP have said, Goodbye Mog is good.

Serviettes and oardon are beyond the pale. One of my DC started calling our evening meal ‘tea’, which made me feel a bit peculiar. Fortunately it was just a phase.

Scardanelli · 02/12/2018 22:25

Oardon? Wtf? On a borrowed phone. Ugh.

Ohyesiam · 02/12/2018 22:40

Op, somewhere up thread I thought I liked you. Then from your post at 19.39 I KNEW I liked you. Can we be friends?Grin

Ohyesiam · 02/12/2018 22:41

Ps so sorry about the catSad and the predicament it’s put you in.

Lunafreya · 02/12/2018 22:41

My 7 year old calls me mummy/mum, and my 3 year old says 'mummum' as he has a language delay and is still babbling. The 7yo tried using my proper name for a while, for effect Grin

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WickedWitchOfTheWest83 · 02/12/2018 22:45

OP I am with you on the mum/mummy thing though. Like when he started saying skeleton and spoon or spider properly instead of segadon and foon/fider... was proud but also slightly heartbroken that he has grown up! (He’s 3)

JimCricket · 02/12/2018 22:46

Initially by DS referred to me by my first name, he calls me Mammy now tho 😊

Tillytrotter123 · 02/12/2018 22:49

Yes you’re right, what a predicament! I would probably go along the lines of ‘he got hurt and has gone to Heaven.’ Good luck op.

WickedWitchOfTheWest83 · 02/12/2018 22:58

Omg and can I just say I fucking love your post a couple of pages back - fucking love it! Keep that middle finger up girl x

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TheSheepofWallSt · 02/12/2018 23:01

@Ohyesiam

Go on then- but can you BEAR to be friends with someone so common?!

@WickedWitch

Some days I want to record everything DS says. This week he’s started exclaiming “heavens to Betsy!” But it comes out “hevvens a Bessy” and I DIE every time he says it. His DGGM has MUCH to answer for .... Grin

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