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To be on the floor devastated

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TheSheepofWallSt · 01/12/2018 20:57

That my only-just two year old has started to call me “mum” not “mummy”?

Happy to be handed a grip, because I’m ridiculously (very unusually for me) sad over this!

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kooshbin · 01/12/2018 22:20

There was a speech, not too long ago, given by Prince Charles at one of those Queenie celebration things. He called her "mummy", and she did a majestic eyeroll.

So, think of it as DS doing a bit of practice so he doesn't embarrass you in public some sixty years hence. Wink

Letsmoveondude · 01/12/2018 22:22

oh no. im sorry, its not nice the first time we get called mum is it? rather harsh against the term mummy, DD went through a stage a few years ago where she was quite conscious about calling me mummy, and called me mum- friends said it made her a baby. she no longer cares what her friends think, and I am mummy again.

DD is almost 11, i think it will be wording that stays with her, or i hope!!

ChodeofChodeHall · 01/12/2018 22:25

Sorry to hear about the cat. There is no easy way round it, I'm afraid: you just have to gently explain that the cat has died, and then try to answer questions they may have. It's very hard Flowers

Racecardriver · 01/12/2018 22:26

It’s a bit hypocritical to permit pardon and excuse me but not mum or nuffin

JemSynergy · 01/12/2018 22:27

My 11 and 9 year old still call me mummy, 11 year old will say mum if around friends.

Racecardriver · 01/12/2018 22:28

Also cat heaven is a thing right?

AlpacaLypse · 01/12/2018 22:28

I did Latin at school. My mother was disconcerted but not angry when I first called her Mater. And my father was positively overjoyed when I first called him Pater. Having said, if it's really important and I really need to talk to her RIGHT NOW it's still Mummy.

BadBadBeans · 01/12/2018 22:28

I know what you mean. My two year old calls me Mum sometimes and it makes me feel like he's about ten! But it's better than him referring to me by my first name, which he also does frequently!!!!!!

LollyLollington · 01/12/2018 22:33

'What' is not correct necessarily, it's just apparently used by the upper classes. Upper class does not necessarily equal 'correct'. This country!

scrunchSE18 · 01/12/2018 22:35

You could try the book Goodbye Mog. It deals with death of a pet in a quite lovely and age appropriate fashion.

guiltyfriend · 01/12/2018 22:41

I like mummy too. For what it's worth though my 7yo DS goes through stages of calling me mummy, mama and mum. I always refer to myself as mummy because that's what I prefer to be called!

I think at 2 it's just a case of ignoring/not mentioning the Mum and just keep saying Mummy yourself e.g "Mummy will just do this, do you want Mummy to do that etc."

LoveManyTrustfew · 01/12/2018 22:46

My DS is now 17...

We graduated from Mummy to Mum, and nowadays I am generally Mum.

If he wants something he prefixes the conversation with....Mamma... in a tone most imperious..

If I choose to ignore, he ups the ante to Darling Mamma... Grin

If I still ignore, he says........... in a manner most exasperated... For God Sake Mother.....Grin Grin

AnnaNimmity · 01/12/2018 22:47

all of mine still call me mummy - the oldest is 19!

Barchester · 01/12/2018 22:48

I saw a thread on MN a few weeks ago where a poster asked when do children start calling you Mum instead of Mummy. The general view was that it was when they went to school.

recklessruby · 01/12/2018 22:53

I called my mum Margaret for a while as a 70s kid. Well I said that's what everyone calls you! Mummy felt babyish once I hit 7. Thankfully I reverted to mum after a bit. Might be just a phase?
I 've no one to call me mummy now as dc grown up but I m my cats mummy! Grin

BumDisease · 01/12/2018 22:57

I've never called my mum "mummy"... Apparently I used to call her mother!

Mummy is pretty cringey anyway...

Shambu · 01/12/2018 22:59

My mother is still mummy and I'm 48, so there's hope yet.

But then I come from a background where pardon and serviette are unthinkable.

GreenMeerkat · 01/12/2018 23:00

YANBU.

My five year old has started calling me 'Mum' and I still correct her to 'Mummy' although she is at school now so I really should let go

Newsername · 01/12/2018 23:02

I always correct my children to say “mummy”. He’s only 2, it’s nothing to curl up in a ball and cry about. Just correct him. You’re the adult incharge here

crispysausagerolls · 01/12/2018 23:05

My mother just refused to respond to mum, said it wasn’t her name and she didn’t know anyone by that. We are all adults now and still say mummy 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dotty1970 · 01/12/2018 23:05

Hard to describe in text, but could always encourage "what what" instead in a very posh accent

Dotty1970 · 01/12/2018 23:06

Said at a fast pace

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/12/2018 23:08

I am 45 and call my father Daddy, because he likes it. He says that its nicer than Dad, I agree. DD is 21 and calls me Mummy again because we both prefer it, it feels special and warms my heart when she says it. Especially because I remember the days with her (and am still living them with DD's 2 and 3) that "Mum" was said with such derision and eye rolling that it almost hurts to hear it.

Notcontent · 01/12/2018 23:09

I have a tween and I am still Mummy! Or Mama sometimes. Never Mum! I hate Mum for some reason....

PyongyangKipperbang · 01/12/2018 23:12

Just got a text for DD actually and it says "I love you Mama Bear", which she calls me sometimes and I absolutely love! She is of course, Baby bear :)