To be on the floor devastated

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That my only-just two year old has started to call me “mum” not “mummy”?

Happy to be handed a grip, because I’m ridiculously (very unusually for me) sad over this!

Ds1 is 23 and still calls me Mummy. I would just let it go if I were you.

It's pretty common in wales to be called mam/mammy mine all call me this. My children have all been taught to say what instead of pardon.

Mummy is just a baby thing, isn’t it

Not in Ireland.

Where I’m from it’s Mammy more than Mummy. But it’s definitely not just a baby,thing.

'What' is not polite the way kids say it.

‘Mummy’ is not polite the way my kids sometimes say it!

My daughter still calls me mummy - she’s 17. We are not posh by any means - she also says excuse me or pardon instead of what.

And haitch is also normal on the community I’m from.

Sorry bout the cat.

Not to change thread topic....

But said toddler is hugely fucking attached to DMs cat. Talks about him all the time. Runs into DMs house looking for him before he does anything else. We even had the bloody cat for sleepovers....

How on Earth do I explain the cat dying to a two year old?

Please no snarkiness about this - I know we’re on aibu but...

Surely a better response would be 'Yes mum?' But then agaim I got 'Arrrrgh get wrecked' from my 4 year old when I got something wrong.......can you still dish out a smacked bum these days?

Aw...having the cat for a sleepover is so adorable.

Sorry about the cat. I'm not sure how to explain it. Maybe that it was so badly injured that its body just couldn't work any more?

I think it’s sad if you have hopes for what your children will call you and they vere off from this earlier than you’d hope. I call my parents mama & papa, always have done. (Pronounced the way a baby starts off saying mama, short vowels on both a’s). That’s what my mum called her parents - and all the way back infinity and beyond. I really really wanted DC to call me mama, but DS1 switched to mummy at around 3, no matter how hard I tried, and now DS2 not even 2 is copying. I’m actually quite sad about it and have tried correcting but it hasn’t stuck. I’ll live - and so will you OP with this latest state of affairs, but I do get it and it sucks. Sorry.

I still call my mother Mummy occasionally, long time habit! But my children call me Mum. It's sad when they stop calling you Mummy :-(
Agree with you on the 'what' thing, I'm always pulling my two up on it. It's pardon!!

I get you OP
Understand completely that sadness of going from being mummy to mum. It's another reminder that time goes so so fast and babyhood is left behind sometimes before you're ready. I have older children and each call me something different but equally endearing lol

As far as 'what' I'm with you on that. I hate being answered with 'what?', it sounds rude to me so my children did not use it. Can't see why you'd get grief over that!

DH never wanted to be called Daddy, but got upset when DS6 called him dad twice last week. DS2.4 however still hasn’t said anything close to mummy, I’m still waiting!

Thanks all re: mummy/mum

If anyone can help with the dead cat that would be marvellous ???

For anyone who thinks pardon is déclassé I can only assume you are a patrician type - hm?
www.tatler.com/article/sorry-what-pardon-etiquette

Oh poor cat, mum and toddler.

All you can do is say that the cat died and isn't there any more, I'm afraid.

I can (just!) remember the cat my parents had when I was two he was deeply fluffy, to the depth of a toddler's fingers, and mildly grumpy, possibly because of that but I don't remember what happened when he died.

Tell him the cat has gone to meet Garfield and go on some adventures.

My eldest did the same.
Luckily, their name ends with an '-ee' sound, so I just started missing it off. E.g. Rose instead of Rosie.
'No, it's RosIE'
'Yes and it's mumMY'

It worked

DS was 3 when he started saying ‘Mum’. A few responses of ‘There’s no one here called Mum’ and he’s went back to Mummy.

No way was I being mum when he was only just 3! He’s 5 now and still calls me Mummy but i’ve very recently noticed the odd ‘Mum’ which is fine.

My dd still calls me mummy at the age of 7. Im sure he will go back to it.

Calls me mum, I mean.

I get called either "mutti" or "mumsy" by my adult sons.

My 4 year old DS announced she's going to call me "Mummo" from now on, because "you're more of a Mummo". DP said isn't that one of the Marx brothers, but apparently that's Gummo. Hey ho.

I'm really sorry about your mum's cat, though I'm afraid I have no experience there. Perhaps there is a suitable book you can read together to help process what has happened?

I just wanted to say on the mummy thing, please don't forbid "mum" - at least not for long. My mother refused to allow "mum" as she thought it dreadfully common (more than what OR pardon) and insisted on "mummy" even when we were ten and going to a very tough school. Result was I tried to avoid speaking to or about her in public, and even now my sister and I have no words to describe her that we feel happy saying.

My PFB calls me Pat, Dave or fat Janice none of which are my name. He is 306 months so I will forgive him. Sorry about the cat.

Apparently from what ive read on here ”what” is the correct response and not pardon.