Flaunting on facebook when your DH is awaiting trial

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Facebook, I know, work of the devil ... I have an acquaintance whose husband was arrested for drugs trafficking recently. They're out on bail and awaiting trial which could result in a few years in prison as it was in the papers and he was caught red handed. Their facebook is full of pictures of their happy family and their holidays. Their facebook had always been full of travel shots in lovely locations.

I don't think many people know about it as while it was in the local papers, he was arrested a long way from their local area. But there's no doubt it's him.

Am I being unreasonable to think that this is kind of shameless?

It’s not his wife or kids fault though is it? Imagine the humiliation they must feel

Those photos could be used as evidence against him at trial if they demonstrate unexplained wealth so this shameless flaunting could cause them regret if not shame if he is guilty.

Christ. OP your character is being torn apart here for no good reason.

I think it’s natural to feel shock at the drugs trafficking and then query the contrast between the reality of that and the personal branding that is Facebook. So OP I know where you’re coming from.

I'm not sure how a wife / partner could not know that they were involved in something dodgy - would they not query where all the excess money was coming from ?

Well bloody helll the kids don’t do they? They have to go to school and everything. Poor sods

Yeh that's how I felt when my brother was arrested all over fb for all my family friends and every one else to read. The shame myself and my son felt over crimes we did not commit was horrendous but he's my brother right so I must of deserved it? He sadly didn't think about the impact his actions had on the family as he was more concerned with committing crimes and buying drugs but he's my brother so I'm somehow obliged to feel like shit and shameful and utterly disgraced because of his actions. Never mind my son who has to go to school with all these people talking shit n blaming us even tho we didn't commit any crimes! I felt ashamed of being ashamed for a crime I didn't commit! But he should of thort of that first 😂 alright then

Is this the US or the UK op? There are big differences in both legal systems.

And fwiw, I get where you're coming from.

I have a pal who posts lots of happy family photos and on the face of it look like the perfect, model family.

In reality she hates her husband hasn't slept in the same room as in for years and has been seeing someone else behind his back for a year it does irk me and I have to stop myself commenting.

So for information, it's the US, so a different legal system.

Massive drip feed there.

How is that a drip feed? I'm just leaving out info to make it less identifiable. The OP is not about the specific nature of the legal system and therefore didn't consider it relevant.

If you want to make your point about disapproving of their actions start posting links to drug charities on fb and put comments about scummy drug dealers being the worst people other than child abusers. They will know it’s a dig at them but probably won’t say anything. They may block or unfriend you but I assume you wouldn’t want to have anything to do with them anyway.

Changes the info re holidays massively since they won’t need a passport for a start. Also re bail

Changes the info re holidays massively since they won’t need a passport for a start. Also re bail

I think it only changes it for the troll hunters. My post wasn't about the bail conditions or that they were on holiday (US American citizens do still need passports though)

I don't think it being the US rather than UK changes the system as we both have common law and in both countries you are innocent until proven guilty. Although there and here people do need to realise the state looks at your on line postings when deciding which assets to seize etc if you are convicted so it may not be a great idea to feature the yacht or piles of gold.

US citizens need a passport to holiday within the US?

US citizens need a passport to holiday within the US?

No, of course not. I'm sorry if I made you make some assumptions that were not true. I guess we can all be guilty of making assumptions.

I didn’t assume anything, read my posts.

Other people did which is why I pointed it out. I was surprised you didn’t correct the first person who said re holidays.

I did read your post! You just said "Changes the info re holidays massively since they wouldn't need a passport for a start". I never said all the holidays pre and post arrest were US holidays.

I didn't correct anyone as point of the OP is not about the need or otherwise for passports when going on holiday, nor about the bail conditions.

I think I've heard about this case, this guy was the sinister kingpin behind it all.

😂

@Babyroobs just have a look on the relationships threads. A lot of women on there have no idea how much their partner/husband earns, what assets they have, haven't seen a bank statement or anything. They just know that there is money or not depending on the situation.

It was the bail thing that gave it away...I work in the British legal system so spotted it.

Still I think you have a point op. 🙂

@babyroobs , what about people who genuinely don’t know !! It happens my dcs dad (xp)was involved in a huge case that we had no idea about . Guess who suffered because of the news reports , not that arrogant twat , there were posts on Facebook by strangers saying we should be killed along with him because he was scum , kids singled out because there dad was in prison we don’t even live in the same county as him !!! So yeah I can see why people don’t want it broadcast