Mixed bag at work today, and one of the days that make it extremely hard to cope. Extremely heightened claimant who was shouting at me because I had the cheek to advise him to send evidence in for his recon. This was me persecuting him of course, and he said he would hang himself purely to spite me, that I am evil and that he would find out my details and name me personally. He tried telling Mr that if he did something to himself it was my fault. I've dealt with enough suicidal people to know he wasn't genuine. He was just a angry entitled vile human being, who thought it a good way to try and get one over on staff.
I'm not prepared to be spoken at like that, shouted at him not to dare speak to me like that, assured him I would not be responsible and told him not to ever imply I was, again. And hang up
And it's calls like this that affect you. In what world is his rabtung my fault, how DARE he blame it on me when actually the system has been lenient considering he had sent hardly any evidence in. It made me angry more than upset, absolutely furious that someone thinks it's acceptable to put that on you. Someone uothread said the DWP drive people to suicide. Think whatever you want but please don't tell the poor agents that. Cos some people won't get angry, they get upset. And what right exactly do claimants have to make you feel like this? And of course these customers will continue ringing and continue abusing staff and on and on it goes
The meaning of this post isn't to whine honestly. Bar for him my calls were lovely and the best way for me to get my revenge is to get on with my life. But it's to shoe the public what we actually put up with, because I'm sure people must think it's all eating biscuits and laughing. It's a complete lack of understanding that makes people call us all twats, so this is just to hopefully enlighten people what it's like..
And before people say he's vulnerable - no. He hasn't a support worker, has no Dr or medical involvement which is seriously unusual when someone has MH issues. He had no diagnosis and the basis of his claim was he gets angry , and of course drs are twats for not prescribing anythy, and his main complaint is he gets angry
Also I've dealt with enough suicidal people to know when someone is being genuine and not. For a start most genuine people would be upset when saying it, if they said it at all, as it's a cry for help. They certainly wouldn't be using it as a threat. He almost said it gleefully, as though he was purposely trying to upset me, calling me a murderer etc. That's not what genuine people do, nor do they laugh about how it'll end your career when they say it
And no excuses about how desperate he must have been etc. I don't care in that situation. I try my best, but there is absolutely no excuse for attacking someone like that, regardless of your life and money and anger issues.
And prod like that actually do genuine suicidal people a disservice. Because they make a mockery of it. By using g it as a threat and laughing and calling me a murderer and attempting to make staff feel guilty, they are making an absolute mockery of genuine people
My self care stuff is important in these situations. Calm down, talk through with my manager, have some time off the phone. I might seem angry and honestly I am, that people think it's ok to talk like that and it's accepted. The reality is calls aren't usually this bad. But I'm just trying to get the public to see the reality of what we are faced with daily, and we are actually the good ones. We certainly aren't twats