Aibu to wear this dress to a funeral?

[WillyNilly00]

I already have this dress and have a funeral next week. I intend to wear it with black tights and black ankle boots with a small heel. Also I am 5 foot tall so it is practically knee length on me.

I thought it was perfect but DH seems to think it's "too much".

So Wibu to wear it?

It's fine for a requiem just wear a black cardi over it and or a dark shawl and with black tights and boots it won't look pa
rtylike. Don't think people wear black mantillas nowadays

Wow so I just got home from work to read these responses and I am surprised by some more than others.
Just to be clear I was quite sure it was perfectly appropriate until DH piped up. I would never dream of wearing something busty to a funeral, in fact I have zero cleavage in this dress and DH was more commenting on the frills and dressiness.

Thanks so much for the replies though everyone, much appreciated. I'll go with the dress with minimal jewellery and my normal day-to-day makeup.

@staysafe I hope your mother's funeral service went well ( as well as these things can ) I agree with you which was rather my point - take the lead from the family and if in doubt err on the conservative ( which I would say slightly more formal side - not necessarily all black ) . Your outfit sounds lovely but , on the other hand how nice so many turned up , even if your mum would have been saying "jeans? " I do not wish to joke but when my husband's mother died , we did after the service all talk about what she would have said during it. I wish you & your family well. Sometimes the bit after the funeral is worse than the bit before . It was for DH ad his siblings. - Just stuff to sort out then and not a focal point. I hope you take this post well - meant so .

Jesus, unless you want everyone to think you were his mistress I would leave it! (Sorry for your loss)

I just organised a funeral and wore a navy and burgundy dress. One attendee wore lacy tights and a leopard fake fur jacket. No one batted an eyelid. We did say black optional, colour welcome but I think this is not unusual these days.

For sure, nothing screams mistress more than a......umm.......appropriate black dress

It's absolutely fine OP.

what do people expect you to wear, horrible nylon black 'work trousers' (shudder) and a plain black jumper hair scraped back no makeup to show you are mourning successfully?! It's a smart black dress with no legs on show and a nice coat over. Perfect

Also.. LOL at wearing jeans underneath, ffs who does that?!

Also creasing at the thought of other posters getting their veils out for a funeral at their village church somewhere in middle England like they're extras in Evita...

It was my mum's funeral last week. I didn't give a shit what people wore, I was just grateful they'd come along.

Dad had said no black, so I wore a cream linen top with a green skirt. And a black biker jacket for outside.

Absolutely fine.

Congratulations OP you made it to the Daily Mail 🙄

Ah it’s a very DM type thread. Bugger it

Seriously!! Is this for real... do you really think that anyone actually cares what you wear to a funeral... do you not think the people that are grieving have any clue what your wearing!! Get over yourself!!! Your there to support a grieving family if your not there for that don’t go... I suggest jeans & jumper ... good god 🙄🙄🙄

I was genuinely going to say 'oh christ NO' but realised I was reacting to the model pouting and looking like a good sneeze would finish her off.

I think it's perfect as you've said you'll wear it OP. And I once had to attend a very rushed funeral in borrowed clothes, several sizes too big. No one cared, they were just glad we came.