Aibu to wear this dress to a funeral?

[WillyNilly00]

I already have this dress and have a funeral next week. I intend to wear it with black tights and black ankle boots with a small heel. Also I am 5 foot tall so it is practically knee length on me.

I thought it was perfect but DH seems to think it's "too much".

So Wibu to wear it?

Not being defensive it just amuses me when people come on here to ask for opinions when they clearly have one that they are fully set on already. Why bother?
The op can wear what she likes but if she doesn’t know those close to the deceased to know what their wishes would be or even to ask someone I’d very much be airing on the side of conservative rather than a dress a lot of people would wear for a night out.

It is dressy but imo fine to wear for a funeral. Lovely dress OP.

Worn as you’re suggesting, absolutely fine. With fishnet stockings and 4”heels, maybe less so

Just don't wear this
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I have to laugh at those saying no one will notice, I wore x dress and no one noticed etc.

Of course they noticed they just didn't say anything to you as it would be impolite but rest assured they noticed and commented to others, have you never been to a wake.

If it's your side of the family ask one of them what they think as they will be able to give better advice than a stranger who doesn't know the family

Gosh I think ops dress is quite demure. I wore the attached for my late dh's funeral and thanksgiving and had a lot of compliments about how smart and lovely I looked. I told people that I was definitely not wearing black and they were under no obligation to wear black.

I genuinely couldn't tell you what anyone has ever worn to any funerals I have been to. Actually, my mum wore a red jacket to my sisters funeral. Wonder if anyone judged her?

You're an arsehole if you judge someone for what they wear at a funeral. It's up to the individual to choose what is appropriate for them to wear to say bye to someone.

That's a lovely dress @ElinoristhenewEnid :).

I was just about to say that I think wearing something "a bit too much" or "dressy" to a funeral can be seen as just as respectful as wearing something very conservative. Funerals are a celebration of a person's life, and some people find getting dressed up to say goodbye to their loved one therapeutic. Obviously not everyone, but each to their own.

I can't see a problem as long as you wear a pair of black tights with it.

Very much depends on the deceased and their closest relatives and friends. If in doubt stay conservative.

I think it's a bit frivolous, but would be fine with tights and a coat.

DO you have a pair of black jeans or trousers you could wear underneath? That would be more suitable than tights. Also could you wear a vest or crew neck Tshirt underneath?

What would be the point of the dress in this outfit? She might as well just wear black trousers and black top.

It’s a bit frilly and ‘sexy’ for a funeral isn’t it?

Be guided by what the family request. We had bright colours for my dad. Uncle's was wear red for his footy team.. Be aware that cremation or burial there will be a certain amount of mooching about outside so you will need a coat if in UK. I wore turquoise top, black dark dye jeans, boots and a navy coat the last one I went to. All black looks morose IMHO.

Its absolutely fine op

I wear dresses that alot of people would class as 'dressy' day to day, it's just how I like to dress. I'd rather be to 'dressy' than to casual

It's a sleeved, knee-length black dress. With tights, flats and a coat I'd call that the definition of conservative and appropriate for a funeral. I mean, what would people be gossiping about? "Can you believe Willy wore a dress with a ruffle?! What a cow!"

That dress is fine, especially under a long black, formal coat.

I don't know Zack you wouldn't want to flash a bit of wrist. That would be offensive.

I think it's fine. As long as you're not showing too much cleavage and leg.

If it's knee length, worn with tights and low heeled boots this would be fine. Just wear a safety pin or put a black vest top underneath in case it gapes. It is winter so you will be in a coat most of the time anyway.

This time of year you will need a coat - so until you go to funeral tea none will see it. For the most part simple office type wear ie black trousers plain blouse/shirt white or black & black cardigan/jumper (think Baltic if its a burial use thermals graveyards are always artic & windswept ) Dark Navy would do as well.

Looks fine to me. No jewellery and minimal make-up makes it sombre rather than 'cocktail dress'.

It's a funeral not a fashion event. Thoughts should be about the bereaved not about clothes.
The dress is black so yeah, appropriate I suppose.

Absolutely 100% completely and totally fine op. I have a really similar dress that I wear for work with similar to what you're planning.

It's fine.

I honestly can't remember what anybody worse at any funerals I've been to, it's going to be fine OP.

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