Aibu to wear this dress to a funeral?

[WillyNilly00]

I already have this dress and have a funeral next week. I intend to wear it with black tights and black ankle boots with a small heel. Also I am 5 foot tall so it is practically knee length on me.

I thought it was perfect but DH seems to think it's "too much".

So Wibu to wear it?

@Pinkyyy perhaps he is just struggling to picture it.

It's fine OP

You know what? I've never been to a funeral where the family of the deceased have been anything more than grateful that people showed up to pay their respects.

I couldn't even tell you what anyone wore to my mum's or my sister's funeral.

@WillyNilly00 that was my thought, I imagine when he sees it with the tights etc he will change his opinion

Spoon a black cami/ vest underneath then you will be warm and decent. It is a little frilly but I would wear it to save buying a new one. A coat with a lovely scarf and it will be fine.

Absolutely fine , especially with the tights/coat you have mentioned.

Whoever thinks it's not appropriate probably covers up the legs of their furniture in case it causes offence when the vicar pops in for tea.

Sorry for your loss

It does depend a lot on the context. Smart metropolitan family, it will be fine, dressed as you suggest. More low-key family, probably a little dressy. Coat sounds good, black tights good. Ankle boots, fine for the smart metropolitan set, swap to smart shoes for a low-key family.

Most of the funerals I’ve been to, people are more likely to wear plain formal wear in a variety of sober colours rather than dressy black. But we aren’t trendy city folk.

I think if there's any occasion your style isn't going to be critiqued or even fleetingly noticed, it's a funeral.

Looks fine to me

It’s fine. I’d wear with a black vest and black opaque tights to avoid the risk of flashing and to keep warm because it’s cold and windy here. If you need tights I can recommend the fleece lined plaques from Aldi for £3.99. They are super toasty.

You’re clearly convinced it’s fine and are mocking anyone who thinks conservative might be more appropriate for a funeral so why even ask?
You can dress it down all you like but it’s an evening dress. Anyone with more breast than the model wearing it in the picture (so anyone basically) would be popping out of it.
Obviously no-ones going to say anything but if you don’t think internal eyebrows will be raised at masses of cleavage at a funeral you’re a bit naive.

Returnofthesmileybar are you irish? I’ve never heard anyone say ‘I’m weak laughing’ outside of my hometown

The model is probably at least five foot eight and I don't think it's too short on her, especially with opaque tights and ankle boots, you're more petite so it'll be longer on you. I think it's nice and perfectly appropriate

SgtFredColon I sure am, that's gas, I never thought about it being an Irish saying

Anyone with more breast than the model wearing it in the picture (so anyone basically)

Us flat chested women are still women you know.

Entirely appropriate I’d say.

I’ve been people attend funerals in some right shockers. The lady in the backless sequinned mini dress and the bloke in bright yellow Crocs are the front runners (two separate people not an incredibly inappropriate couple).

I think it’s fine although judging from funerals I’ve been to in the last few years, people seem to have moved away from wearing all black. I wore a beige knitted dress and charcoal grey coat to my dad’s funeral.

Sorry for your loss WillyNilly00

The dress is fine, ignore DH.

@Pinkyyy

I completely agree with you!

@BumsexAtTheBingo very defensive comment there is nothing wrong the dress for the occasion, how do you know the OP isn’t petite? I’m petite and unfortunately im not blessed with massive boobs so I certainly wouldn’t be popping out of it & having eye brows raised at me for wearing a nice dress, with tights and bloody long coat! 😂 it’s a funeral as somebody else mentioned it’s not a fashion show. I can’t ever think of ANY funeral I’ve been to where family members etc discuss other people’s outfits and raise their eyebrows when somebody they are close to has passed away. Are you sure it’s funerals you attend?

Nice assumption on your part though.

Have (unfortunately) been to 3 funerals this fortnight.

1. suburban, religious ceremony, elderly deceased. 70% attendees wore black, navy or grey. Quite smart, say middle mgmnt corporate level.

2. city, very religious ceremony, middle aged deceased. 80% attendees wore bright/clashing clothes to honour the deceased, who was known for his bright patterned clothes in life.

3. rural, civic ceremony, young person. Attendees wore everything from work uniforms, jeans with sneakers, smart casual. Warm day so many in short sleeves & sleeveless. Older folk in black.

Frankly I’d need to know more about the type of funeral to advise if your dress would fit in. Personally I wear plain, neutral, modest clothes suitable for the weather. Minimal jewellery and makeup. Can’t go wrong. If you start to stress about your outfit, you maybe just need to remind yourself that it isn’t going to be about you. It’s about who died, and their loved ones- none of whom would care or notice what you’re wearing.

I’m a church minister, have conducted many funerals, and your dress is fine, OP.

It depends on how much you know the person . If you didn''t know them very well I would err on the side of conservative - which with black tights and boots and presumably a coat I think this would be - if you knew them well - then you will know what they would have thought ( I went to a funeral which was specifically - "anything other than black" ) - it's just about being respectful. I think it is absolutely fine - and especially given you have put some thought into it. As others have said - as long as you look appropriate , it will be fine. I hope the service goes well.

Looks totally suitable to me, very nice!

Its absolutely fine for a funeral, and I wouldn't even be asking anyone about this. Its your choice.. And as someone said earlier, they would find it more suitable for a night out, well great, a dress for all occasions !!

Funeral attire has changed a lot over the years, it's not all black sometimes, depends on the family and other things

i attended my late ex husbands funeral a couple of years ago. I did wear a back dress,but it was a kind of velvet bodycon dress, with a chiffoney green and gold bolero type thing over it..

I decided to wear a bit more colour, as my ex had re married a West Indian woman,from Jamaica, and all her family turned up in very brightly coloured floral type dresses, !! This was in the Midlands, not the Caribbean !!

I think it’s absolutely fine. I also have noticed more recently that fewer people of all ages actually wear black. Dh has dark but not black suits so he wore one with a black tie and I wore a black dress showing a similar amount of skin to yours and a jacket. We were in the minority to be so somberly dressed.

Personally in that dress I’d be cold in winter in that dress though!

can’t see how this dress would gape on averaged or smaller sized boobs, it goes quite high up. i would wear it with a camin(invisible) and thick tights for warmth.