Aibu to wear this dress to a funeral?

[WillyNilly00]

I already have this dress and have a funeral next week. I intend to wear it with black tights and black ankle boots with a small heel. Also I am 5 foot tall so it is practically knee length on me.

I thought it was perfect but DH seems to think it's "too much".

So Wibu to wear it?

My Grandads funeral I forgot to bring black shoes. Got ready & there I was.... head to calf in black, with my sand coloured boots on 🤦‍♀️

It's not suitable

Right so out of interest, what do you deem suitable?

It's lovely and totally unsuitable. Weak laughing and putting jeans and a t-shirt under it 😂

‘As for what kind of funerals are people going to’ what is acceptable depends on the funeral and the deceased person/families wishes. It will vary from the very formal to requests for bright colours/football colours etc. If the op doesn’t know the safe bet is dark, plain and not skintight or showing a lot of flesh imo.

Weak laughing and putting jeans and a t-shirt under it 😂

OP, you might want, in addition to the jeans and T-shirt underneath, to add a balaclava and matching gloves.

It will be fine but you may get cold so thermals and good tights. You will need a coat over it too anyway.

Honestly
No one will care about what you are wearing.

Presumably you’ll be wearing a coat over the top ? Churches and crematoriums aren’t generally warm.

I think it partly depends on who's funeral it is. I think the dress is fine - but if it's someone very close to your DH and he's grieving I might just accept that he's being a bit unreasonable but fair enough, I'd wear something more conservative. (Unless he's got a history of being controlling - that's another ball game entirely).

Otherwise, anything that's suitable funeral attire will do. This dress is suitable funeral attire.

Perfectly suitable. Funerals should be a celebration of life

Love how the OP Says her DH’s opinion was that it wasn’t suitable and now, bingo? It’s been queried whether he’s controlling. Heaven forbid a spouse should give an opinion.

Looks fine to me (and I am not only someone who has been to rather too many funerals with a personal connection, but also a funeral celebrant). The only time it would be possibly inappropriate would be if the bereaved have specifically asked for eg everyone to wear blue/red/orange because it was the deceased's favourite colour - or something else specific.

I said that's lovely and totally unsuitable instead of suitable That's what I get for laughing at someone else It is totally suitable 😉

I think in an ideal world it's s bit frilly. However if you have nothing else a bit plainer I probably wouldn't go and get something else, especially if you're wearing a scarf and thick black tights etc.

Balaclava and gloves, got it. I have some pretty little leather gloves but I'm thinking I should go for my thick thermal ones, can't have anyone seeing a scrap of wrist skin, it would be scandalous!

FIL's funeral I wore a short charcoal dress with thick tights, knee boots and a pink and grey coat. It was February and 2C and no one tutted.

MIL's funeral was just after Christmas, last year. Snow and ice in the ground. I wore black jeans and a Christmas jumper under a teal coat because she bloody loved a Christmas jumper and felt there was a bit too much crowd pleasing at FIL's funeral!

Absolutely right helping

A few years ago, someone on here asked about appropriate dress at a wedding. It was shocking the amount of people who said jeans and a jumper or tracksuit were fine. And yet the OP is suggesting a black dress, to her knee, and there’s disapproval.

Do you think your DH may think it's too much because when you've worn it previously it was with bare legs and quite dressed up? If so then he may just see it as a 'going out' outfit, I know my DH wouldn't consider the fact that there's multiple ways to style the same dress

Willy i’d go with ski gloves if you can!

Oh and the funeral is on my side of the family, not DH. He's not controlling either, it's just his first funeral too and wasn't sure.

Also, I do intend to wear a coat, it's long, black and formal.

I am middle aged, middle class, church going, altar serving Catholic. It seems entirely appropriate to me.

Haha some of these comments! I would definately wear that to a funeral with tights, have no idea why anyone would think it’s unsuitable.

The only thing unsuitable here is wearing jeans with that dress...

It’s a funeral, not a fashion show; no one will be looking at you. It’s fine.

So if you’re wearing a coat then the dress will barely be even seen til the wake when it won’t matter.